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Posted by on May. 2, 2007 at 7:29 PM
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Well...where to begin. I was living with my mom temporarily while she was leaving her physically and emotionaly abusive husband. This was maybe number 5 or 6th time she left him.I stayed with her so she could have some support in this and was even helping her pay some of her bills so she wouldnt feel the need to depend on him. On top of that, I took aout a loan and put a downpayment on a new van for her. We had to get an OFP- Order For Protection/restraining order- because we didnt want to do it alone.
  He would come to the house frequently anyway and finally I called the police on him because he was yelling and screaming at me and pounding on the door and windows. My mom got mad at me for calling the police! It hurt my feelings very much because she said she was worried about him and felt bad for him??? I did not get it.
Well, after that my mom started to ignore me and not talk to me. I found out she was dropping the OFP on him. She actually kicked me out knowing that I had no where to bring my daughter, we have no other family here and most my friends do not live around here. So I left my daugher there so I could find something. It hurt more than I have ever been hurt in my life. When I came back week later, her husband was driving the van I got for her. GRRR I got my daughter ready and took the van.
I dont under stand how she can kick me out and take that bastard back. Even after I finally opened up to her about him sexualy abusing me when I was little
(among the physical abuse). I opened up right after the OFP went through. And she took him back?! I really dont get it. When I went to pick up my daughter her husband started clling me a skank, a bitch, telling me that I am a worthless piece for a mother. Telling me he read through all my diaries and sent copies out to people that I wrote about in there. My mom now wants nothing to do with me. My dad no longer me to be a part of his life. And my ex and I broke up right before all this happened.
I am totaly and utterly alone! I hate it!

Posted by on May. 2, 2007 at 7:29 PM
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san-1
by on May. 2, 2007 at 7:32 PM
Adding some more venting. This all happened yesterday, tuesday.
amypoe
by Group Owner on May. 3, 2007 at 2:09 PM
i am so sorry for this but it may be for the better but she will open her eyes someday. it is sad what we have to go through with our parents feeling like we are the parents and they are the kids
san-1
by on May. 3, 2007 at 2:14 PM

Quoting amypoe:

i am so sorry for this but it may be for the better but she will open her eyes someday. it is sad what we have to go through with our parents feeling like we are the parents and they are the kids
That is exactly right. I dont want Natalie to go through that with me at all.
elilillyjames3
by on Aug. 1, 2007 at 2:46 AM
Did you find a place? I hope things get better for you. Don't worry about her if she can't even worry about herself. I know she's your mother but she obviously doesn't want to change. Just get as far away from them as possible. They're only bringing you and your daughter down. (Sorry to sound so harsh, I know easier said than done but it's true)
SouthernGurl067
by New Member on Mar. 6, 2008 at 10:56 AM
I wish you the best. My prayers go out to you and your daughter. My prayer is that your Mother will see the light, She needs to wake up a smell the coffee!!!! How can ANY Mom put a MAN in front of their own children and believe their lies. I'm sorry for your pain. I can only imagine what you're going through. Don't EVER feel like you're alone, You always have the Lord, He will not leave you nor forsake you. Be there for your daughter and ALWAYS put her FIRST, She'll Love you for it. I hope this helps a little.  GOD BLESS YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!    :)))))))
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momluvsthr
by New Member on Jun. 27, 2008 at 10:12 PM
Gosh, my heart goes out to u but acoa children are surviviors! Im with u. I do thank God I never suffered sexual abuse, but emotional is very scarring also. To boot every man I have gotten involved with has either been like my dad or have had their list of D/A mental health issues. I just sent this quote to another woman: If God brought u to it- he WILL get u through it. Take care I care Kim
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