Lazy Parenting?

[Woodbabe]

At what point do these things become lazy parenting....Does the parent have the responsibility to make the child learn to potty train before they're school aged? Obviously we're not talking special needs, these are main stream school children.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2097433/Thousands-children-start-school-toilet-trained-rising-number-nappies.html

Scandal of Britain's lazy parents: How children are starting school in nappies and some can't even put on their coats

Rising numbers of children are still in nappies when they start primary school.

Staff say they are increasingly forced to disrupt classes to change pupils or clear up ‘accidents’ because parents believe toilet training is a school’s job.

Teachers also report that children are generally less independent, needing help with putting on coats and changing for PE. Some claim parents are too busy to teach their children basic life skills.

Life skills: There has been a rise in the number of children starting school without being toilet trained, teachers have said. (File picture)

‘Parents do not spend the time training their children – they feel it is the school’s job,’ said one teacher.

Almost two-thirds of 850 primary school staff polled said they had seen an increase over the past five years in the number of pupils wetting or soiling themselves.

The figure rose to 71 per cent among teachers working with three to five-year-olds, and some schools have been forced to put on parent workshops to help with toilet training.

The findings do not refer to youngsters with special needs or health problems.

 Just 36 per cent of staff surveyed said their schools required parents to ensure their children were toilet-trained by the time they started their education. 

With fewer nurses working in schools, the job of clearing up after accidents or changing pupils increasingly falls to teaching assistants, and occasionally teachers.

One teacher said: ‘I currently have three incontinent children in my reception class. Sometimes an adult changes children up to nine times daily. This means the education of other children suffers.’

Another teacher said: ‘Nappies have been designed to absorb large quantities of liquid. Children do not feel wet or notice any discomfort and this seems to delay their urge to be free of nappies.’

Another added: ‘There is less independence generally – more children need help putting on coats, changing for PE, etc.’  

Technology: With nappies designed to absorb ever greater quantities of liquid, children seem to have less of an urge to use the toilet, one teacher said

The survey was carried out by Education and Resources for Improving Childhood Continence and the Association of Teachers and Lecturers.

ATL general secretary Dr Mary Bousted said: ‘Having to deal with increased numbers of pupils who have not yet been toilet-trained puts extra pressure on education staff when they already have enough pressure on them.’

[BlueRay]

Yes, I think these are signs of lazy parenting. Not sure where the line is drawn but this really is quite sad.

[DemocraticMama]

definitely lazy parents.  I had all my children potty trained by their second birthday (except for my baby she is only 1).  Why would you want to change a diaper on a 3 or 4 year old?  It is not the schools job to potty train or change diapers.  

Lazy parents! 

[FrogSalad]

W.T.F???

[Tanya93]

Not everyone with a kid under 4 is lazy.   Sometimes, they just aren't ready for it.

You can buy 30 pairs of underwear for your son and he still only tells you when he needs to go pee.

And yes, this is personal for me.   I am sick of being told how behind I am because he isn't completely potty trained yet.   He can write his name and read simple books.   It's not a matter of lazy parents in this one,  but the fact he doesn't care.

[TruthSeeker.]

 That is pure laziness on the parents part.

 Do they not have or encourage early education abroad?

[mommy_2_be_2010]

My daughter will stand in front of me go and say mama pee-pee she's 2 and learning to tell me she has to go

[JakeandEmmasMom]

 That's kindergarten age...Yes, that is lazy. 

My older two were late potty trainers.  They were around three, my youngest was about two.  She was just very motivated.  It wasn't an issue of them not understanding or not knowing how, they just didn't care to go in the potty.  I chose to not turn it into a power struggle because I didn't want to make it worse, and they did it when they were ready.  But a 5 and 6 year old?  There's no excuse for that.  They can't put on their coats or change their clothes?  Yeah...that's lazy. 

[cassnadrajones]

LAZY! Unless the child has a learning difficulty there is no excuse. I wouldn't allow the kids to enroll. 

[JakeandEmmasMom]

 My kids were that way too.  He'll do it when he decides to.  Turning into a power struggle will only make it worse, IMO.

Quoting Tanya93:

Not everyone with a kid under 4 is lazy.   Sometimes, they just aren't ready for it.

You can buy 30 pairs of underwear for your son and he still only tells you when he needs to go pee.

 

And yes, this is personal for me.   I am sick of being told how behind I am because he isn't completely potty trained yet.   He can write his name and read simple books.   It's not a matter of lazy parents in this one,  but the fact he doesn't care.

 

[OHgirlinCA]

 Yes, it's lazy parenting.  By the time my children reached Kindergarten, they were able to use the bathroom, change their clothes, put on their shoes, and put on their coat on their own.  My 4 year old may not be in Kindergarten yet, but he already knows all of this too.  Parents need to step up and take responsibility!