Please make dua for me pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

[practicingislam]

asalamu alaikum sisters please make du'a for me i moved to a 99.9% non muslim area and subhan'Allah they are all sooooooooooo sweet for the few ladies i met but i feel like shaytan is trying really hard to get me to celebrate non islamic holidays, i've been asked alot of questions and of course i dont mind answering them, but im getting a sense that alot of the ladies are talking behind me and i feel so uncomfortable what i learned tonight......and now its involving my kids they feel bad that im excluding them from all the holidays not observed in islam.......i know they dont know any better and its ok, but i felt like shaytan was wanting me to just give in today, for Allah i cant i must obey Allah but dang  its so hard trying to raise myself muslim an my kids in a prodominently non muslim area......

Please make du'a for all our sisters in the same situation  because im the only wearing hijab sister in our town and there are very very very can only count on your fingers how many muslims in our town which is basically nere to none........

Alhamdulillah its Allahs decree we're here and to be honest I LOVE THE AREA ITS SO BREATHTAKINGLY BEAUTIFUL AND ALOT OF PEOPLE HAVE MORALS HERE but now since the mama of the block asked me some questions tonight i feel alot of talking is giong on from the community please pray for our protection ameen.

Jazak'Allah khairon

[ummrami]

I will pray for you and your famly my dear sister . I know the feeling . When I go home to visit (it's a small city in the south)I'm the only hijab wearing Muslim and I can bet my teeth the only Muslim in the whole town . The only mosque in town is on the air base and the others and Arabic stores are 2 hours away . People do talk and I'm sure they have made up their own stories . But know in your heart that you have lived this life for some time now . And it will get easier . I pry that your children will understand too . Yes it's harder for them but just as hard for a mama to see her children confused and hurt . In time inshAllah things will get better . For now why not invite those few women you have gotten to know to spend an hour or two with you in your home . Invite them for tea and polite conversation and during that time just kindly let them see how Muslims live in their homes with their families and keep answering those questions . I have learned that nothing stops gossip or talking behind ones back faster than telling your own story and setting the record straight .

[emptynest_43]

As salam alaikum Sister,

Sometimes  I feel totally like just giving in, (im the only muslim in my town)but I know that we are tested, and well the truth of it is.. its not fun.. when i feel frustrated or afraid, lonely or tempted.. I simply think... WOW HOW very Much Allah wants me...because he is giving me these tests,that are really hard...and I am passing these tests...it is making me a stronger woman, and stronger muslim. I kinda have to think of my situation this way..

Your post sounds like you live here in my town!. where are you? I am in Montana, and yes I sooooo totally feel your situation.  I will pray for you, and if u need a pen -pal I'm Available!

jut remember..you are loved...and you are blessed.. you are Muslim

Sabbah

[EmmAlesh]

Asalamu alaikum Sis,

Be strong.  Mash'Allah 3aleky, you are a strong sis with firm roots by now.  May Allah protect you and your family from harm and haram in your new residence.  May your children see the good in His protection.  Ameen. 

[proud2bmom3]

assalamu alaikum sister,

I am so sorry for your struggle, I used to live in a small town in Missouri, I was the only Muslimah and only hijabi. but I was a new bride, then had my first son. so I didnt' have the pressure of having children who are aware of their surroundings. and it was before 911. 

the pressure to fit in is multiplied when you have children. so I can totally understand.. but alhamdulillaah , you are a strong Muslimah. and you know what you want to do regardless of what Shaytaan whispers to you or tries to convince you of.  may be the women are not talking about you and it is just Shaytan blowing things out of proportion in your mind. but even if they were. who cares? more hasanaat for you insh'a Allah.

Eid is coming up. how about you invite some of those ladies for tea and traditional Eid goodies , so they will get to sit with you and know you for the wonderful woman you are.  if not.. then just live your life in accordance with your faith, and don't think about anyone else .

may Allah grant you strength and patience Ameen

you are in my dua

[LivingIslam]

Wa'Alaykum Salam

  Virtual hug---

Allah,swt has promised us in His glorious Qur'an that we would be tested.  Struggle is woven into the history of our deen.  Look at the journey from Mecca to Medina alhamdulellah.  Furthermore, Allah has placed Mothers a special status in Islam because we are the one's who teach our children by example and by deeds.  Our children then go out into the world and insha'Allah uphold the values of Islam in society, enriching it and continuing to share the message of the Qur'an with those they encounter.  But, it all starts with the Mother and what she teaches her children in the home.

Imagine now that by the grace of Allah, He has placed your family in a highly nonMuslim area so that you can teach them about Islam by your example insha'Allah.  Allah is giving you an incredible opportunity to be a nur for these people alhamdulellah!  Even when we don't realize it someone is being shown the light of the deen when we live by example.  This is a challenge we all face at some extent and there are times we feel alone in this world as Muslims.  But, Allah said, that this is how it would be for His followers.  I know there are times where I feel as if I am just literally pushing against a wind.  There have been times that the struggle almost seemed impossible.  But, masha'Allah, He brought me through to other other side and ALWAYS with baraka!

It's a test sister.  In the last few years Allah has really, really tested me.  And, there have been frightening times when I felt my eeman weaken.  But, then I had to look at my thoughts.  Shaitaan attacks us first in our minds.  He tries to plant thoughts and ideas that appeal to self-pitty, anger, resentment, and hopelessness.  If he can get us to listen to him then were not listening to Allah.  I had to dig my heels in and do things to counter the situation like spending more time reading the Qur'an and increasing knowledge which as we know increases eeman. 

Now I'm beginning to understand that I will be tested until I leave this dunya.  And that with every test Shaitaan is waiting there like a snake in the grass and it's my job to seek Allah out even more insha'Allah.  This life is a struggle for the believer.  Those who are sleeping have no clue until they wake up in their graves.  May Allah have mercy on us all.

Allah is always testing us:

Anas (radiallaahu anhu) reported that the Prophet (sallallaahu alaihi wasallam) said: "When Allah wills good for a servant of His, He expedites his punishment in this life; and when He wills retribution for a servant of His, He holds his sins for Him to judge him by them on the Day of Resurrection."
[Tirmithee]

Abu Hurayrah (radiallaahu 'anhu) reported that the Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wasallam) said: "Hardships continue to befall a believing man and woman's body, family, and property, until they meet Allah (swt) burdened with no sins." [ Tirmithee ]

Abu Sa'eed al-Khudree (radiallaahu anhu) reported that the Prophet (sallallaahu alaihi wasallam) said: "A muslim is not afflicted by hardship, sickness, sadness, worry, harm, or depression - even if pricked by a thorn, but Allah expiates his sins because of that. " [Bukharee and Muslim]

'Aishah (radiallaahu anhu) narrated that once some pain afflicted the Prophrt (sallallaahu alaihi wasallam) causing him to suffer and turn about in his bed. She said: "Had one of us done this, you would have blamed him." He (sallallaahu alaihi wasallam) replied: "An ailment is intensified for the righteous. whenever a believer is afflicted by a hardship, whether it is a thorn or more, a sin is taken off from him because of it, and he is elevated by one rank (in Jannah)." [ Ahmad ]

So because Allaah loves this person, He sends him trials and problems here, as a 'punishment' in this Life, so he won't be burdened with it on the Day of Qiyamah. If the person is patient for the sake of Allaah, then Insha'Allaah the above hadith apply to him.

"Indeed amazing are the affairs of a believer ! They are all for his benefit; If he is granted ease of living he is thankful; and this is best for him. And if he is afflicted with a hardship, he perseveres; and this is best or him." [ Muslim ]

May Allah bless you and fortify you with His strength and mercy.  May He bring you through and reward you for your struggle.

Sorry this was so long but I wanted to make sure I included some hadith and to let you know that your in my du'a.

 

[practicingislam]

asalamu alaikum dear awww ur so kind mash'Allah jazak'Allah khairon, actually i've had them inside my house several times for breakfast and lunch and even took one of the ladies out to lunch, but i was so surprised after all this it wasnt enough to make them comfortable......

 

Quoting ummrami:

I will pray for you and your famly my dear sister . I know the feeling . When I go home to visit (it's a small city in the south)I'm the only hijab wearing Muslim and I can bet my teeth the only Muslim in the whole town . The only mosque in town is on the air base and the others and Arabic stores are 2 hours away . People do talk and I'm sure they have made up their own stories . But know in your heart that you have lived this life for some time now . And it will get easier . I pry that your children will understand too . Yes it's harder for them but just as hard for a mama to see her children confused and hurt . In time inshAllah things will get better . For now why not invite those few women you have gotten to know to spend an hour or two with you in your home . Invite them for tea and polite conversation and during that time just kindly let them see how Muslims live in their homes with their families and keep answering those questions . I have learned that nothing stops gossip or talking behind ones back faster than telling your own story and setting the record straight .

[muhajjirah]

asalaam alaikum warahmat Allah- your in my duaa sis.

livingislam..you motivated me beyond what words can say right now even though your words werent directed towards me.

i love each of you my sisters..and may Allah love you all.

we, as an Ummah are in this together.

love,

muhajjirah

[DearbornMomof4]

I will pray for you. It could be your chance to spread knowledge of Islam?

[practicingislam]

ASALAMU ALAIKUM DEAR SISTERS I READ EACH AND EVERYONE OF YOUR POSTS MASH'ALLAH ITS VERY HELPFUL AND SUBHAN'ALLAH ALLAHS MERCY I HAVE MY SISTERS AT MY FINGERTIPS MASH'ALLAH

I FEEL LIKE IM NOT ALONE AND I FEEL THAT SISTERHOOD IS  NOT ONLY IN PERSON BUT CYBER ALSO....

EACH REPLY MEANT ALOT TO ME AND IM PURPOSLY WRITING IN CAPS SO ALL OF YOU KNOW WHAT IT MEANS TO ME <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

JAZAK'ALLAH KHAIRON

sis living islam i love the haddith u posted i have been seeking knowledge for a long time now with Allahs mercy and being reminded of his mercy and tests are a huge comfort mash'Allah....

I dont have any fear here but i feel like i am back in the time of the prophet sallahu alayhi wasalam  only they had it beyond any words harder trying to spread the message of the Quran.....

I defintely will never insh'Allah give up giving dawa after all Allah blessed me with some knowledge if i can help for the sake of Allah alhamdulillah.....

Thats what i told my hubby last night rather we stay here or move what we do will be a image on muslims for years to come if any new muslim comes they will base them what they learned from us,

one HUGE PROBLEM IS theres only one brother and sister across the street in our town and i've offered to do salat al jummah w/them and my hubby but they have yet to take us up on our offer, and what makes it really hard they are celebrating the non islamic holidays and not in anyway showing they have islam in them, astagfullah , the neighbors compare me to her why she doesnt have to wear hijab but i do, and why do they celebrate christmas and i dont.....,

why do i make it a issue to make sure my kids are not participating in the haram but its ok for any other .......alhamdulillah i wont give up for the sake of Allah i just pray Allah helps me to give dawa without anyone harming us.....

 

[proud2bmom3]

Quoting practicingislam:

 , the neighbors compare me to her why she doesnt have to wear hijab but i do, and why do they celebrate christmas and i dont.....,

why do i make it a issue to make sure my kids are not participating in the haram but its ok for any other .......alhamdulillah i wont give up for the sake of Allah i just pray Allah helps me to give dawa without anyone harming us.....

 

if they ask you that, say what I say: do all Christians go to Church? do all of them go to bible study groups? do all Christian practice with the same level of piety? or follow ALL the teachings in Christianity?

Not saying she is not a good Muslim. but I choose to follow the teachings of Hijab. while she, so far, chooses not to. ( may Allah guide her and her family, Ameen)