What does a mother say to her 38 yr old daughter who just got dumped by her slug boyfriend after 8 yrs?
Shortly after my daughter started dating this guy, then eventually let him move in with her. Her sister and I asked her why his first wife divorced him. She said it was because he didn't want children. Well, my daughter was already divorced herself after only two years of marriage and 30 yrs old. We asked her why she would get serious about a guy who said he didn't want to get remarried or have children. After all, she always wanted kids. He kept stringing her along. Then two years ago, she kicked him out and broke up with him. After about 6 months they started dating again, but at least she didn't let him move back in.
My other daughter and I have told her time and time again over the years that she was wasting her life waiting for him to marry her. He wouldn't come to any of our family events. He kept getting fired from job after job as an IT because he would get caught playing computer games at work. So most of the time she supported him until she kicked him out, then he had to get a job as a night time IT when no one would know if he was playing games. Then he finally took the Chicago police academy exam and passed. But supposedly his name hasn't come up yet to be admitted. But once again, he strung her along, saying they would get married when he could support her properly as a city cop.
Well, surprise, surprise, he abruptly dumped her Thursday night...no warning, nothing. She won't talk to her sister nor I about it. Other than saying "I'm so sorry this bastard hurt you", I just don't know what to say. It is so hard not jumping all over her and saying "I told you this would happen". Her sister, however, can get away with reminding her that we all tried to tell her what a slime ball he is, but she just wouldn't listen. So ladies, do you have any suggestions?