1) No swearing is really necessary unless it is for a vent. Calling people "bitches" is pretty unacceptable. On that I think we can all agree.

2) Name calling is something our kids do, we don't need to.

If you break rule number 1 or 2 you will be warned!  If you do it again, you'll be removed from the group.

3)Threats absolutely WILL NOT be allowed!! If you make a threat you will be removed from the group! NO WARNINGS!

4)Bashing other moms is uncalled for. Just because they do things differently that is no reason to bash them. Just because you disagree does not make you right and them wrong. Bashing members will NOT be tolerated.  You will be warned and your post will be removed.

5) Absolutely no ads!!!! You will be kicked out of the group - no warnings, as well as your post deleted. We consider ANY POST to be selling something an ad. This include personal posts! A link to your business is an ad! Online party posts are ads!

At this time we do not classify posts for other groups to be ads. You may post to tell other about your group as long as you do it reasonably. Do not be excessive, and it cannot be related to a business. For example “Join my Avon group to buy from me!” would be a no-no.

6) Please no posts started just for a debate. You may be able to debate maturely and civilly, but not everyone can. If your post if purely to debate something it is better in a hot topics or debate group. Sure any post can turn into a debate, but some are started just for that purpose. Debates will be deleted when they do get out of out control, or if they obviously will get out of control. Certain topics are obviously debates. Any OBVIOUS debate will be deleted. This includes posts about abortion. Any abortion post will be deleted immediately!

7) For "forwards" such as gas outs, urban legends, poems, etc. please do two things. 1) check http://www.snopes.comto prove it's valid, and 2)make sure it isn't posted already.  If it's already posted there is no need to post the same exact thing again.

8) If you have a problem, with anything, a member, a post, a general question, PLEASE come to an admin first. It may be something I am unaware of, it may be something I am keeping an eye on. If you wonder why something happened, a post being deleted for example, send one of us a message. If you post a message to the group about a problem instead of coming to us the post will be deleted! If your post was deleted message one of us not the group!

9) If you are sincerely unhappy with the group, discuss it with an admin. If you feel we just truly cannot make you happy, feel free to leave. We cannot make everyone happy, and we understand some people will be happier if they do leave the group. Yeah we'd love to make everyone happy! We'd love to never have a single member who feels this group isn't suited for them, but that simply isn't possible.

10) Please remember we side with the majority. If you don't make your opinions known we simply can't help you. We are not mind readers. If you have a complaint let us know. Please don't complain if something you disagree with doesn't get deleted. If you don't let us know what you don't like, there is no chance we can fix it. It's that simple.

To file a complaint against a particular post or reply to a post look in the lower right corner of that post. There will be a link that says “Report Post” Click it an follow the directions. The admin will receive an Abuse Report with your complaints. This is the most effective way to file a report.

If you would like to report a member, or topic in general message the owner or an admin.

11) Please understand our reasons for deleting posts. We would love to just delete negative replies to a post, but to do that we then have to delete replies to that post, and the replies to those posts, and it turns into quite a bit of work, and time for us. A post can quickly get out of hand, and it takes forever to clean up the thread vs delete the whole thing. To delete an entire thread takes seconds, to delete the chain of negative replies can take hours. It's not necessarily that the whole thread was complained about, or that the topic itself was inappropriate, but when it gets out of hand sometimes we simply can't just turn it back around. Hope everyone can understand.

12) Separate replies are not allowed! Just because a post is large you do not need to make a separate post for your reply to be read. This includes threads such as "My reply to..." "In response to" etc Please keep your reply in the original thread! This also applies to "Why can't we all just get along." or "Why do we need to argue about..." Please just let the topic die!

13) Please respect the admin team and myself. We will work very very hard to make this group good, helpful, and fun for everyone. Any post bashing us will be deleted.

Some of you may think this sounds harsh, or to authoritative, but I think most of us can agree it is necessary.  This group is to support and lift each other up! NOT to bash and bring each other down!

14) Pregnancy Posts:  If you get pregnant, this is a great thing and we will all be ecstatic for you as that is all of our goals!  We ask that if you post something about your pregnancy (other than your initial BFP), a question or just an update, that you put in the title that it is "pregnancy related" so that those who choose not to read about others pregnancies will be warned before they open it. Sometimes when you are having a particularly hard day in your ttc journey you just don't want to read about the pregnancies of others and we need to respect that as a group. 

These guidelines are posted in at least 2 places and any given time, so if you are removed from the group do not use ignorance to the rules as an excuse. It is not our fault if you didn't read them and you agreed to them when you were accepted to the group if you joined after April 1, 2008.