**Tantrum** But YOU'RE suppose to clean my pooh!
"But YOU'RE suppose to clean my pooh!" My 4 year old screams as I encourage him to clean up after himself. Yes, it is potty training once again. He doesn't want to see it or touch it, but he won't go to the potty. He'll pee when he wants a candy reward. Or soil himself when sitting on the couch watching a movie, sitting or standing at the computer. It's so unsanitary. And it is frustrating because his 2 yr old brother is almost potty trained. But poop is the issue with both of them.
He expressed to me that he is frustrated and puzzeled that the pee and pooh just keep coming out all day long.
I get tantrums when I remind and encourage him to GO before an accident occurs. And double tantrums if he has already had an accident and I give the reminder.
He has voluntarily gotten on the potty and pooped before. But why the back slide?
I've taken the tactic: Your make the mess, you clean the mess. So I have him swishing his underwear in the toilet like the good old days cleaning the poop off as I scrub his butt clean. He can't stand looking at the poopie water or touching it or getting it on his fingers as he tries to wipe his own but. I'm hoping he gets the message that it is better to void one's bladder and bowels in the toilet than in our underwear.
Sometimes he insistes on wiping his own but. (Miracle) I then wipe what he missed. Is this sabotaging my potty training efforts?
So somehow my son's world view includes, "Mom takes care of potty issues for me" I suspect he is on the Autisim spectrum for other issues I haven't mentioned. I"ve read that it can take up to 7 years or more for autistic children to potty train.