...teens in the United States continue to suffer from the highest birth rate and one of the highest rates of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) in the industrialized world...
http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=623&Itemid=177
Despite "abstinence only" (no mention of protection of any kind) the United States youth have the highest birth and sexually transmitted infections in the world. What are your thoughts on abstinence only education, is it effective or gross negligence?
I believe the abstinence is effective. I've used "Passport To Purity" from American Family Association with my oldest daughter and will be using it with my other daughter soon.
My daughter and I went to a campground with tent and camping supplies in tow ! We started with a good meal/picnic together. (It was just her and I). We did some reading, discussing, activities, praying for two days. We ended with a swim in the campground pool and went out to eat at any restaurant she chose. A special place. I then gave her a purity ring and we came home.
She is 22 now and still keeping herself pure for her husband. She does have a beau who went through the same thing with his father. They both love the Lord and are waiting for each other. They are currently courting (the old fashioned way )
My husband will do it with the boys, and I with my last daughter. The people that I personally know are serious about their lives and keeping themselves for their future spouse.
I am a product of abstinence only education and for me it was a complete failure. My family through our church did the True Love Waits Program. I completed it at 14 and continued participating until I graduated. However, I lost my virginity at 15. I would have much preferred my parents to be more realistic to who I was and provided me with the information to protect myself.
Wow, thanks for your experience Aldea.
If it works for you, then so be it and I applaud you for it.
I on the other hand will not be using that type of education because my parents tried to keep me a virgin and it was so painful. I was desperately horny. Good thing my daughter is only 4 and a half; the more I learn about sex, the less I feel I know.
Thank you for the encouragement Grannygoli, yes my first daughter it worked, is working Praise God ! My first loves the Lord and serve him. She has a good head on her shoulders ! My other daughter will be a challenge ! Two totally different personalities ! I'll just have to be more watchful with her !
Quoting Grannygoli:Wow, thanks for your experience Aldea.
If it works for you, then so be it and I applaud you for it.
I on the other hand will not be using that type of education because my parents tried to keep me a virgin and it was so painful. I was desperately horny. Good thing my daughter is only 4 and a half; the more I learn about sex, the less I feel I know.
Birth control can be had at the drop of a hat. I blame parents for teen pregnancy.
i think comprehensive sex education is the only way to go. the people that choose to be abstinent will still choose abstinence with a knowledge of safe sex. unfortunately, not knowing how to properly use a condom doesn't appear to be holding kids back.
when they took sex ed out of the public schools a few of my high school teachers took it upon themselves to teach some things. some kid in my biology class passed out when we had to do presentations on STI's complete with photographs! lol. if anything is going to change a kids mind about sex its a giant poster of severe genital warts or molluscum contagiosum (granted, not the most dangerous but definitely some of the grossest looking.)
i applaud teens for waiting, but the people that choose not to wait have the right to a fuller understanding of what they are getting into and we have a responsibility to provide that for them.
i love my baaaaaaaaaaaaby Clayton! 11-29-08.
I would like her to wait until she can handle being a mommy since no matter how cautious you are a baby can happen. So as for as a teenager I will tell her that if she doesn't think she can raise a kid sex is a bad idea, but I do understand how it is to be a teenager and that if she decides to have sex we can talk about it and I will take her to get birth control and gyno check ups.
We will also be doing to STD talk and all the nice pictures and CONDOMS!!
Well, for now I am telling my child to listen to herself and if she says no, it means NO! whether it is grandma or me asking for a hug or some granpa or some teacher or her favorite person, it does not matter.
And when she learns self defense, she will kick the SH*& out if them if they do not take her seriously.
And when she is old enough, she will take her condoms with her and hopefully by then technology would have been put to good use and we will have good protection against the "evils" of sex.
But again, I breath a sigh of relief thinking that she is in bed asleep and only 4 and a half. Phew.
Quoting Aldea:Thank you for the encouragement Grannygoli, yes my first daughter it worked, is working Praise God ! My first loves the Lord and serve him. She has a good head on her shoulders ! My other daughter will be a challenge ! Two totally different personalities ! I'll just have to be more watchful with her !
Quoting Grannygoli:Wow, thanks for your experience Aldea.
If it works for you, then so be it and I applaud you for it.
I on the other hand will not be using that type of education because my parents tried to keep me a virgin and it was so painful. I was desperately horny. Good thing my daughter is only 4 and a half; the more I learn about sex, the less I feel I know.
Very interesting Aldea. Really, good luck. I am sure everything will be fine since you obviously, just as other mommies want the best for your babies and utmost happiness.
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