Single mothers burdening their own parents with child care EDIT
Shouldn't people think ahead before having children about who will be caring for them while the mother/father is at work? Why do so many people think it is ok to burden their own older parents with THEIR responsibilities?
Yes, some people thought ahead and had something all planned out before having the child but then the plans fell apart for some reason. This thread is not talking about those situations.
Child Care Program Cuts Leave Working Poor Parents Struggling
SANTA ROSA, Calif. -- Every time she pulls away from her parent's house, leaving behind her 3-year-old daughter, Angelina, as she heads to work at a local hospital, Jenny Abundis wonders what will happen while she is gone.
She worries things will not go well.
Her father has cancer, which saps his energy and requires a regimen of shots that puts him in ill temper. Her stepmother suffers debilitating liver problems. Often depressed and ceaselessly overwhelmed, they must divide their attentions between Abundis' daughter and her sister's two little children, whose volatile natures reflect early years in a home beset by drugs and violence.
But even as nervousness gnaws at her, and even as she notices disturbing changes in her daughter -- curse words emerging in her limited vocabulary, a clinginess that was not there before -- Abundis says she has no choice but to leave Angelina in this arrangement.
Though Abundis' income qualifies her for subsidized child care, Angelina is among roughly 200,000 eligible California children who are stuck on a waitlist. For many families in the queue, the wait is effectively interminable, a veritable purgatory without end, the result of the aggressive state budget cutting that has defined the aftermath of the Great Recession.
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If a grandparent wants to watch the grandchildren then it OBVIOUSLY isn't a burden. This thread is about burdening grandparents with the responsibility, which is very different than having a willing grandparent watch the grandchildren.