Do people who are survivors of abuse (any type) have less tolerance for other's weakness?
Alright I think perhaps I need to clarify I meant general weakness in people not others who are abused... more like the ones who always complain about the situation of their life but never does anything to try to improve the situation even though they could.
I like what you had to say about it.
Quoting andiemomo3:As a survivor, I don't have less tolerance for fellow sufferers. I have more empathy and willingness to help a fellow survivor.
I don't have tolerance for true weak people in general. I believe there is a huge difference between a weak person and someone who has been beaten ( and the etcs) down into submission time and again. The survivors who come out easily on top were usually very strong to begin with. Though, I do believe that some forms of pain make one stronger.
I think a true weak person is one with many faults not caused necessarily by abuse. Sometimes they are simply born with weaknesses or learn them at the hand of someone they admire. Lack of empathy, innate cruelty, disdain for others. These are some of what I feel are true weaknesses.
My abuse made me stronger, more aware of other's pain, more tolerant of those in pain and more willing to help others sort out their demons.
My abuse gave me a weakness that I cannot get rid of. A memory blackout issue. I don't get to pick and choose what I block out. I have days, months, years of memories that are simply gone. Until I learn how to get them back or control this, it's a weakness I have to live with and cannot help. Therefore, it's good for me to remember that some of those "weaknesses" are hard to control and/or get rid of.
Quoting andiemomo3:Quoting stormcris:thanks. Good on the clarification. Because I really wasn't sure. So I went at it from both angles.
I just have no tolerance for what can only be described as stupid people. Does that count?
I know that at one time I definitely had a low tolerance for other people that showed their weakness. Now I try to be more sympathetic even if I'm not feeling it. I wonder if that's going to change. Lately I've been haunted by my rape. I think it's because I have children and I am so fearful for them. I might have to go back to therapy.
Quoting stormcris:Alright I think perhaps I need to clarify I meant general weakness in people not others who are abused... more like the ones who always complain about the situation of their life but never does anything to try to improve the situation even though they could. I like what you had to say about it.
I have a very low tolerance for habitual complainers.
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