Hi, My son is turning 3 this month & hes been getting speech therapy, otc therapy & going to school for the past 6 months now. He has shown improvement since starting. He is now saying more words, repeating more too. However he still does not "communicate " with language, instead he pulls us towards things he wants. He does sign "more". But thats the only sign hes got down so far. Im just wondering when will he start to talk more & communicate with the language. I know every child is different & develops at thier own rate but I just cant wait for him to be able to talk with me, communicate with language. Especially when hes sick or somethings bothering him, thats the worst because I feel so bad & helpless that I dont know whats wrong with him & cannot help him. So if anyone has anything to share with me, I would love to hear your experiences. Thankyou.
Hello and welcome to you , I no exactly what your feeling inside my son although didn't say a word until the age of 7 he started by saying nana and ma ma .... It will come in time if your little one is already saying words it just takes them longer to grow there verbal skills. Some of are Children are non-verbal there whole life's as with my Kyle he can't tell me if he is hurting or if he has a headache toothache , the only way I no what is wrong is when he starts acting out or getting really angry then it's ON IN TRYING TO figure out what it is that is really bothering him .. Never ever give up hope he will i promise ya your little one will contiune to talk more !! BIG HUGS TO YOU ..
Diets help a lot with are kiddo's if there tummy's or if something inside is bothering them that can have a lot to do with it also ... Here is some idea's on supplements you might want to try .. I no with my Kyle when he is feeling good he is more in tune with his speech .. or when we started him on the mps-gold 100 powder it is a pro-botic for him stomach he began to calm down and began talking more and more , the gfcf diet is awesome for are kiddo's too .................. Hard for me with my son on this type of diet due to he will only eat a hand full of different types of foods so i have to give him supplements instead ... I no a lot of us mom's have that same issue too with them not eating a whole lot of variety of foods .. Your little one too mama will soon start to say words just keep the positive thoughts and praise & or praise no that it does just takes a itty bit longer for some are kiddo's to heal ....... GOOD LUCK 
My daughter is 3 1/2, so I'm right there with you (tears and all!)
One of the hardest aspects of being a "spectrum mom" is those wonderful, often-rare moments when you see their little personalities break through that social-language barrier and it feels like you are actually getting to KNOW your own child. Sometimes those moments don't last very long, and they NEVER lasts long enough. Then you think to yourself "THIS is the real child hiding behind autism, THIS is who I'm fighting to heal." It's really quite a daunting responsibility! Overwhelming in a way that somehow gives us hope. Anyway...
In reference to your concern, I agree with MommyJanice44 about the GFCF diet and about addressing his Autism Spectrum Disorders with a personalized supplementation program. Since her answer was comprehensive and well organized, I will simply add that each child is unique, so you'll need to solve the "mystery" of your son's own unique form of autism by doing your own "mommy research." (Dr. Kenneth Bock's book about the 4-A Childhood Epidemics provides a great map for this journey). Then talk to your doctors about what YOU think could help your child. Doctors are amazing individuals...however, in my experience, they are the most useful when someone else does the "grunt" work for them ;)
This healing process, of course, happens over time, with a lot of trial and error. So in the meantime, since constant depression isn't exactly practical (though sometimes unavoidable and even appealing!!), try communicating with your child in OTHER ways. A lot of children on the spectrum respond very well to person-to-person sensory input. Sometimes a hug goes a long way (and other times it induces a tantrum! Ha! Go figure...)
Your son loves you very much, and he wishes he could express it! Remember, he is hurting, but cannot express this pain because it is hidden behind layers of autism. Allow yourself to bond with him in ways other than language, and in turn he will let you inside, little by little, because he will sense your love for him instead of just your expectations of him. I say this not to sound condescending or presumptuous, but because I have learned these things by making my own mistakes.
Speech doesn't happen overnight, so don't allow the language barrier to stop you from bonding with your baby RIGHT NOW. Sometimes I think we "spectrum moms" (myself especially!) focus too much on the behavioral aspect (the symptoms), instead of addressing the much more important biomedical aspect (the cause). One mistake I made was pushing the speech issue so hard that I myself was doing full-blown speech therapy with my daughter for awhile. Now, this may work for some moms, but backfired for me...
My daughter actually began to feel very despondent because she feared that Mommy approved ONLY of language as an acceptable form of communication, instead of realizing that Mommy just wanted--more than anything--to improve her daughter's quality of life and eventually get to know her! Remember, the speech won't happen overnight, even with the best therapies and biomedical treatments you can find. But don't allow this language barrier to prevent you from bonding with your child in the present.
Sometimes I find it unfair. We "spectrum moms" have to work ten times harder than "neurotypical moms" at understanding our own children. You may not believe this--heck, sometimes I don't believe it either--but your son already sees your hard work. Sooner or later, he'll respond to you--just don't expect it to be in language form. At least not yet :)
Sympathetic hugs to a likeminded mother, Chelsea :)
Jessu:
My son has been getting speech therapy since he was 18 months old and didn't really start putting sentences together until he was around three (and these were "caveman" sentences like "Pierce want cookie" or he would reverse his pronouns and ask "do you want cookie?" when he meant that he wanted a cookie. He's six years old now and much, much more fluent. Preschool and Kindergarten and just getting older and maturing have made a dramatic difference. Your son will get there! Right now if the signs are working for him I would concentrate on that in parallel. You might also try a picture board--that we he can get through about his needs even if it's not through spoken language. I think there are also some iphone apps that help with communication for kids that aren't that verbal yet.
Any advice on giving my son on the spectrum medicine.... he has strep throat
- Jessu
on May. 8, 2012 at 7:54 PM