I have a curiosity question for all of you. This came from a discussion in another group.
When I had my tubes tied, my husband had to write a letter AND sign a consent form, saying that he was OK with the procedure being performed. The reasoning that I was given, is because it's a major surgery. OK, that's fine, BUT if that's the case, why didn't he have to consent to the 4 c-sections that I had, to give birth to his children? I was the only one that had to consent to that.
I think it's stupid that a guy gets to help decide a tubal, but has no say in an abortion...the death of his already conceived child....
If it's the woman's right to choose what to do with her body then that should include getting 'fixed' too, and if it's the mans right to be involved in the decision of getting 'fixed' then he should have a right to decide if his conceived child dies.
Quoting lanceandhailey:
I think it's stupid that a guy gets to help decide a tubal, but has no say in an abortion...the death of his already conceived child....
If it's the woman's right to choose what to do with her body then that should include getting 'fixed' too, and if it's the mans right to be involved in the decision of getting 'fixed' then he should have a right to decide if his conceived child dies.
OK, but why does he have to consent to me having my tubes tied, but he can get snipped without me ever knowing?
Quoting Gretchen2876:
Quoting lanceandhailey:
I think it's stupid that a guy gets to help decide a tubal, but has no say in an abortion...the death of his already conceived child....
If it's the woman's right to choose what to do with her body then that should include getting 'fixed' too, and if it's the mans right to be involved in the decision of getting 'fixed' then he should have a right to decide if his conceived child dies.
OK, but why does he have to consent to me having my tubes tied, but he can get snipped without me ever knowing?
I'm sure different hospitals have different rules, it is not right.
Quoting lanceandhailey:
Quoting Gretchen2876:
Quoting lanceandhailey:
I think it's stupid that a guy gets to help decide a tubal, but has no say in an abortion...the death of his already conceived child....
If it's the woman's right to choose what to do with her body then that should include getting 'fixed' too, and if it's the mans right to be involved in the decision of getting 'fixed' then he should have a right to decide if his conceived child dies.
OK, but why does he have to consent to me having my tubes tied, but he can get snipped without me ever knowing?
I'm sure different hospitals have different rules, it is not right.
I had my tubes tied at a Catholic Hospital, so it did involve quite a bit more time and paperwork, before being approved, then at the other hospitals around town. Spousal consent is required at all of them though.
I don't think your spouse should have the right to decide weather or not you can have a tubal, they don't have to consent to you using birth control so how is this any different, We don't have to give consent for them to have a Vascetomy.. It is our body we should be allowed to do what we want with it.
Yeah, I don't know. I wonder if it has to do with the greater chance of problems associated with tubals.
Seems like women are still thought of as property.
Completely idiotic in my opinion. I agree with Raintree, it seems like we (and therefore our organs) are still seen as property.
While we're on stupid medical stuff, how about insurance covering Viagra but not birth control?
After coming into contact with a religious man I always feel I must wash my hands.--Friedrich Nietzsche
Quoting Raintree:
Yeah, I don't know. I wonder if it has to do with the greater chance of problems associated with tubals.
Seems like women are still thought of as property.
Oh believe me, if I could have a do-over, I would never have had it done. My cycles are a big 'ol mess now. BUT they were already going to have me opened up for the c-section, which he did not consent to, but he had to consent to them taking care of the tubes while they were already in there? That just seems odd to me.
I don't really care that he had to consent, we are married, and he at the very least should be aware of any big plans that I make. I just take issue that I would not have to be given the same courtesy. I take serious issue with that.
Quoting ta2dirishlass:
While we're on stupid medical stuff, how about insurance covering Viagra but not birth control?
That's another one that baffles me!!
I'm suprised that the Catholic hospital even did your tubal. The Catholic hospital here does not do it at all.
I think being married it should be a mutual agreement between man and woman, I think the wife should have to sign for a man to get fixed as well. I think it's one of those things that was never changed after we ( women) recieved more rights. A lot of things are still for the males, but in the same breathe they get the short end of the stick as well.
Good question. Anyone have a guess?
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- Gretchen2876
on Nov. 24, 2009 at 10:08 AM