Patty, mom of 3 girly boys (and couldn't be more proud!)
After experiencing the outrageous reactions to recent stories in the media about boys being encouraged by their mothers to do "girly" things (like dress-up as Daphne from the Scooby-Doo series for halloween or paint their toenails pink with their mother as in the supposedly controversial J. Crew Ad depicting such a scene that threw the religious-right into a tizzy!) I have decided to stop worrying about and start being proud of the fact that I have three fairly effeminate and super-pretty boys.
My oldest, is a self-proclaimed feminist, poet, actor, and song-writer, who wants to someday become an english teacher possibly even college professor and join the peace corps. *swoon*
The next one, (who, mind you, is only 7) is hell-bent on figuring out a way for males to give birth to babies. He simply refuses to hear it when someone tries to tell him boys can't ever have babies. He wants to birth one and eventually be able to nurse it... as in breastfeed it (breast is best, afterall ;) When I had his baby brother a couple of years ago my favorite time of the day was when I would breastfeed the baby and Zain would join me and mimic me by lifting his shirt and mock-breastfeeding his "baby" seahorse doll. Who doesn't love the cute coincidence that it was a seahorse doll?!! I mean, come on!
And the baby, who's now 2, is so damn pretty, omg... he looks a lot like me, much more than the other boys, so I've naturally kept his hair long and girly and tend to dress him in gender-neutral clothing, avoiding anything too boyish. I put his hair up in pig tails or pony tails or even his bangs back in a barrette sometimes. Don't worry, it's a lamb, and it's blue (for boy ha). It's not all the time, either, it's just sometimes. What's even more cool is the fact that my husband is just fine with this too; doesn't give it a second thought and sees it for the cuteness it is. It's just fun and I never gave much thought to any of this.... until recently after the above mentioned stories about other mothers and the ridiculous reactions to them came out. I found my blood boiling as I read some of the reactions by some people. I realized that the gay-bashers and woman haters of the world would totally hate me and my troop of pretty boys and that's when I realized AH-HA! I now know my mission!! Infect the world with 3 more (4 if you count my husband, which I do) girly boys and really piss the gay-bashers and woman-haters off! NO problemo, already half way there, my friends. But it also upsets me. Not only as a feminist (for obvious reasons) but also as a mother of these boys. It's hard to distinguish who is discriminated against more... women--because the underlying aspersion cast here is, in cave-man language, feminine bad, masculine good. or boys--because no matter if they're gay or not, they should feel free to act anyway they want. or LGBT comm.--because how one identifies, gender-wise, really has little to nothing to do with their sexual orientation and it's an unfair stereotype to think it does.
Anyway now my convictions to raise girly boys are solidified! I now see what I have to do. Before these latest stories linked above were brought to light, I would question whether or not it was healthy for me to encourage effeminate characteristics in my sons. Now that I see just how much it pisses off certain types of "conservatives" and "religious right" bullshitters, gay-bashers and woman-haters, I am firmer and more staunch in my girlification efforts! It's a dirty job, but somebody's got to paint pink the toenails of this nation's impressionable young boys!