Update* March**** being induced tomorrow update 2 "birth defect" update 3
Alhamduallah I am being induced tomorrow. I am still having problems and its just safer to deliver. Inshallah it will go easily. I know some of you sisters are being tested inshallah you will be in my duas while I am in labor. Update/ alhamduallah baby was born after less than three hours of active labor and four pushes! 8lb 7oz! We are alhamduallah doing amazing! ***********update 2. So Khalid was bundled up and later this evening when I was breastfeeding him admiring him I noticed one of his feet looked odd at the toes. Turns out on one foot the second and third toes from the big toe are partially webbed/fused. the nurse said it wouldn't affect his mobility but now they are having him looked at closer. Its worrying me. They said they have to fill out a birth defect form. I can't wait for his pedi to be here tomorrow to calm and reassure me that its ok. ***************update 3 Monday morning @ almost 3am
Alhamduallah this is why I love our group the support and love are such a blessing inshallah every one of you ladies will on the day of judgment be rewarded for your kindness. Khaled dh wanted to change the spelling even though it has the lid sound lol had no other issues. Our pedi is a Muslim sister. She was calling checking on us even before birth and took time out of her weekend to come in even though she doesn't do these calls on weekends so she can have family time just because she cares. She and her two medical students who are training under her came in and gave Khaled the most through exam. :-) alhamduallah aside from his two toes that will not have any physical limitation on him he is atomically and developmentally perfect! He still has not been circumcised yet due to the obgyn but will be tomorrow before we go home. Jad is doing so well with having a baby brother. He loves him so dearly. All he wants to do is to be able to put his hand on him. Khaled cried for the first time yesterday and Jad became so upset for his brother. He began to sob he wouldn't stop until he saw little brother had become calm and was let pat him. He is also showing zero signs of being jealous when I breastfed Khaled. I am still in so much pain and you ladies who are being tested are of course still in my duas.
Update**** March 21,2013
So it's been 5 months and yesterday some issues came up at Khaleds 5 month weight check. I had noticed something with the underside of his tounge and Islam said it was nothing and not to worry when I pointed it out to him a few weeks ago so I didn't think of it. Yesterday though the pedi did a routine check of his soft spots on the way out after the weight check which then turned into more. The large soft spot on the top of his head is almost completely closed at 5 months. It's not supposed to close until after a year to allow the brain to properly grow. Khaleds is almost completely closed and his head circumference hasn't increased in a month. Not good. The pedi then asked if I had noticed anything else and I mentioned his tounge. It's like an extra ridge of muscle under his tounge it's pronounced like almost a mini tounge I guess. Well with the webbed toes, issue with tounge and the craniosyntosis (soft spot closing early) this all together indicates he has some type of genetic syndrome. I am devestated. In 3 weeks they are going to measure his head again and of it hasn't grown then we will have to move quickly for a ct scan and surgery before any brain damage occurs. Either way his head is going to have to be measured every two weeks to make sure there isn't any growth restriction on his brain. We called my mil this morning and there are issues within the family genetically with craniosyntosis webbed fingers and toes as well as other issues too in those who have this. It's a syndrome now we just have to figure out what and how to support Khaled ensure its not damaging to him. The tounge issue is now so minor he will have to have some extra help with his speech but that's now nothing compared to the damage craniosyntosis can cause. I am supposed to be watching him closely for signs of his brain being stressed such as vomiting seizures regression uncontrollably crying. I am all cried out now I am just making dua for him and trying to be calm. Panicking won't help. My heart aches. Inshallah he will be fine. Inshallah everything will be fine. Allah swt is mercy and has more love for my child than any mother could have for her child so whatever is written for Khaled will be for the best for him even if I don't understand. I just have to remember and be calm.