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Cardinal Egan Criticized for Retracting Apology on Sexual Abuse Crisis

Posted by on Feb. 9, 2012 at 5:33 AM
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Cardinal Egan Criticized for Retracting Apology on Sexual Abuse Crisis

Cardinal Edward M. Egan last September.Mel Evans/Associated PressCardinal Edward M. Egan last September.

In 2002, at the height of the outcry over the sexual abuse of minors by Roman Catholic priests, the Archbishop of New York, Edward M. Egan, issued a letter to be read at Mass. In it, he offered an apology about the church’s handling of sex-abuse cases in New York and in Bridgeport, Conn., where he was previously posted.

“It is clear that today we have a much better understanding of this problem,” he wrote. “If in hindsight we also discover that mistakes may have been made as regards prompt removal of priests and assistance to victims, I am deeply sorry.”

Now, 10 years later and in retirement, Cardinal Egan has taken back his apology.

In a interview with Connecticut magazine published on the magazine’s Web site last week, a surprisingly frank Cardinal Egan said of the apology, “I never should have said that,” and added, “I don’t think we did anything wrong.”

He said many more things in the interview, some of them seemingly at odds with the facts. He repeatedly denied that any sex abuse had occurred on his watch in Bridgeport. He said that even now, the church in Connecticut had no obligation to report sexual abuse accusations to the authorities. (A law on the books since the 1970s says otherwise.) And he described the Bridgeport diocese’s handling of sex-abuse cases as “incredibly good.”

All of which has Cardinal Egan, now 79 and living in Manhattan, drawing fire from advocates who say he has reopened old wounds.

“To many victims,” said Paul Mones, a lawyer who represented several victims of sexual abuse in New York, “an apology was critical to their being made whole, to feeling that, yes, the church knows that I was wronged and that this was a problem that was going on for decades. So if the statements are true, for him to come out and say he was wrong for the apology is more than tragic.”

During then-Bishop Egan’s reign in Bridgeport, from 1988 to 2000, dozens of people came forward with claims of sex abuse by priests, some of it having occurred recently. One priest checked himself out of a psychiatric center andcontinued to receive a stipend from the diocese after he had been accused by a dozen parishioners of abuses involving anal sex and beatings.

In the magazine, Cardinal Egan said, “I never had one of these sex abuse cases.” He added, “If you have another bishop in the United States who has the record I have, I’d be happy to know who he is.”

On Tuesday, as criticism mounted, Cardinal Egan, who retired in 2009, released a statement, reiterating that there had never been “even one known case” of sexual abuse of a minor by a priest in his tenure in Bridgeport or New York. “The suffering and the damage to innocent children and their loved ones that the sexual abuse of minors causes are horrendous beyond all expression,” he wrote.

Cindy L. Robinson, a lawyer whose firm represented more than 90 Bridgeport abuse victims, including ones who said they were abused as minors by priests during Cardinal Egan’s tenure, said she read the cardinal’s comments “with utter disbelief.”

David Clohessy of SNAP, the Survivors Network of Those Abused by Priests, urged Cardinal Egan’s successors in New York and Bridgeport, Timothy M. Dolan and William E. Lori, to denounce the cardinal’s “extraordinarily hurtful” statements in the magazine.

Archbishop Dolan declined to comment on Cardinal Egan’s comments, but said the cardinal had always “responded appropriately and with rigor” to sex-abuse cases. The Diocese of Bridgeport did not return a call seeking comment.

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Arroree
by Platinum Member on Feb. 9, 2012 at 5:45 AM

Ugh

jllcali
by LoyalAndCute on Feb. 9, 2012 at 8:34 AM
That's disgusting. What an asshole.
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spreadmywings
by on Feb. 9, 2012 at 9:43 AM
I was catholic...I refuse to take orders concerning my reproductive health by these people.
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kittn370
by on Feb. 9, 2012 at 11:05 AM
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Someone needs to strip them of their title of "RELIGIOUS INSTITUTION."  They are a political group, a special interest group, a BUSINESS - they are lobbyists and nothing more.

LauraKW
by "Dude!" on Feb. 9, 2012 at 11:12 AM
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 I've never hoped that someone was suffering from dementia before, but I hopw that is the case here.

lizmarie1975
by Bronze Member on Feb. 9, 2012 at 11:14 AM

Disgusting.

LindaClement
by Group Mod - Linda on Feb. 9, 2012 at 1:57 PM
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The idea that an apology has the ability to 'help' anyone, in any situation just confuses me.

Where comes this strange idea that anything in the past, present or future is 'fixed' by a statement of personal pain on the part of the perpetrator (or bystanders)?

How does whether or not the perpetrator 'hurts' have anything at all to do with what they did, or the effect of their actions?!?

The only genuine answer I can think of  to 'Oh, I'm SO sorry' is a rather vengeful 'good.'

An apology is just about the weaseliest, least helpful, least believable and most meaningless string of syllables anyone can cobble together on any subject.

Who gives a shit how the perpetrator feels?

Debmomto2girls
by Silver Member on Feb. 9, 2012 at 2:30 PM

 I agree.  I feel the same when people look to criminals for apologies.  I saw a program once where a murder victim's family wanted the perpetrator to say he was sorry? Who cares? If anyhting that tragic happened to me, I would have to seek peace within myself.  His "sorry" would have nothing to do with it. I find it strange.

Quoting LindaClement:

The idea that an apology has the ability to 'help' anyone, in any situation just confuses me.

Where comes this strange idea that anything in the past, present or future is 'fixed' by a statement of personal pain on the part of the perpetrator (or bystanders)?

How does whether or not the perpetrator 'hurts' have anything at all to do with what they did, or the effect of their actions?!?

The only genuine answer I can think of  to 'Oh, I'm SO sorry' is a rather vengeful 'good.'

An apology is just about the weaseliest, least helpful, least believable and most meaningless string of syllables anyone can cobble together on any subject.

Who gives a shit how the perpetrator feels?

 

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LindaClement
by Group Mod - Linda on Feb. 9, 2012 at 2:44 PM

Yes.

Okay, so the murderer says 'oh, sorry, didn't mean to do that.'

Then what? Someone comes back to life? They are not longer grieving and angry?

Very strange form of magical thinking, there.

Quoting Debmomto2girls:

 I agree.  I feel the same when people look to criminals for apologies.  I saw a program once where a murder victim's family wanted the perpetrator to say he was sorry? Who cares? If anyhting that tragic happened to me, I would have to seek peace within myself.  His "sorry" would have nothing to do with it. I find it strange.

Quoting LindaClement:

The idea that an apology has the ability to 'help' anyone, in any situation just confuses me.

Where comes this strange idea that anything in the past, present or future is 'fixed' by a statement of personal pain on the part of the perpetrator (or bystanders)?

How does whether or not the perpetrator 'hurts' have anything at all to do with what they did, or the effect of their actions?!?

The only genuine answer I can think of  to 'Oh, I'm SO sorry' is a rather vengeful 'good.'

An apology is just about the weaseliest, least helpful, least believable and most meaningless string of syllables anyone can cobble together on any subject.

Who gives a shit how the perpetrator feels?

 


JanuaryBaby06
by Member on Feb. 9, 2012 at 8:30 PM

79 years old..... idk. are the yeven sure he's working with a full deck anymore. i work in a nursing home with retired nuns and him taking it back 10 years later and denying anything happened may be what he beliefs now. he may have started the selective memory phase of dementia... dementia  effects people differently but i find that even many of the nuns i care for only remember things how they wanted them to happen and not nessarily how they did. I wouldnt take this overly seriously.

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