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Do autistic kids smile and laugh?

Posted by on Dec. 16, 2010 at 3:27 PM
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Hello.  I have a 2 yr old son recently identified as having speech delay and fine motor skills delay.  We are working with ECI (Early Childhood Intervention).  However, ECI doesn't provide a diagnosis and we will most likely have to take him to a specialist for that.  I am concerned autism may be the cause of his delays, but my DH and his family say no b/c my son smiles and laughs. They are under the impression that autistic children don't smile, laugh, or show affection (my son is affectionate).  Is this correct?  Or do some autistic children smile, laugh, hug, etc?? 

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minivanmom302
by Member on Dec. 16, 2010 at 3:31 PM

My 6 yr old son is Autistic and he smiles, laughs, and is very affectionate to his dad and i, along with both sets of grandparents. Other family that he doesn't see a lot of, he's shy at first but eventually warms right up. What a lot of people don't understand, who aren't familiar with ASD, is that is IS a spectrum, which is why its rare to find asd kiddos who have all the same symptoms. I've seen some who aren't social or affectionate at all, and others like my son who will happily pass out hugs and kisses to us. Its just all a matter of what end of the spectrum they are on.

Eva1973
by on Dec. 16, 2010 at 3:34 PM

Wow.  Thank you that is very informative.  

Quoting minivanmom302:

My 6 yr old son is Autistic and he smiles, laughs, and is very affectionate to his dad and i, along with both sets of grandparents. Other family that he doesn't see a lot of, he's shy at first but eventually warms right up. What a lot of people don't understand, who aren't familiar with ASD, is that is IS a spectrum, which is why its rare to find asd kiddos who have all the same symptoms. I've seen some who aren't social or affectionate at all, and others like my son who will happily pass out hugs and kisses to us. Its just all a matter of what end of the spectrum they are on.


twins0506
by Member on Dec. 16, 2010 at 3:42 PM

my boys are the mushiest happiest boys ever.  they love hugs and kisses and laugh and smile all the time. but like the pp said that is when they are around familiar people. if they are around strangers they get shy. if you have any doubt it does not hurt to get them evaluated. go with your gut. good luck!

melissarose72
by on Dec. 16, 2010 at 3:45 PM

My son was dx with PDD NOS (a form of autism). He's almost 4. He is basically non-verbal (now trying to say words, but unable to form sounds correctly). He smiles, he laughs, he gives us hugs & kisses. His smile & his laugh are 2 of my favorite things! He had seperation anxiety pretty bad for a long time. It's better now, most of the time. My dh was overseas for a year (our baby was 5 mo to 17 mos old). It took a long time for him to bond again with his Daddy, but it did happen.

It does take him a while to warm up to new people. So when Grandma visits every 6 months, it takes him varying amounts of time to warm up to her (each visit). Certain people he doesn't seem to bond with (just like any person). Some times we do ask....can I have a hug? And he willingly gives it. Not always with his arms around us, but in standing close to us so we can hug him or pick him up.

iser1965
by Member on Dec. 16, 2010 at 3:50 PM


Quoting Eva1973:

Hello.  I have a 2 yr old son recently identified as having speech delay and fine motor skills delay.  We are working with ECI (Early Childhood Intervention).  However, ECI doesn't provide a diagnosis and we will most likely have to take him to a specialist for that.  I am concerned autism may be the cause of his delays, but my DH and his family say no b/c my son smiles and laughs. They are under the impression that autistic children don't smile, laugh, or show affection (my son is affectionate).  Is this correct?  Or do some autistic children smile, laugh, hug, etc?? 

I am so sorry that you DH and his family are so uneducated about autism. I have been an Autisim Mentor for over 24 years and kids with autism certainly do laugh and smile. They do thing just like everyone else does if intervention is done early. Have you ever heard of Temple Grandin?Sge was born with severe Autism. She beat all of the odds wihen the diagnosis and treatment  was in it's infancy. Show your DH this video  an then ask him what he thinks. Oh, BTW ,DR.Grandin has her Phd. in vetrinary  science . Look her up on YouTube...it will open his eyes and heart

Eva1973
by on Dec. 16, 2010 at 3:59 PM

There's no reason to be snippy.  I'm on here asking for information.  You don't have to insult my husband and his family.  Many people don't know about autism; it's not b/c they need to have their "heart opened."  We just all need to become more educated.  The best way to teach is through kindness, not insulting people.  

Quoting iser1965:


Quoting Eva1973:

Hello.  I have a 2 yr old son recently identified as having speech delay and fine motor skills delay.  We are working with ECI (Early Childhood Intervention).  However, ECI doesn't provide a diagnosis and we will most likely have to take him to a specialist for that.  I am concerned autism may be the cause of his delays, but my DH and his family say no b/c my son smiles and laughs. They are under the impression that autistic children don't smile, laugh, or show affection (my son is affectionate).  Is this correct?  Or do some autistic children smile, laugh, hug, etc?? 

I am so sorry that you DH and his family are so uneducated about autism. I have been an Autisim Mentor for over 24 years and kids with autism certainly do laugh and smile. They do thing just like everyone else does if intervention is done early. Have you ever heard of Temple Grandin?Sge was born with severe Autism. She beat all of the odds wihen the diagnosis and treatment  was in it's infancy. Show your DH this video  an then ask him what he thinks. Oh, BTW ,DR.Grandin has her Phd. in vetrinary  science . Look her up on YouTube...it will open his eyes and heart


ltucutie
by New Member on Dec. 16, 2010 at 4:01 PM

My son is 4 years old and has PDD-NOS.  He smiles all the time.  His laugh is so infectious it is amazing.  However, he cannot stand to be away from me.  He is talking more and more everyday and he now sits at the door and cries when I leave for work.  I work nights and when I am at work, my son has to sleep with my husband because otherwise he screams and cries and has nightmares.  My son is very affectionate to family members.  However, he will shut down around strangers.  He has no conversational skills, even with me and my husband.  If we ask him how he is doing, he tells us "Good", but there is no elaboration from that.  You should get him evaluated by a specialist so that you can make sure that you get all of the resources that are available for him.  Good luck and feel free to come here and ask all the questions that you have.  The more information you have the better advocate you can be for your son.

Lindsay Rossi
Mother to a wonderful 4 year old boy and a little angel that spent 4 1/2 beautiful months with us here on earth before joining God.angel mini

MamaRita
by Group Owner on Dec. 16, 2010 at 5:26 PM

Lane just turned 12, still not main-streamed in school, but smiles & laughs a lot, he is very lovable & will laugh out loud just because. He is diagnosed with Autism. His true diagnosis by Dr Stephanie Cave is Vaccine induced Autism, he was totally typical until 20/mos after receiving 6 shots in one day. If you look at the Picture below, you will see how much he smiles. Good Luck Mama.

trippyhippy
by Member on Dec. 16, 2010 at 5:42 PM

Mine laughs, smiles, cuddles, kisses and is as silly as they come and he is moderate to severe.

Tawneekitn
by New Member on Dec. 16, 2010 at 6:26 PM
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ASD  is a wide spectrum.   My son has ASD and he had speech delays and fine and gross motor skill delays.  He has always been a smiley kid, who laughs and is affectionate.  In fact, my son is too affectionate-he is willing to hug just about anybody and will also talk to anyone.  Some kids with ASD do not speak or interact with others at all, and others with ASD are so close to "normal" you can barely tell there is anything wrong with them. 

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