Am I losing my mind....?

[Rose87]

Salaam Alekom sisters

What is it with some sisters nowadays?

I am just wondering... I mean, why wear hijab and then wear a short sleeve shirt, 3/4 sleeve shirt, or a dress that comes to your knees with stockings, etc.  I mean, WHAT ARE THEY THINKING?!  I have even seen sisters with such tight jilbaabs I can see the form of their bust and behind... HELLO!? HOW IS THAT MODEST? Yea, it is modern, but Allah swt did not ask us to dress MODERN... he asked for MODEST

I know I am knew at hijab, but maybe that bring me to have a stronger pickiness with it?  I dont want to seem harsh, but arent they just pretty much nullifing the purpose of hijab (to be covered from non mahram men and women)?

Anyways... Maybe I am just losing my mind.... I just dont see how they can do this and still think theyre following Sunnah

[Aasiyah]

As salamu alaikum

Every muslim is at a different level in Eman.  And not every muslim has the same belief about hijab and what it is supposed to cover. 

Make dua for yourself and your sisters in islam to be raised to a higher eman so that we can all insha allah benefit from your dua.

May Allah raise us all and guide us ameen.

[Rose87]

Ameen sister... insha Allah I will make dua'a for them... I just dont get it ....

[sisnur]

Quoting Aasiyah:

As salamu alaikum

Every muslim is at a different level in Eman.  And not every muslim has the same belief about hijab and what it is supposed to cover. 

Make dua for yourself and your sisters in islam to be raised to a higher eman so that we can all insha allah benefit from your dua.

May Allah raise us all and guide us ameen.

Amien

[fitrah]

Quoting Aasiyah:

As salamu alaikum

Every muslim is at a different level in Eman.  And not every muslim has the same belief about hijab and what it is supposed to cover. 

Make dua for yourself and your sisters in islam to be raised to a higher eman so that we can all insha allah benefit from your dua.

May Allah raise us all and guide us ameen.

“Remember that there is much good in bearing with patience that which you dislike, and that victory comes with patience, and that with hardship comes a way out and with difficulty comes ease.”(Narrated by Ahmad)

As Salaam Alaikum

Please dont judge the sisters harshly.  As Aasiyah stated, we are all in different places in our iman.  For some,hijab is difficult and let those of us who dont have this issue be grateful.  A sister in hijab doesnt guarantee a good Muslim, with good intentions. I have viewed various forms of hijab and modest dress.  When I first started going to the masjid, I would arrive early for Jumah, and quickly get to the sisters area, not looking at the items for sale, leaving my husband puzzled.  I would sit where I could see the sisters coming in and observed different ways to dress.  I had a few items, but just put on blazers/jackets. Then I wore jilaabs, and eventually I find my own style.  But not for beautification, but for what worked with school, work, and home life.  I never had a problem with scarves and have a pretty good collection! I love trying new styles!We move through life in steps, or leaps and bounds! May Allah forgive all of us for our sins!

[Rose87]

Sisters,

Maybe I came off the wrong way.  I am not juding them harshly, and not judging them at all.  I am simply stating that I do not understand how women who wear hijab, can wear it so carelessly. 

Being a revert, I look towards other women as examples of dress and motivation to continue.  When I went to an Islamic school to inquire about enrolling my step daughter, I saw sisters dressing modestly, while others wore tight clothing that showed their curves, and some sisters wearing short sleeves and capris with their hijab.  One sister I saw had her hijab so loose that it fell off a few times and she slipped it back up like nothing had happened.

I just do not understand how they can wear it so carelessly and not think another thing about it.  Now, as some of the sisters know, I dont have a huge selection of modest clothing, but I do with what I can and I wear what I have.  I even repeat outfits to make sure I am dressed modestly.

I am just wondering how they can justify not wearing it properly as instructed in the Qur'an and in hadeeths.

I apologize if I did not explain myself very well.

Allah knows the intentions of us all. 

May Allah swt guide us all. Ameen.

[LivingIslam]

As'Salam Alaykum sister,

Imam Suhaib Webb addressed a similar question on his official site entitled:  Sisters are Slipping.  I think you will benefit insha'Allah from hearing his reflections on this.  Here is the link.

[Rose87]

Jazak khair Allah sister

Quoting LivingIslam:

As'Salam Alaykum sister,

Imam Suhaib Webb addressed a similar question on his official site entitled:  Sisters are Slipping.  I think you will benefit insha'Allah from hearing his reflections on this.  Here is the link.

[slcinva]

I think the best thing you can do is dress yourself in the way you believe Allah would want you to (based on Quran).  You will be an example for those around you and you will be rewarded.

When I first became Muslim it took me several months to give up shorts, then my knee length skirts, my short sleeved shirts etc etc etc.  No one is perfect in this and being a good example is the best thing you can do.

[muhajjirah]

Quoting Rose87:

Anyways... Maybe I am just losing my mind.... I just dont see how they can do this and still think theyre following Sunnah

you are NOT losing your mind. the Sunnah is NOT being followed and no one should be sugar-coating it as if its not a big deal. it is true that when some women begin wearing hijab they go through stages and this often reflects on our understandings and eman. however, just because it might be 'difficult' for someone to embrace the full hijab when they become a muslim, doesn't mean they are not sinning. Allah is indeed the Most Forgiving, and Most Merciful- but we need not make that as an excuse to disobey Him, especially if we know how to wear the hijab the correct way and fear the people due to potential rejection from doing so.

having said that, one person's strength is another one's weakness and by helping one another inshaAllah we become stronger in our deen, which means although we are to refrain from looking down upon people, this doesn't mean we are to stay silent about an action they do which is impermissible and 'let them be' because we are to advise, reccomend and encourage one another towards righteousness and not be defensive when this happens to us.

[proud2bmom3]

wa alaikum assalaam dear sister,

you are not losing your mind. and alhamduliaah the sisters on here answered you beautifully, yes, we have different levels of Iman, and yes we should advise each other ( kindly) and we should try and lead by example.

I have to add though that sometimes some of these sisters Dont' Know. that they can't wear short sleeves, this is where advising them comes. with gentle words and support. insha' Allah.

some just think that hijab is putting a scarf, or what looks like a scarf, on some part of their head.  yes, it is sad, and disheartening, especially when those women insist that they are not doing anything wrong. with make up and perfume, her chest showing, tight clothes...etc. sometimes all you can do is make dua for them, and try to live  your live as best  you can and be the best Hijabi Muslimah you can and pray that they learn from your example

may Allah guide our Ummah, May he guide our sisters. and guide us all . may He forgive us our sins. and shower us with His mercy. Ameen.