I think my best friends husband is cheating on her. What do I say?(added more info)

[AndrewsMommy01]

I am pretty sure my best friends husband is cheating in her. I do not have any "proof" but ALL the signs are there. Not coming home after work, staying out until 2am or later, pissed off about everything with NO reason being a real frickin ass hole to everyone. Also let me add that my husband and I noticed how he was acting around this female that he works with (who by the way is a huge slut) and the way she acts around him and the looks they give each other. I don't want to be like I think he is acting this way because he is cheating on you. Like I said I have no proof but I am pretty sure something is going on and if they have not had sex they are going to soon. He is acting the same way my ex did and then I found out he was cheating on me. I just don't know what to say to her. She asked if I thought that was the case but I said I don't think so. But what am I suppose to do? She is my best friend but I don't want to be like he's cheating leave his ass or whatever. I don't want to do anything to affect our friendship. It just makes me so angry to see this going on and I can't say or do anything. ARGHHHHH!!!!!

***She has tried everything to make him happy. She has been having more sex with him giving him blow jobs and even bought him a new boat and yet he still acts like an ass hole. And for thos who are wondering we are best friends and we tell each other EVERYTHING. Plus we live right next door to each other in townhomes sharing a porch so even if she did not tell me I would still know quite a bit about whats going on.***

[vallchick]

This is tough. Most of the time I say stay out of it bacause the friend often looks like the 'ass hole". But, she asked you. IMO you should have said you had your suspicion just like she did when she asked.  Does she talk about it often? If so, you can confess your thoughts and tell her you were afraid to hurt her thus you lied last time.  

[EireLass]

If you tell her, your friendship will tank. They always kill the messenger. Maybe approach him and tell him you'll give him 1 week to tell her, or you will. Or you could do the adult thing and stay in your own business. Most people are aware their partner is cheating, they just choose to deny it.

[AndrewsMommy01]

That's what I am scared of. But it just makes me so angry to see him doing this to her for no damn reason. I am going to just keep it to myself and hope that I am wrong unless I get some sort of proof other wise.

Quoting EireLass:

If you tell her, your friendship will tank. They always kill the messenger. Maybe approach him and tell him you'll give him 1 week to tell her, or you will. Or you could do the adult thing and stay in your own business. Most people are aware their partner is cheating, they just choose to deny it.

[vallchick]

She asked her so she has the suspicion.

Quoting EireLass:

If you tell her, your friendship will tank. They always kill the messenger. Maybe approach him and tell him you'll give him 1 week to tell her, or you will. Or you could do the adult thing and stay in your own business. Most people are aware their partner is cheating, they just choose to deny it.

[EireLass]

I know, that's what I meant. She's in the marriage, she's closest to the situation. She's obviously suspicious, and the edit to the post really points out her suspicion.  

Quoting vallchick:

She asked her so she has the suspicion.

Quoting EireLass:

 

 

[AudlyLuvly]

It's a very difficult situation.  She obviously suspects, and might even really KNOW, (because she does know more about it and such, being IN the marriage).  She may try to ignore it, or might be looking for the encouragement and support to actually confront, or leave him.. KWIM?  has she confronted him?

[vallchick]

Good question....

Quoting AudlyLuvly:

It's a very difficult situation.  She obviously suspects, and might even really KNOW, (because she does know more about it and such, being IN the marriage).  She may try to ignore it, or might be looking for the encouragement and support to actually confront, or leave him.. KWIM?  has she confronted him?