Introductions....Please stop here and introduce yourself !!!

[Tawanda18]

We would love to hear all about you and your family. Please feel free to include a photo of your family!!!

My intro will follow...I'm at work and need transfer some photos over.

Thanks for stopping by,

Tawanda

PS...Do you have any exciting things going on this month ?!!

[poobsy]

Hi there....I'm Jen.  I am a former Child Care Center Director and Preschool Teacher.  I had all of my staff trained in Love and Logic and we used it in our classrooms.  My husband also attended the trainings and we now use it with our 2 yr old daughter.  BIG FAN!

I'm a SAHM and my husband is a farmer.  We have 2 dogs, 5 chickens, 4 cats and whatever strolls through our acre lot....foxes, skunks, deer, coyotes, racoons....  :)  I look forward to seeing this group grow!

[Tawanda18]

Hey Jen !!!

Welcome to the group !!

[Tawanda18]

Hello my name is Tawanda. I'm married and we have a 2 1/2 year old daughter named Janae.
I am currently working at a hospital as a Toddler Community Educator.
I love my job and helping families has been my passion.
I would love to get my Master's in Early Childhood education with an emphasis in family studies.

I live for road trips and I can get enough of fried twinkles ;0). My daughter and I have a very fun relationship now, which was not like that a couple of months ago. I now live for the small mistakes so that she won't have to make the big mistakes later.
Jen, I love that you have all these animals, we had a cat but had to give him away, I miss him ;o(.
That's it about me, oh in my spare time I work as an extra on sets from  feature films to pilots. I occasionally sign-up as a seat filler for award shows and concerts !

I pride myself on being a mulit-tasker ;o)


Cheers,
T
 

[momexecsmom4]

Hi my name is Nicole. I have 4 children, and I NEED love and logic. I have been looking for something like this. I cant wait to hear ans share stories with you guys and I cant wait for this group to fourish.gavin 5yrsIsaiah 3yrs
Aniya 2yrsKalaea 10 months

[Tawanda18]

Quoting momexecsmom4:

Hi my name is Nicole. I have 4 children, and I NEED love and logic. I have been looking for something like this. I cant wait to hear ans share stories with you guys and I cant wait for this group to fourish.gavin 5yrsIsaiah 3yrs
Aniya 2yrsKalaea 10 months

LOL...Welcome to the group Nicole !!! I agree I can't wait to see this group fourish as well, I not sure if I can post on other sites and market the group. I don't want to step on peoples toesies...if you guys want to spread the word it would be much appeciated ;o)


Chat with ya soon,
Tawanda

[BlessedMom2003]

Hello, I just joined today. I got the book not too long ago and am looking into know more about this parenting style. Now I just need to find the time to read it.

I'm Julie, 31, married with 2 children: Daughter is 3 1/2 and Son is 13 months old.
They sure keep me busy. I am also a SAHM and homeschool my daughter since Aug. 2006

[Tawanda18]

Welcome Julie !!! I know I'm not really good at book reading as well ;o( The videos captured my attention a lot better !!


Cheers,
Tawanda

[tulip40in05]

Hi, I'm Michelle, 42, and I have twin 11-year-old (step)daughters - the reason we got into Love and Logic - as well as a 1-year-old daughter.  I am in the process of adopting my daughters and I've been raising them since they were 6.  My husband and I stumbled across one of the PBS shows and were intrigued.  We got the Parenting 7-12 year old package and devoured the book.  We instituted it immediately and it has done wonders for the family.  It is much quieter, calmer, and happy around here.  We did recently have a relapse, though, so we got out the CDs (that we hadn't listened to yet) and listened to one of them.  My husband started using stuff from that the next day.  It is hysterical when he "messes" with the girls and to see their reactions is priceless.  A lot of people don't understand what we are doing but it is working for us and that is all that matters.  Since the girls are older, we have given them the privilege of choosing when they go to sleep.  However, as suggested, mommy and daddy alone time is 7:30 p.m. to 7:30 a.m. and we don't want to hear anything from them unless someone is bleeding or dying - no music coming from their room, no dancing, no noise - and they've gotten used to it and, even though they'd like to be "free" longer, they seem to enjoy it.  We don't make them get up at a certain time but we wanted to make sure that we weren't dealing with breakfast at 10:30 in the morning either so we made a rule that breakfast is served until 8:30 (that will change once they start school and need more sleep on the weekends), after that you have to wait for lunch.  Well, no one has missed breakfast yet - and we've been doing this since school let out.

The one thing we are having trouble with is allowing them to watch TV whenever they want.  We just can't seem to do it because they'd do it all day, every day.  My husband even tried the "see, watching too much TV affected your brain . . ." thing. 

Well, I'm so glad I found this group.  We completely believe in this form of parenting and can't say enough good things about it.

[Tawanda18]

Thanks so much for joining our group...we can't wait to see it grow!! I like you had several relapses with my 2 1/2 year ago and I can see how our world can be turned upside down if you let it go. I actually facilitate Love & Logic classes every 6 weeks, It still gets me excited to see the "awe" look on parents faces when they come to our first session and have never heard of L&L before. They are wanting more and that is key, when you find yourself going back to your old ways. You don't hesitate to pick up that book or put in the CD and listen again.

As for the T.V thing...I believe the choices should fall upon the parents...you can use the..."Don't I always give you some choices throughout the day, ...well it's my turn, thanks for understanding".

T.V use for children your age will be give 4-5 hours a day (or whatever you both feel comfortable). I am all about experiementing with them.

or use a one-liner, if you feel it has been on all day...ex: what a bummer, but the t.v has been maxed out today.


Good luck...and make sure you plug your holes on what might go wrong with this plan, especially before you sail your ship.


Tawanda

[Jordyns.mommy]

Howdy! My name is Jess and I am a SAHM of a 20 month old girl. Miss J is what we call her when she's cute, Jordyn the rest of the time. I also have a 3 year old son but he lives with his adopted family. It a very open adoption so I see him often. I started using the Love and Logic system a few months ago when Miss J was exploring her independent role in the family. Sometimes known as the terrible twos. She was hitting (mainly in the face) and screaming when she was upset. I few times in the beginning I was so stunned after seeing stars from a good whop to my left ear, in the grocery store, while talking to someone, that I reacted to quickly, without thinking about it, and popped her on the back of her hand. She wasn't even fazed by it, but I cried for 6 hours. I grew up with a mom that believed that you got a spanking for everything. Sometimes she went a little to far. We got spanked with belts, tree switches, wooden & plastic spoons, paddles, and I'm sure others. I'm not opposed to spanking, I just want it to be the last thing I do, and done with love. Anyway, I knew I had to find a way of raising my daughter in a totally new way than I was used to after she started hitting herself when she was upset. It broke my heart to see it. So I found a Love and Logic book and it stays by my bed. It's working. She no longer hits herself. She rarely his mom or dad - and when she forgets and does hit one of us, we are quick to put Love and Logic into play. We tell her that it's very sad that she hit us. Then we take her to her time out spot and tell her that when she's ready to play with love, she can come back to the family room with us. She learns not to blame us for her punishment, but to take responsibility for it. I feel so good knowing that I am not having to hit her to brand my message on her brain. Love and Logic works! It takes true consistency and LOTS of patients. But it Works!