Ok, I have a husband with aspergers and a 13yo with aspergers and a 5yo and 3yo with autism. Plus my 2 year old has been diagnosed with autism as well. I am having a problem accepting her diagnosis. Especially since she has had 2 really good days. It seems I notice her talking more. Some echolalia but not all. Ususally she has kind of a crabby look to her but she has been smiling more, she makes good eye contact, has joint attention. She does tend to gravitate to thing like spoons to play with and can do that or play with socks taking them in and out of the basket over and over. Today she was at McDonalds and she went up to a complete stranger and handed them her shoes because she wanted them on. She didn't play with any of the kids. Kind of did her own thing but she did play with her brother. However, she didn't get upset when he left her. Just kept doing her thing. She played peek a boo for the first time where she actually covered her face and said peek a boo. Am I just in denial? Is the stranger thing considered a red flag or considered a good thing or was she more using her as a tool? These were great days for her.