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Texas Woman Induced Labor for Dying Husband to Hold Baby

Posted by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 11:36 AM
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Texas Woman Induced Labor for Dying Husband to Hold Baby

Savannah Aulger will never have snapshots with her father on her first birthday, on Christmas or at a school event.

The only picture she will ever have of them is the one as sweet as it is heartbreaking. Hooked up to an oxygen mask at the hospital, the man she would call dad cradled her in his arms for 45 minutes.

He sobbed. He smiled. And there was no doubt that he loved her.

"He would talk to my stomach when I was pregnant," Diane Aulger said of her husband. "He was so excited for her."

The next day, Mark Aulger slipped into a coma.

The Aulger family of The Colony, Texas, had a lot to rejoice about in the weeks before Savannah's Jan. 18 birth, which was induced two weeks early so her father could hold her.

A home movie on Christmas showed a pregnant Diane Aulger, 31, handing out gifts to the couple's four children, the oldest of whom is 15. Mark, 52, who had just received the news that he had beaten cancer, played the guitar, providing a soundtrack for the Christmas morning festivities.

On Jan. 3, life threw a curveball.

Mark Aulger was admitted to the hospital, unable to breathe.

Doctors told him that eight months of chemotherapy had ravaged his lungs and diagnosed him with pulmonary fibrosis. "We thought he could get on steroid treatment and oxygen and live for years," Diane Aulger said.

But on Jan. 16, Mark Aulger found out those treatments would be fruitless. He had one week left to live.

"He was awake and alert, himself. I really didn't believe the doctor [at first]," Diane Aulger said. "The next day his doctor came in and said: 'When are you going to have this baby?'"

On Jan. 18, in a larger-than-normal delivery room, Mark rested in his bed, a supportive presence for Diane as their baby girl entered the world.

"The day she was born his oxygen levels were really high," Aulger said. "He held her for 45 minutes. Him and I just cried that whole time."

As Diane was recovering, Mark tried holding his daughter again the next day, but was only able to last one minute. "He just couldn't take it," Diane Aulger said.

The devoted husband and father of five slipped into a coma. "If she cried, he would shake his head and moan. I put her on him when he was in the coma a few times and his hand would move toward her," Aulger said.

On January 23rd, with his family by his side, Mark Aulger died in his hospital bed.

"The kids go on as if dad is really still here," Diane Aulger said. "Mark was a very funny guy. My kids still tell jokes how they would when he was around. He would have been a wonderful daddy to Savannah."


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katzmeow726
by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 11:37 AM
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Gah, why do I read these things.  I always end up crying.

cjsbmom
by Lois Lane on Feb. 12, 2012 at 11:38 AM
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I have mixed feelings about this. I sure hope that baby doesn't suffer long-term damage from  being induced early. There is always a risk when that happens.

AmmuJSE
by Ammu on Feb. 12, 2012 at 11:41 AM
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Well, the baby was induced 2 weeks early, which is allowed. You are allowed to deliver from 38 weeks on with induction. 

I induced my middle son for very selfish reasons, no harmful effects to him. 

I'm just glad that he got to spend a little time with his daughter before he passed. Happy memories in a very tragic ending. 

Quoting cjsbmom:

I have mixed feelings about this. I sure hope that baby doesn't suffer long-term damage from  being induced early. There is always a risk when that happens.



butterflymomss
by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 11:42 AM
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That is so sad, I'm glad he was able to meet their daughter though.
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cjsbmom
by Lois Lane on Feb. 12, 2012 at 11:43 AM

That is why I said I am mixed on this. I was induced, too, because I was leaking amnio fluid. I had a very rough labor and delivery. And well, CJ has issues. I often wonder how much of that was because of the delivery.

Quoting AmmuJSE:

Well, the baby was induced 2 weeks early, which is allowed. You are allowed to deliver from 38 weeks on with induction. 

I induced my middle son for very selfish reasons, no harmful effects to him. 

I'm just glad that he got to spend a little time with his daughter before he passed. Happy memories in a very tragic ending. 

Quoting cjsbmom:

I have mixed feelings about this. I sure hope that baby doesn't suffer long-term damage from  being induced early. There is always a risk when that happens.



sweet-a-kins
by Emerald Member on Feb. 12, 2012 at 11:49 AM
I can't imagine beating cancer, only to be told I had a week to live

Or be pregnant with 3 kids at home and hear this news

How awful

I'm very glad they had those first and final moments, it will be much solace

Just heart breaking!



alwaystheresa
by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 11:54 AM
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 OMG! This is so sad I am glad that he got to hold his baby girl. I couldnt imagine going through this.

sneffy014
by Bronze Member on Feb. 12, 2012 at 11:55 AM


Quoting sweet-a-kins:

I can't imagine beating cancer, only to be told I had a week to live

Or be pregnant with 3 kids at home and hear this news

How awful

I'm very glad they had those first and final moments, it will be much solace

Just heart breaking!


I agree! I just can't imagine. My heart goes out to the entire family.

AmmuJSE
by Ammu on Feb. 12, 2012 at 1:09 PM
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that's how like my mom was with my younger sister. She was born 6 1/2 weeks early because my mom was leaking amnio fluid and they induced her. Heather was born with apnea and had to be in the hospital for 18 days after birth. 

I on the other hand did not want my son to be born on the 6th of june. His due date was the 9th. So I had him induced on the 2nd of June (1 week early). I didn't want his bday to be 6/6/2006. 

Quoting cjsbmom:

That is why I said I am mixed on this. I was induced, too, because I was leaking amnio fluid. I had a very rough labor and delivery. And well, CJ has issues. I often wonder how much of that was because of the delivery.

Quoting AmmuJSE:

Well, the baby was induced 2 weeks early, which is allowed. You are allowed to deliver from 38 weeks on with induction. 

I induced my middle son for very selfish reasons, no harmful effects to him. 

I'm just glad that he got to spend a little time with his daughter before he passed. Happy memories in a very tragic ending. 

Quoting cjsbmom:

I have mixed feelings about this. I sure hope that baby doesn't suffer long-term damage from  being induced early. There is always a risk when that happens.





sweetmissy_05
by Member on Feb. 12, 2012 at 1:14 PM
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I would've had my baby induced too.  A baby after 37 weeks is considered fullterm.  Heck, my 2 girls came at 37 and 37 1/2 weeks and they were just fine.  So I would have done the same thing. 

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