When do you know it's time to leave an abusive man?
My husband has never physically hurt me yet the constant emotional & verbal abuse has impacted my family. My children are my concern. I left a successful career years ago to stay home with my 4 children. It has been the best choice I've made, but it has resulted in me being under his financial control. My children are aged 22, 21, 16 & 13. I find myself fluctuating on what to do & it is affecting my health.
If you are beaten down, if you are demeaned, if you are cheapened and lessened as a human being - if you are not treated as an equal partner - you are being abused.
I think you should have left long ago - do yourself and more importantly your children a favor and leave now. Or, better yet, get a nasty lawyer and kick his ass out.
Show your children how to stand up to bullies.
Quoting jaxTheMom:
If you are beaten down, if you are demeaned, if you are cheapened and lessened as a human being - if you are not treated as an equal partner - you are being abused.
I think you should have left long ago - do yourself and more importantly your children a favor and leave now. Or, better yet, get a nasty lawyer and kick his ass out.
Show your children how to stand up to bullies.
This...this...this.....and the comment that "he has never physically hurt me" really bothers me...He IS abusing you...Period....
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When you find the strength to know the situtation is abusive and know you need to get out. That is when the excuses end and the healing can begin. The second you pack up and say I'm gone the time is right.
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Quoting JudyToo:
My husband has never physically hurt me yet the constant emotional & verbal abuse has impacted my family. My children are my concern. I left a successful career years ago to stay home with my 4 children. It has been the best choice I've made, but it has resulted in me being under his financial control. My children are aged 22, 21, 16 & 13. I find myself fluctuating on what to do & it is affecting my health.
There are several options for you and your children to regain control of your life. Contact your local Domestic Abuse Hotline, they will assist you in getting a restraining order on the abuser, provide employment opportunities for you and the children(the ones who can work), and assist you in relocating to a safe environment. Know that you are a strong woman and you will make it. I wish you the best.
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1.800.799.SAFE
never suffocate your own soul trying to loose another.
it anit wise to drown trying to save something your supposed help thinks is just fine the way it is. if it's cutting off your air, but it's of no real concern to the other person, then smother no more.
when you're ready to breathe free, do what you must {whatever it may be}, then run into the wind, and learn to love the seasons changing, and the sun shinning against your face again.
enjoy the simple pleasures in life once more like shopping in a store WITHOUT you and your cart being policed by the other, and without trying to explain why you think you need lotion. stroll around the store at your leisure and buy a soda pop, and toss the receipt in the trash, and then bask in the joy of having no debates about it. buy a $10.00 bra, wear it, and never feel like you've just thrown the entire planet into a financial crisis.
most of all know that you are blessed to be living in such a free country, and that simple pleasures are as cheap as a $3.00 bag of chips.
P.S.
YOU DO DESERVE TO SMILE FROM THE INSIDE OUT.
go on now honey.....
....I'll see ya on the bright side.
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- JudyToo
on Nov. 24, 2009 at 8:14 PM