Poll
Question: Do you trust the person currently watching your children? Do you have ANY doubts in your mind of their competency towards your childrens' safety?
Total Votes: 6
I don't know about you guys, but I've been unable to stop thinking about the Schwade family since someone posted a bulletin about them on myspace. I've donated, I've prayed, I've gotten closer to my family, I've posted comments and prayers for Kaleb on the site, etc. But I just could not rid my mind of it.
Thoughts of "what has the world come to" and "how could anyone hurt an innocent child" turned into "what if it were MY child?" and "Oh my goodness, I am returning to school full time in the fall! I don't know my sitter well enough!".
My point in this post is to remind everyone that change begins in our own homes. Let's all look around in our lives and make sure that we trust those around us who watch our children! I've been bombarded with stories on the news about children molested, shaken, abused, left for dead, sexually assaulted, just yesterday I learned of a child who was "stomped"! I implore and beg you, sit down and talk to your significant others, your parents, your sitters, and make SURE you know who they are, if they are capable of handing your children, and if they WANT to!
Change begins in our homes and in our own actions! If you think or have one small moment of doubt in your heart about whoever watches your children, LISTEN to your instincts; they will rarely fail you!
What I learned from Kaleb:
1) This could happen to any one of us, including me. I sat down with my husband and we discussed our future, and how this involved our children. I discussed my fears of other people watching my children, and my husband has agreed that NO ONE is this trustworthy, with the exception of ourselves! He has agreed to sacrifice his career so that he can watch our children while I attend medical school. It's the only way that we both feel safe about who watches our kids.
2) Even if we do trust the people watching our kids, we should STILL take responsibility. I sat down with my husband last night and asked him if he had ever heard of Shaken Baby Syndrome and asked him what he'd do if he were feeling out of control around the kids. I feel lucky that he is medically trained and is aware of what SBS can do to a child. He agreed that he knows to put Elijah in his crib and take a time out, and to call a friend or family member for help with the kids.
3) We should listen to our instincts. I've hired a sitter recently, and although the situation occured smoothly and without incident, I had this scary feeling in the pit of my stomach. I won't hire her again. It could be something..it could be nothing. I don't care. If I feel doubts, I WILL listen to myself!
4) Life is so precious...time is of the essence, and should never be wasted. I think of how each day goes so smoothly in my household in comparison to Kristy Schwade's days. Each time I want to feel sorry for myself over Elijah's loss of hearing, surgeries, Aidan's temper tantrums, the children fighting over toys, etc., I stop myself and thank God for these moments. When Elijah wakes me a zillion times a night to breastfeed, I thank God for his health and the fact that he is ok, and that no one has hurt him!
Kaleb has become a lesson to all of us, in his own precious way. Whenever I need that reminder, I think of him. I'm praying for him, as I know all of you are. I'd like to thank whoever created this group. It's helped so many people, including my family
Thoughts of "what has the world come to" and "how could anyone hurt an innocent child" turned into "what if it were MY child?" and "Oh my goodness, I am returning to school full time in the fall! I don't know my sitter well enough!".
My point in this post is to remind everyone that change begins in our own homes. Let's all look around in our lives and make sure that we trust those around us who watch our children! I've been bombarded with stories on the news about children molested, shaken, abused, left for dead, sexually assaulted, just yesterday I learned of a child who was "stomped"! I implore and beg you, sit down and talk to your significant others, your parents, your sitters, and make SURE you know who they are, if they are capable of handing your children, and if they WANT to!
Change begins in our homes and in our own actions! If you think or have one small moment of doubt in your heart about whoever watches your children, LISTEN to your instincts; they will rarely fail you!
What I learned from Kaleb:
1) This could happen to any one of us, including me. I sat down with my husband and we discussed our future, and how this involved our children. I discussed my fears of other people watching my children, and my husband has agreed that NO ONE is this trustworthy, with the exception of ourselves! He has agreed to sacrifice his career so that he can watch our children while I attend medical school. It's the only way that we both feel safe about who watches our kids.
2) Even if we do trust the people watching our kids, we should STILL take responsibility. I sat down with my husband last night and asked him if he had ever heard of Shaken Baby Syndrome and asked him what he'd do if he were feeling out of control around the kids. I feel lucky that he is medically trained and is aware of what SBS can do to a child. He agreed that he knows to put Elijah in his crib and take a time out, and to call a friend or family member for help with the kids.
3) We should listen to our instincts. I've hired a sitter recently, and although the situation occured smoothly and without incident, I had this scary feeling in the pit of my stomach. I won't hire her again. It could be something..it could be nothing. I don't care. If I feel doubts, I WILL listen to myself!
4) Life is so precious...time is of the essence, and should never be wasted. I think of how each day goes so smoothly in my household in comparison to Kristy Schwade's days. Each time I want to feel sorry for myself over Elijah's loss of hearing, surgeries, Aidan's temper tantrums, the children fighting over toys, etc., I stop myself and thank God for these moments. When Elijah wakes me a zillion times a night to breastfeed, I thank God for his health and the fact that he is ok, and that no one has hurt him!
Kaleb has become a lesson to all of us, in his own precious way. Whenever I need that reminder, I think of him. I'm praying for him, as I know all of you are. I'd like to thank whoever created this group. It's helped so many people, including my family
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on Jul. 1, 2007 at 12:19 AM