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Posted by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 10:38 AM
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hi there,

I have a teenage son and a seven year old son with what I believe is Asperger's Syndrome.  I recently had a talk with my seven year old's teacher and she was very dismissive of my concerns and said "he is just an anxious child".  Lately he has been unwell for an extended period of time and missed a lot of school, and now he is refusing to go to school some days, crying and displaying extreme anxiety about school.  Also his sleep is very disrupted and he is having night terrors and disturbed vision.  It is really wearing me down and I just need to talk to someone about it.  My husband works away from home on shift work so it is mostly just me dealing with this and trying to help our son feel more safe and secure.  It is so hard and so very heartbreaking to see him so anxious and so upset.

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Apple1
by Head Admin on Jul. 22, 2012 at 2:41 PM
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Big hugs to you....have you asked your son why he feels the way he does (anxious) about school?  It sounds like his anxiety is really high, especially with his night terriors.  Has anything changed recently at school?  A new routine, new subject?  Has he always been as anxious as he is now?  If he feels comfortable and secure at home, It may be best to keep him at home until things subside and get better!   It could be even another student that is bothering him at the school.... Somethings you can do to help calm him are epsom salt baths before bedtime, may help him to sleep better.  Also, wondering if you have ever tried the GFCF diet, or natural supplements to hep him with his anxiety issues.  Sending hugs to you and I hope he feels better soon!!

Eve-marie
by on Jul. 22, 2012 at 4:40 PM
Talk to the child about his problem, why is he anxious, what does he dream about. Couple months ago my 9 yr old dreamed I went to jail and he didn't want to go to school for 3 days. He wouldn't let me out of his sight either. I had to tell him he could call me at lunchtime from the office before he would go. Also speak to a child psychologist or a psychiatrist. Some kids have anxiety disorders or mood disorders. He may also be influenced by your own moods, whether despair at being a single mom or whatever. Talk to the kid, get professional help. Good luck.
greekmumma
by New Member on Jul. 23, 2012 at 9:49 AM

thanks for your suggestions it just really helps to share these worries.  Over the last few days we have had a good block of time with Daddy home from work and spending lots of one on one time with our 7 year old boy and also I have been talking about his timetable and we have discussed homeschool combined with regular school and are giving it a try.  He will only start with one day of homeschool per week and he already seems a lot more settled because of this decision.  I am being very careful to stick to promises and keep routines exactly the same each day as this helps with security.  Also I did ask him what worries him and it is the swapping and changing from his classroom to another infant teacher for writing specialist classes.  He tells me "this is a bad day mummy".  So I have talked to that particular teacher and she is working on positive re-inforcement and asking him to pick a game that the whole class plays when they finish their work.  It made a big difference!  I have also found that a magnesium supplement works well (is is a common characteristic for anxious kids to be deficient in magnesium?) and plenty of cuddles.  He has still been waking up heaps at night (scared of the dark and nightmares of him being separated from me) and I am working on that now as well.....thanks again for being a supportive voice.

Apple1
by Head Admin on Jul. 23, 2012 at 12:24 PM
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Magnesium is something our children are usually lacking in and can help with anxiety...(helping to calm them) it can be taken orally (although, you want to make sure not to give to much as it can loosen stools and cause an upset tummy...when I used to give it to my son, I would give it to him after eating and mixed in with some juice, currently we are doing the epsom salt baths or the epsom salt bath cream (found at kirkman labs) which has helped as well....Glad things are goiing better!  ((HUGS))

greekmumma
by New Member on Jul. 23, 2012 at 8:22 PM

Actually that makes sense re the magnesium because our son gets constipated a lot...(sometimes for a week) and that would indicate that he has a lack in magnesium.  Do you use a powder supplement?  I will try it in his juice of a morning and see how we go.  Is it safe to give them some every day?  I am pretty sure he won't get an upset tummy as he usually only goes for number twos every other day.....it would be good if he could be more regular!

Apple1
by Head Admin on Jul. 23, 2012 at 10:12 PM
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I used to give him a supplement powder, one commonly used is magnesium citrate.  Works well mixed in juice and or water.  You can give him a little every day and see how it goes

xavier929
by on Aug. 2, 2012 at 10:22 PM

i would make sure the school is aware of the situation. If she reacted that way i would talk with the nure or principal. Get a hold of his pedi and explain what is happening maybe they can help set something up for him. good luck

MommyJanice44
by Head Admin on Aug. 11, 2012 at 11:47 AM

Something might have happened at School is what my first thought is good luck mama ......... I would go down to the School and sit for a day or two and see if there is anything different going on or if you sense anything that might be what is triggering your son to be so afraid there is always a reason behind the WHY he doesn't want to go ......... Bless his heart & yours hugssssssssss

MommyJanice44
by Head Admin on Aug. 11, 2012 at 5:55 PM
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Quoting greekmumma:

Actually that makes sense re the magnesium because our son gets constipated a lot...(sometimes for a week) and that would indicate that he has a lack in magnesium.  Do you use a powder supplement?  I will try it in his juice of a morning and see how we go.  Is it safe to give them some every day?  I am pretty sure he won't get an upset tummy as he usually only goes for number twos every other day.....it would be good if he could be more regular!

 With there Stomachs a probiotics is always a must for so many of are Kiddos' , Apple has a lot of knowledge in that area to help them to feel better inside .. I give my Kyle MPS-GOLD 100 Powder just put a little scoop in his juice you will see a huge change in your child ........... Kyle was non verbal until the age of 7 so with the mama on here who is worried about your child always follow your gut instincts on what your feeling is going on .. Best of luck ........

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