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Posted by on Mar. 6, 2010 at 2:53 PM
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hi my name is april and i have a daughter named jacqueline who has pdd/nos and adhd a sleep disorder and so on...she 6 years old and fights with her brother and sisters all the time...well i get call to her school all the time and so Friday i thought it was a normal day well they call me that she was kicked out of school for fighting... i dont know what to do with her can anybody give me some advice on what i can do to help her???

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MommyJanice44
by Head Admin on Mar. 6, 2010 at 7:14 PM

Have you tried calling for a meeting , An I.E.P , so you can sit down with the teacher's staff find the reason's why this is happening and also get here the specialist she might be needing in some area's of where she is lacking due to her Pdd/nos, diagnosis ... First try talking to the teacher to get to the cause's of why she is getting into fights ... Also keep track of everything that is going on day to day with her ........... My advice is ask a lot of question ..The not knowing why could be a huge part in solving this problem ......... . Good luck . Kinda of hard to give some advice when I don't no to much about what is happening . Hopefully you will post again so A lot of the Momma's on here can help you out ......... Such a great group ......... Spill the beans momma LOL ! Just kidding . .........EVERYTHING CAN TURN AROUND the schools are required not to punish are kiddos' but to give them a free and  proper education & help that they need in order to make it around/coping w/ other Children . A lot of resources out there for you to contact . Sorry to hear she is having so much troubles .. Oh yah they can't kick a child out of school who has a disability ..... DANG IT !! Don't let them make you feel like it is due to the situation at home either . WELCOME TO THE GROUP , SO MANY GOOD WOMEN ON HERE THAT CAN HELP YOU .. GLAD YOUR HERE YOUR IN THE RIGHT PLACE .. HUGS

destiny29
by Bronze Member on Mar. 6, 2010 at 7:47 PM

     PDD-NOS... that means does great academically but can be, for lack of a better word, "quirky." Tatrums go with the territory of kids on the spectrum and there are about a million things that can set them off. Usually it is sensory or communication related. My question is does the school know about her diagnosis? If so, there should have been an IEP in place and they would have to call an IEP meeting before being able to kick her out of school. Kicking her out without an IEP is against the law- Federal law. It's called "No Child left behind" and that means  no child left behind! I would ask for an emergency IEP, if the school is aware of her diagnosis. She probably needs some time with the occupational therapist to figure out the sensory needs in her classroom- things like sitting her away from the window or the busy hallway can sometimes prevent issues. It could also be frustration over not knowing what to say to express what she's feeling and a speech therapist can help her put a label on her feelings or give her phrases to help prevent meltdowns- ex. - "Teacher, I need a quiet time" or "Teacher, I need a quick break"- things that allow her time to get ahold of herself and refocus when her frustration builds. And the school psychologist can also make some good suggestions in how to prevent meltdowns or help the teacher understand where your child is coming from. You need an IEP with a behavior plan and it needs to be specific and it needs to be how YOU as the parent want them to handle the situation.

    If, however, the diagnosis was not dicussed with the school, now would be the time to bring that to light. If they do not know she has these issues, it is not fair to expect them to know how to cope with it. Kids with PDD-NOS are often times "Barely detectable" as being on the autism spectrum because they are so extremely high functioning. Often times parents of these kids get accused of "bad parenting" or "lack of discipline" because the disability isn't blatantly obvious like some of the other kids on the spectrum. Most of the time, it probably isn't even necessary to mention it to other people, but at school you kind of have to because it does effect their learning styles and how they recieve information.

      I would also take a trip to the doctor to rule out any medical concerns. Even NT kids have a hard time explaining if they aren't feeling well. It could be she needs a diet change, that she's having headaches, that she's constipated, that she feels disoriented= any of these things will set off tantrums as well. So you want to go to the doctor and rule out that too. And, a visit with a psychiatrist that is expereinced with autism might give you some ideas as well.

So here's the homework;

1.) call and get an appointment with the doctor to rule out illness or medical issues. Request referals to an occupational therapist, a speech therapist, and if your insurance will cover it a behavior therapist.

2.) Call for an emergency IEP if the school knows about the diagnosis and if not, call the head of special education and be prepared to share the diagnosis. No diagnosis- the school district has to do an evaluation for free.

3.) Get ahold of the local autism society, join and attend meetings but also get to know their school advocate because you'll need him or her often over the next few years.

    I hope this helps or at least gets you started! Hang in there mom, it's quite a ride but it's quite worth it too! Hugs!

MamaRita
by Group Owner on Mar. 7, 2010 at 10:45 AM

Good Advice Sister's, and April Welcome to this wonderful Support Group!!

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