New and needing a little advice

[trinity0mamma]

Hi there everyone i am needing a little bit of advice

bit of a back story: I was 15 when i had my son threw rape and i ended up giving him over to my mom cause i could not handle it at that age. Now i am working on transistioning him back home and things are going well

There is just a few things i am concerned about and not sure how to counter messure them

He is 5 almost going on 6 years old and he has a temper and is always talking about bad men( not sure what its about)

He has a thing with touching himself inaproperatly or asking other children or other adults (very concerning)

he is also getting picked on like crazy at school cause he has picked up bad habbits

like if he has friends they have to make what ever toy it is his way or there doing it wrong and he just refuses to share

Now my son is diagnosed as slight autistic

How do i help him it tears me up in side not knowing what to do

[nicksmom217]

   i would start with a good therapist, because if he is doing inappropriate things and talking about bad man, sounds like a red flag to me. there has to be a reason why he is doing this. i am very sorry, about what happened to you in the past. it concerns me,  what your son is saying and doing, it has to come from some where. get on top of it fast, then you can deal with autism. i wish you and your son very best, i hope you will find answers soon. i am laura, my son is 13, he has HFA.

[dawncs]

Welcome to the group! Have you tried getting him social skills training for him? The therapy will work on his weak skills when it comes to handling other people and conversations. You might also want to get a behavior modification expert to observe him for a while. Both of these things can be accomplished through his school. All you need to do is ask for it in writing. You should also ask for in writing an evaluation for Special Education services. If through the school, you can receive these services for free.

[nikkic30]

I also say take him to a good Child therapist and have him go to social groups. My son is in social group for his age range and it has help a lot. You may want to look into way he is talking about bad men and touching himself. Those are huge red flags. You may also sit down with him and ask him who are the bad men. See what he says.

[BeccaGK]

Hi! My son is 5 (6 in April) and we are in the proccess of getting him dxed with aspergers. The fact that your son is talking about bad men and asking adults and kids to touch him is very worrying. I would definetely get to the bottom of that. It sounds like something happened to him and he doesn't know how to process it or how to tell you. I would definetely try to talk to your son and see if he will tell you where that behavior comes from. Also, see if he can see a councelor or therapist that might be able to talk to him. Good luck!

[drewsmom12]

Wow, sorry you have to go through all of this. But I don't believe that he inappropriate behavior has anything to do with aspergers. Def. get to the bottom of this by talking to your son & seeing a therapist. Good luck

[crossnlilly]

I hate to say it but im sure you have already thought about this. It sounds like some one probably a man has touched your son or done something to him. I would definately talk to a counsoler. You can even ask to speak with a school counselor. I would ask the school for an iep so you guys can evaluate his symptoms for autism. Some of his behaviors sound like that of abuse evenhim getting angry with toys. Children in an abused situation sometimes do things like this to make them feel like they have controll. Im not saying anything bad about you so i hope you dont take it that way. I just know if it was me i would want someone to tell it like it is. I give you props for stepping up anf helping your son. You seem like a very strong woman and he is lucky to have you. We r all here for you. Many hugs and prayers coming your way. Hang in there.

[Apple1]

 

So sorry your family has had to go through something like this...I agree with the other mom's, he needs to see a councler to talk out his feelings.  Big hugs to you momma, you sound like a strong mom :)  We are here for you!!  Keep your chin up.  ((((HUGS))))