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Do you agree with this list? 30 Things Every Woman Should Have And Should Know By The Time She's 30

Posted by on Apr. 26, 2012 at 11:33 PM
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30 Things Every Woman Should Have And Should Know By The Time She's 30

Turning 30: 30 Things Every Woman Should Have And Should Know


In 1997, Glamour magazine published a story titled "30 Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She's 30." The list, written by Pamela Redmond Satran, was so popular that women started emailing it around, misattributing it to various female luminaries including Maya Angelou and Hillary Clinton. Noting what a phenomenon it had become, the editors of Glamour created a book around it, featuring essays from (mostly) famous women on each of the items on the list. The book, released today, includes meditations from Katie Couric on work and love, Portia de Rossi on accepting your body, and one from the list's original author, who is also a Huffington Post blogger, on how to live alone.

Because the list still makes us so, so happy, we asked Glamour's permission to reprint it here:

By 30, you should have ...

1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.

2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.

3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.

4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.

5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.

6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.

7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age -- and some money set aside to help fund it.

8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account -- all of which nobody has access to but you.

9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.

10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.

11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra.

12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.

13. The belief that you deserve it.

14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.

15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better.


By 30, you should know ...

1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.

2. How you feel about having kids.

3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.

4. When to try harder and when to walk away.

5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.

6. The names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town.

7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.

8. Where to go -- be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat -- when your soul needs soothing.

9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents.

10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.

11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.

12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long.

13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally.

14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.

15. Why they say life begins at 30


What's on your personal list of things to have and know -- and possibly do -- before turning 30?

by on Apr. 26, 2012 at 11:33 PM
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futureshock
by Ruby Member on Apr. 26, 2012 at 11:34 PM
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Especially this:

An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account -- all of which nobody has access to but you.

futureshock
by Ruby Member on Apr. 26, 2012 at 11:35 PM
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This is also very important and it worries me that many women here will not have this:

9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.

futureshock
by Ruby Member on Apr. 26, 2012 at 11:36 PM

Another important one:

A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better.

Stephanie329
by Platinum Member on Apr. 26, 2012 at 11:43 PM
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After reading some very sad stories about many unsatisfied women on CM, I think "how to have an orgasm" should be on the "need to know" list.

The things on the list are pretty resoanable to me. I agree
with future that the financial stuff is
especially important.
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stormcris
by Christy on Apr. 26, 2012 at 11:51 PM
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By 30 you should have one truly memorable perfect moment in time to remember during hard times and at least one secret that is only yours.

stringtheory
by Gold Member on Apr. 27, 2012 at 12:05 AM
Bump later...
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lauracb10
by New Member on Apr. 27, 2012 at 12:27 AM

While I love this list, I havent been able to accomplish all the things I should have by 30 (I am 31) I am working on it! I do most of the the things on the should know...

storkradio193
by Member on Apr. 27, 2012 at 12:32 AM

I agree with most of the list.  I don't have any ridiculously expensive that I bought for myself among some others.

http://www.cafemom.com/home/storkradio193

stringtheory
by Gold Member on Apr. 27, 2012 at 12:33 AM
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Dont worry, this was authored in 1997, 35 is the new 30. ;)

Quoting lauracb10:

While I love this list, I havent been able to accomplish all the things I should have by 30 (I am 31) I am working on it! I do most of the the things on the should know...

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Radarma
by "OneDar" on Apr. 27, 2012 at 12:38 AM
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 I also lack the "ridiculously expensive thing I bought for me..." but LOVE the post and all the rest is a big YES for me.

This is one I will put in my files and share with nieces, and dd, thanks for sharing it.

 

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