how to deal?

[angel_bree]

thur out my pregnency my mom called my unborn child a retard and that i need to prepare for a special needs child.. after my daughter was born she talks about how smart shes gonna be.. but she comes over drunk and wakes her up and eats my food.. she keeps telling me how im doing everything wrong... and all i want to tell her is that im doing alot better job then yu ever did... my sisters leave bcuz of the way she gets when shes drunk and most of the time they come here.. and my mom calls up drunk to yell at me and to yell at them... she blaims me for the way they are and they want to leave... and she tries to make me feel bad... shes all like what if it was yur daughter... and i want to tell her im not gonna be an alcoholic and im not gonna choose alcohol over her.. but im not going to bcuz if i do i would be band from my sisters... and my sisters and i are really close.. that also bothers her.. how am i suposed to deal?

[lisaann1213]

 "and i want to tell her im not gonna be an alcoholic and im not gonna choose alcohol over her.. "

Be careful what you say...in spite of your best intentions you could either become an alcoholic or marry someone who is either an alcoholic or abusive.

At least you recognise the possability is there...your best bet is to go to an Alanon or an ACA group on a regular basis.  As for the effect that it may or may not be having on your  parenting skills:  If you think you may get out of control or if you think you are in danger of abusing or neglecting your child, then you need to go to Parents Anonymous as well.

[elilillyjames3]

Maybe you can try to get custody of your sisters? I don't know how old they are but if one of them is able to take care of herself than maybe they can get emancipated and you don't have to worry about going through your mom anymore. I would see if you guys can have an intervention or something. Maybe you feel it's too late for your mom. The only way to get through to an alcoholic, drug addict, whatever, is for them to have something done to them that will open their eyes that this is not a healthy life style. Maybe taking her children and grandchild away will do the trick. Maybe she won't get the hint. Whatever the case, it sounds like your sisters need to get away from her as soon as possible. You don't want your daughter to have to deal with that either.