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Gay Texas Judge Refuses to Perform Marriage Ceremonies

Posted by on Feb. 24, 2012 at 11:34 PM
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Texas Judge Tonya Parker cannot legally marry a woman in her state, so she refuses to perform any marriage ceremonies until there is equality. She finds it "oxymoronic" to perform a ceremony that cannot be performed for her.

Parker, an openly gay judge, told a group at a Stonewall Democrats of Dallas meeting Tuesday that when she turns a couple away, she uses it as an opportunity to teach them a lesson about marriage equality.

"I don't perform marriage ceremonies because we are in a state that does not have marriage equality and until it does, I'm not going to partially apply the law to one group of people that doesn't apply to another group of people," Parker said in a video of the Tuesday discussion. "And it's kind of oxymoronic for me to perform ceremonies that can't be performed for me, so I'm not going to do it."

A spokeswoman for the Texas State Commission on Judicial Conduct said the commission had no comment.

Parker is the first LGBT person elected as a judge in Dallas County and she is believed to be the first openly LGBT African-American elected official in the state's history, according to the Dallas Voice.

Parker described examples of discrimination in the courtroom that she has seen and been able to stop.

She once heard a case involving a man who allegedly molested a young boy in which a participant used the terms "homosexual" and "child molester" interchangeably.

"When a man molests a little girl, people don't call him heterosexual," Parker said in the video. "So, when this man molests this little boy, assuming [the] allegations to be true, you are not going to stand in my courtroom and call him a homosexual."

Another example she gave was the Texas Supreme Court's jury instruction that dictates that jurors cannot discuss cases with their husbands or wives.

"Well, I might have modified it a little bit," Parker said to her audience. "And I said, 'Do not discuss this case with your husband, your wife or your partner.'"

She said these are small ways of making her point but she believes it is important to go out of her way to do things that others in the LGBT community might not be able to do because they are not in her position of power.

"I want to help those folks to have dignity, in that moment that they are with me, to know that I see you," she said. "I see you."

Parker did not immediately respond to a request for comment from ABCNews.com. A court clerk said she was in court today.

Parker's goal as a judge is to "make sure laws are applied equally to everyone who comes to court and that we take the opportunity to put issues on people's radar's that might not otherwise be there."

Seven states allow gay marriage and Maryland would become next one if the governor signs recently passed bill, as he has promised to do next week.

http://gma.yahoo.com/gay-texas-judge-refuses-perform-marriage-ceremonies-171545413--abc-news.html

 

by on Feb. 24, 2012 at 11:34 PM
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SEEKEROFSHELLS
by Platinum Member on Feb. 24, 2012 at 11:40 PM

 Now that's interesting. I can't blame her, yet something tells me judges have to follow the law don't they. I guess she choses not to perform this duty. She made a stand and with it a statement.

Tanya93
by on Feb. 24, 2012 at 11:41 PM

Judges don't have to perform marriage ceremonies in Texas.   It is strictly optional for her to do it

delilahsmom1177
by Bronze Member on Feb. 24, 2012 at 11:49 PM

good for her!

jllcali
by on Feb. 24, 2012 at 11:57 PM
When I read her name, I thought of you. (i don't know any IRL)

Quoting Tanya93:

Judges don't have to perform marriage ceremonies in Texas.   It is strictly optional for her to do it

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NightPhoenix
by Member on Feb. 25, 2012 at 12:43 AM
This just made my week! Thanks for sharing. :)
I can't wait to see how the bigots respond. Especially when they always cry about churches/judges being forced to marry gay people.
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wickedfiress
by Kellie on Feb. 25, 2012 at 1:46 AM
:)
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glitterteaz
by Ruby Member on Feb. 25, 2012 at 3:19 AM

love her!!!

AngiDas
by on Feb. 25, 2012 at 4:22 AM

Good for her! More gays need to take a stand like this. Especially in the movie and television industry .

LauraKW
by "Dude!" on Feb. 25, 2012 at 9:11 AM
I'm sure there are cries of Reverse Discrimination and She is just prejudiced against straight people.

Quoting NightPhoenix:

This just made my week! Thanks for sharing. :)

I can't wait to see how the bigots respond. Especially when they always cry about churches/judges being forced to marry gay people.
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wenchmommy381
by Wenchy on Feb. 25, 2012 at 9:27 AM

My father-in-law is a mayor of a small town; as such, he has the legal authority to marry people. He doesn't do it often, because he is a conservative Catholic and believes that religious ceremonies are paramount. He would not perform a civil union (which is legal in NJ, while SSM has been tabled for now) because he is personally against it. There is no obligation for him to do so- just like this judge.

Mayor Cory Booker of Newark is straight, and has made the same statement: he will not perform any marriage until everyone can marry.

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