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What if words don't work?

Posted by on Oct. 27, 2012 at 11:20 AM
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We have a 3 1/2 year old with severe autism and we have tried some advice we found on here for when he hurts you. We have tried saying ow and making a show of it to make it seem like he hurt us near dying even but he either freaks out and thinks we're punishing him or loves the act so he keeps hitting us. He doesn't get that ow means please stop, that hurts. He is as nonverbal as you can get I think. It used to feel like he was practicing words by making sounds and talking to himself or sometimes a sound after we make a sound but now it's all screams all day, happy or otherwise.
We are actually starting to feel like were in prison because of him. We can't decorate, we can't have electronics near him (he wants to break them) , we have everything in the house gated but he doesn't care about the gates anymore and just goes where he doesn't belong and gives us less room to put say dangerous items (house repair tools). Boy I guess I went a little off topic. Autism is driving us nuts. I wouldn't wish it for anyone to have to go through this.
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by Head Admin on Oct. 28, 2012 at 11:56 PM
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Hugs to you...have you tried the Gluten free, diary free diet for your son?  This can help in a lot of ways, these proteins can be hard to digest and cause behavioral problems.  Also, epsom salt baths can help with relax so that maybe the hitting will become less.  I really think a lot of his aggression and hitting, screaming is due to some discomfort, him trying to tell you possibly that he is hurting...the espom salt baths are also great with sensory issues!  I hope this helps...I really think the gluten free, dairy free diet can help!!  ((HUGS))

by New Member on Oct. 29, 2012 at 9:40 AM

I can  but agree. Sometimes it's so hellish you feel like scream. But then life won't be this bad forever.If at all it won't get any worse! Keep cool and hope for the best. They invariably get better and life has so much to offer us besides the autism...LOL!

by Member on Oct. 29, 2012 at 12:37 PM

X100 to Apple1's suggestions.

Is he receiving services?  They should be able to come up with a behavior plan for you. There is no reason for you to be alone in this, for the school or state usually provides the specialists that work with not only developmental goals, but social and behavioral.

Each child is different, so a therapist who is already seeing your son should be better equipped to design a behavior program for you and your husband.

You are not nuts, but the stress of autism is real and it definitely takes its toll on you.

Take good care of yourself and do the things that feed your spirit and renew you.
Continue to connect with loving friends and family, even if it is by phone, to get a dose of the love and care that you so deserve and need so as to not become depleted.  You have to be filled up because the care of your son will naturally deplete your resources.

My prayers go out to you, tired mamma.

by Group Admin on Oct. 29, 2012 at 5:25 PM
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Augmenttove communication device, PECS, sign language. There's so much more than "words" to communicate. Focus on communication rather than speech! We did and now my son is verbal. He had a device and we did some signs and PECS

 I'm Jess...wife to Jared of 11 years...Mama of 4. 3ofmyown+1ofhis=4kids:   Amanda (sd) 12, Amethyst  9 (Pdd-Nos), Isaac 8 (Autism and Epilepsy) & Elijah 5.. I proudly breastfed Elijah until his 4th birthday when he completely self-weaned.  I support Nursing In Public and am anti-vaccines.

by on Nov. 11, 2012 at 12:17 AM

How are things going now? I know this can be difficult. My son is now 8 years old. He was the same as you describe your son at 3 1/2. I know how frustrating and discouraging this can feel like. Please know you are not alone. I think the advice this group has given you is good. PECS, sign language, a device, etc... just try to stay consistent as much as you can. Follow through with your family rules.

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