Whatever you put your time, energy, and money into will become more important to you. It's hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says "I was thinking of you today."
Sign this post when you complete this dare and move onto the next day :)
Feel free to post your thoughts/experiences on this dare
We live in a world enamored by "self." The culture around us teaches us to focus on our appearance, feelings, and personal desires as the top priority. The goal it seems, is to chase the highest level of happiness possible. The danger from this kind of thinking becomes apparent once inside a relationship.
If there is a word that basically means the opposite of love, it is selfishness. Unfortunately it is something that is ingrained into every person from birth. You can often see it in the way adults mistreat one another. Almost every sinful act every committed can be traced back to a selfish motive. You cannot point out how many ways your spouse is selfish without admitting that you can be selfish too.
Loving couples are bent on taking care of the rother flawed human they get to share life with. One ironic aspect of selfishness is that even generous actions can be selfish if the motive is to gain bragging rights or receive a reward. The bottom line is that you either make decisions out of love for others or love for yourself. Choosing to love your mate will cause you to say "no" to what you want so you can say "yes" to what they need. That is putting the happiness of your partner above your own.
Nobody knows you as well as your mate. And that means that no one will be quicker to recognize a change when you deliberately start sacrificing your wants for his needs to make sure his needs are met.
You partner also has the challenge of loving a selfish person. Determine to be the first to demonstrate real love to them, and when it is all done you'll both be more fulfilled.
the results of day 3 were mixed for me......for my "investment" i went to the dollar store and bought a bunch of his favorite treats, a basket and a card and arranged it all to look nice and left it in his car at work.....then i also decided to be helpful by starting to paint our kitchen-however i ended up making our kitchen look like crap which wasn't too good (lets just say that when i finished i remembered what that blue tape we had bought was for.... lol) -but i also made him some chocolate chip cookies that were done like 5min before he got home last night at 10:45pm so they were nice and warm just the way he liked them so that almost made up for the crappy looking kitchen haha he wasn't too mad it made him laugh although he said now he is going to have to stay home next weekend to make it look nice again (which i really do not mind i hate when he works so much overtime!)
OK, I kinda did this yesterday, but i went ahead, and did it again! I bought him socks lol He needed some new ones, cause his NEVER match! lol So I bought him a bunch of socks and tolds him that I was thinking about him, and that he needed socks, he was really surprised! lol I'm not sure by what? But he was surprised! :) On to day 4
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This one was hard for me because my husband and I are really struggling financially. And while I knew that he would be appreciative of whatever I got him, the fact that I spent money would bother him. Instead, I just decided to do something nice for him again. It does say that things mean more when you have TIME, money, and ENERGY invested in it.
We are still trying to figure out how to make our oct. House payment that was due on the 1st so we didn't actually buy the thing we wanted to buy but we told each other what we would if we could. The fact that we realized what each other really wanted made us remember we know ecah other better than we remember.
I hear you and think that is really sweet. You are able to have "a million dollars" to spend on each other! My mother used to call that "The Special Credit Card." :)
Quoting coleyweight:We are still trying to figure out how to make our oct. House payment that was due on the 1st so we didn't actually buy the thing we wanted to buy but we told each other what we would if we could. The fact that we realized what each other really wanted made us remember we know ecah other better than we remember.
ok, i went to the dollar store and got a halloween bag. then i went to walmart and got a mini picture frame (wallet size) and a bag of his favorite candy. It was on sale because of halloween.
over the weekend i changed my hair color from brown w/ blone highlights to jet black. So yesterday morning i had my son take some pics of me w/my new hair all dressed for work. so when i got home i printed out the pic and put it in the frame.
then i put the frame w/the candy in the halloween bag. then last night i went to his car and put it in his seat. So this morning when he went to his car it was waiting for him.
but when he got to his car and opened it and saw this bag there, he thought someone had broken into the car. he didn't know what the bag was but then he opened it and was like oh. he was totally suprised and he totally loved the picture!
Ha, Ha, I bought him a coffee maker since I broke his for my Day 2 dare!
Does anyone want to join me in doing the dares?
- soccerchik8287
on Oct. 15, 2008 at 7:52 PM