Asalaam aleikum..insha allah everyone had a wonderful week!! Here is my situation...my husband and i have been married almost 6 years..we have different jobs he just opened a small business..but when we met he had the same job till one yr ago in feb..anyway he worked off the books..so when i filed my taxes it was only my income that i use obviously, we have 2 kids and my husband pays bills buys food cars..everything he has to everyday/ week/month all year..with the money he earns from his job of course..well i did my taxes 2 weeks ago and should be recieving them soon and my mother everysingle year nags and nags why i split my whole check with my husband she always says you worked for that its your w-2 why split it youre losing so much money...meanwhile all the money stays with in our home/ life and kids anyway..and my husband never ever said you have to split your tax money with me..i just do it his name is on our w-2 so has anyone ever been through something like this?? Do you personally think i should not split?? Im just asking out of curiousity .
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Khadijah, may Allah be pleased with her, one of the 4 best women in humanity, who was the first wife of Prophet Muhammad salAllahu alayhee wasalam gave everything she had to him. it was her right to keep it, but she wanted to give it to financially support him for the sake of Allah. Islamically there is nothing wrong with that, and in fact it is considered a great form of sadaqah- charity from you if you are intending to do this for pleasing Allah. with all due respect to your mom, and even though in Islam your money is your money..your generosity with it towards your husband is a respectable choice in Islam. may Allah reward you.
Asalaam Alaykum,
My opinion is, you definitley are not required to split it in half (especially if DH doesnt say so)....but, in my home we don't have "his" money and "my" money. We have one bank account that we share. Although I currently am not working, my husband was willing to give me 1/ 2 the return to spend on myself and the kids...even though I didnt physically work for it. But, we are using it to move to a new apartment, inshaAllah.
I dont think your mom should have any say about your finances though. Thats a personal issue between a wife and her husband :)
Masalaama
I agree with the sisters that first of all the matter is between you and your husband, your mom should stay out of it. In Islam the money we earn is ours and we are not required to spend it on the family as our husbands are, however as the sisters mentioned if we choose to it is a form a charity. Our husbands do what they can but sometimes it takes 2 incomes to make a living. I always keep my money separate because my husband has a small spending problem but if he is not able to make ends meet I always "bail" him out... lol
m glad some one agrees!! My husband pays for everything..rent, cars, gas, food whatever..my younger son is biologically his , he is stepdad to my oldest but he provides for them both and always has.. and my hubby used to have a little spending problem too..i know how that goes!!
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assalamu alaikum sister,
My sisters said it best, jazaakunna Allahu khairan.. I think what you are doing is wonderful, and commendable.. it is true, in Islam you are not obligated to share. but are rewarded if you do. especially when you feel that this is bringing you and your husband closer as you help each other with the expenses.. and like you said, your husband has been a good husband and good father and most importantly a good step father. not many women have that.. .. Masha' Allah, it is a good thing that you are doing.. and tell your mom that if you thought your husband did not deserve it, you wouldn't do it.. and insha' Allah that will keep her off your case..
Love and salaam (peace)
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on Feb. 5, 2010 at 3:44 PM