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Judge says....."you can go live with your homeless dad"

Posted by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 11:30 PM
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Judge Awards Custody of Son to Homeless Dad Instead of $90K-a-Year Mom


Judge Awards Custody of Son to Homeless Dad Instead of $90K-a-Year Mom


Why would a Brooklyn judge allow a teen to live with his homeless dad in a city-run shelter, instead of giving the kid to his Manhattan Supreme Court clerk making $90,000-a-year mom?

Jeannette Traylor
was not only denied custody of her 17-year-old son, but the judge also took away her visitation rights as well.

On the flip side, the teen's father,
John Jacobs, who is homeless and has scrounged around living in storefronts, borrowed rooms and basements for years on end and was classified by a psychologist as having "severe reservations" about his parenting skills, was awarded total custody.

According to court documents,
Judge Bernard Graham said he based his decision on the boy's preference in the end.


The trials and tribulations of the couple began in 1994 when they divorced not long after their son was born. Both Jacobs and Traylor shared joint custody for a while. Although, in 2001, Traylor was awarded primary physical custody of the boy, Jacobs was not going to give up that easily and challenged the decision.

Over the next decade, the couple waged a custody war against each other, filing more than a half dozen petitions and motions with the family court system. There was an allegation that Traylor struck her son with an umbrella; she vehemently denies it. The angry mom has also been arrested numerous times but has never been convicted. Traylor contends that her ex caused the arrests.

Before Judge Graham made his final decision, he also chastised Traylor for being "quick to offer barbed criticism of the court and the legal process." The judge also seriously took into consideration the fact that the boy, who attends a pricey Brooklyn Catholic high school that is bankrolled by his mom, told him that Traylor is "self-absorbed" and not interested in his day-to-day life.

Meanwhile, Jacobs still feels that he is the better parent and is ecstatic about the decision. "If I was in a cardboard box and if it was better for my son, so be it," he told the New York Post. "One parent is healthier for the child than the other. When you add the whole thing together, I'm better for the boy. That's the bottom line."

The African race is a rubber ball.  The harder you dash it to the ground, the higher it will rise.  ~African Proverb

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ecagle
by Kegel on Mar. 2, 2011 at 11:47 PM

 The son is 17...his opinion SHOULD be taken into account.  Money doesn't make a good parent.

stormcris
by Christy on Mar. 3, 2011 at 12:01 AM

This

Quoting ecagle:

 The son is 17...his opinion SHOULD be taken into account.  Money doesn't make a good parent.


Everyone is a genius. But, if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree it will think it is stupid.
glitterteaz
by Ruby Member on Mar. 3, 2011 at 12:05 AM

 WOW!

ohiomom88
by New Member on Mar. 3, 2011 at 12:33 AM
No it doesn't, but it provides safety and stability. The dad is a bum, if he's been homeless for quite awhile, which it sounds like he has, what is he going to teach that kid? That real men work and support their families? No, he's going to teach him to live off the government and let everyone else support him. I bet he's going to go after CS and he's probably paid little to her. He shouldn't get a penny until he doesn't owe her back CS for being the only one supporting their child for 17 years. The kid should have stuck it out another year so he atleast had a room to sleep in. That judge just added another homeless child to the system. But you know, living in a shelter is in his best interest. The father is selfish for even trying to get custody when he has no way to feed his child. Neither parent sounds like a winner but atleast the angry mom could feed him and provide a stable home.


Quoting ecagle:

 The son is 17...his opinion SHOULD be taken into account.  Money doesn't make a good parent.


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stormcris
by Christy on Mar. 3, 2011 at 12:36 AM

Or you could look at it like he lost his home trying to battle for his child....he has been fighting for him in court battles since 1994, custody battles that long could have ate his entire savings and the home.

Quoting ohiomom88:

No it doesn't, but it provides safety and stability. The dad is a bum, if he's been homeless for quite awhile, which it sounds like he has, what is he going to teach that kid? That real men work and support their families? No, he's going to teach him to live off the government and let everyone else support him. I bet he's going to go after CS and he's probably paid little to her. He shouldn't get a penny until he doesn't owe her back CS for being the only one supporting their child for 17 years. The kid should have stuck it out another year so he atleast had a room to sleep in. That judge just added another homeless child to the system. But you know, living in a shelter is in his best interest. The father is selfish for even trying to get custody when he has no way to feed his child. Neither parent sounds like a winner but atleast the angry mom could feed him and provide a stable home.


Quoting ecagle:

 The son is 17...his opinion SHOULD be taken into account.  Money doesn't make a good parent.



Everyone is a genius. But, if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree it will think it is stupid.
ecagle
by Kegel on Mar. 3, 2011 at 12:45 AM

 Yep! None of us know the back story here.  Honestly, there has to be more if the judge is going to give the child to the father (who is homeless) over the mother...especially since in most cases, the mother wins and in this case, she makes LOTS of money.

Quoting stormcris:

Or you could look at it like he lost his home trying to battle for his child....he has been fighting for him in court battles since 1994, custody battles that long could have ate his entire savings and the home.

Quoting ohiomom88:

No it doesn't, but it provides safety and stability. The dad is a bum, if he's been homeless for quite awhile, which it sounds like he has, what is he going to teach that kid? That real men work and support their families? No, he's going to teach him to live off the government and let everyone else support him. I bet he's going to go after CS and he's probably paid little to her. He shouldn't get a penny until he doesn't owe her back CS for being the only one supporting their child for 17 years. The kid should have stuck it out another year so he atleast had a room to sleep in. That judge just added another homeless child to the system. But you know, living in a shelter is in his best interest. The father is selfish for even trying to get custody when he has no way to feed his child. Neither parent sounds like a winner but atleast the angry mom could feed him and provide a stable home.


Quoting ecagle:

 The son is 17...his opinion SHOULD be taken into account.  Money doesn't make a good parent.



 

40isfun
by Christi on Mar. 3, 2011 at 8:55 AM

I'm sure age was a consideration.  The boy is old enough to work and in a few months will be legally considered an adult.  Hell, together they may be able to come up with enough money to get an apartment and live a better life. 

sweetmissy_05
by Member on Mar. 3, 2011 at 8:58 AM

Well there could be more to the story..but after all the boy is 17......and he does have a say in where he wants to be anyways....

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