burkini

[firaerty]

Well I have to say I have experienced very little hijab discrimination alhamdurillah. Before yesterday the worst comment I got was on my surgical rotation when a patient said "wow you look more like a nun than a nurse!" As I entered the room. The surgeon replied "actually she is neither, she is my medical student"!
Yesterday we were at the complex pool and Zakariya (the baby) was sleeping so the hubby stayed with him while I went in the pool with Yunus (the 5 year old) to play. I was wearing the burkini as they call the muslim swim attire. Anyhow when I got out to switch with the hubby he tells me a lady had come by and asked him where we were from and then told him "why do you make your wife wear that? Why don't you let her wear what she wants?"
The poor husband didn't even know how to respond! He's the last person to be able to tell anyone what to do and it makes me mad that the woman didn't even approach me with her dumb comments!

[mishmish]

next time you guys come across her, I would say: "I will forgive you because I heard you made some assumptions based on ignorance, then very rudely & unjustly derrided my spouse! FYI (& not because it is any of your business) but because you could obviously benefit from the knowledge: I am Muslim & God willing modest & smart when it comes to my swim attire. I choose to cover due to my faith and I get the added bonus of not allowing folks w/inpure thoughts / attitudes to see me practically naked...oh yeah & it also helps to protect me from sun damage /skin cancer from exposure to the Sun! Now you are informed & hopefully won't make such a rude faux pas next time you see someone dressed like me!"

[firaerty]

Thanks sis unfortunately she had already left when the hubby told me the story or I would have said something. We're moving next week so I doubt we'll cross paths again. Alhamdurillah I have not felt discrimination with the hijab much so can't complain really.

[mishmish]

My idea of what to say to her, sounds too sassy. I try to encourage graciousness in those situations, but I was steamed on your behalf!  LOL

[SlingsAndThings]

Salaam alaikum rahmatuallahi wa barakatuh I has a kid ask me if I was iron man once while I was wearing mine.

I guess red and black was a bad choice lol. Insh'Allah I'm buying a more neutral one this year. I get more strange looks in that swim suit than any other style of hijab. It's very rare out here. Most people I've had ask about it thought we weren't allowed to go swimming.

[bozobean]

I 'm steamed on her behalf too, and I am sassy! LOL I'm new to learning about Islam, but haven't full on converted yet. I can't stand someone asking questions about me to someone else, esp. if i'm right there, as if they don't think I can speak up for myself. I think that woman in her ignorance probably thought that Muslim women are so oppressed they don't even have the right to speak up and answer for themselves. I agree with everything you said in your first reply, and it's a lot more gracious than I would've been. 

Quoting mishmish:

My idea of what to say to her, sounds too sassy. I try to encourage graciousness in those situations, but I was steamed on your behalf!  LOL

[bozobean]

I would get mad too. I couldn't stand someone doing that to me. I agree with what mishmish said in her first reply. OMG, the nerve of some ignorant people.

[firaerty]

Exactly what crossed my mind too that she figured we are so oppressed we can't even speak for ourselves! Probably in her ignorace she felt she was "advocating for me"!!