For the last 6 years i was in an emotional abusive marriage. He controlled me anyway he could.. by limiting money having friends, trying to cut my family out of my life. Cheated on me all the time ignore me when he'd get off work and act like he didnt have to be a a father. Put me down and humiliate me infront of any one he could.. Go out at some nights and leave at 7;30 pm and return home at 5am hungover and id be watching the kids all day just so he could sleep it off all day.. Well ive been a stay at home mom since 2010 when i got laid off from my job after i gave birth to my son... then in 2011 i became pregnant with my youngest daughter.. at 4 months i decided to go back to school and change my life i needed something to fall back on if i ever had to leave him..
Well during the day id take care of my son and go to school at night through the rest of my pregnancy gave birth to my daughter in dec 2011 and shortly after graduated with honors.. but through out school he accused me of cheating with someone in my class... made me late several times to class knowing what time i had to be there.. i had to rely on his mother who also live d with us (another nightmare in itself). to grab the kids so i could make it on time.. since graduation ive been stay at home mom again cuz he would fight with me about if i ever found a job i was just gonna leave him.. being accused of cheating.. anything you can think of.
i tried counceling with him but he cancelled the sessions last minute... and we went to one session with a christian councelor and that didnt work.. Well i developed a habit of texting alot on my phone because he was just so rude to me, ignore me and shrug me off like nothing so at night when my kids were in bed id text friends and family vent about my situation.. and i get yelled at constant... i hadnt even barely had sex with him since before i got pg with my youngest and up to now none i couldnt stand him found out that cheating was going on well i warned him one day u will push me so far away to the point of no return ur gonna cheat on me for the last time...
well 3 months ago i met some one and my husband had no idea until recently when i told him i was leaving him for the other guy i was tired of being neglected. accused, pushed around, put down.. well for the last 6 years ive been afraid to leave cuz he threatened if i ever left him he would take my kids and hed prevent me from leaving.. well a week ago i left him and packed my kids things and my things and went to my sisters.. he then went to court and filed for a emergency hearing and lied and said i was unfit and bipolar and my kids were in serious danger and they werent.. well he got full temp custody of my kids and controls how i see them im destroyed i cant function, i hear a baby cry and i start crying.. court is set for oct 24 and im trying to get full custody back because i was the sole care provider 24/7 i cant live without my children he never once helped me when i was the same home but yet he can just come rip them away to keep controlling me.. and his mom that lives with him is taking my motherly role.. im so torn up If anyones been thro this please give some advise id greatly appreciate it.