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Mrs. Sandusky~Is it possible she did not know?

Posted by on Jun. 17, 2012 at 1:56 AM
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I think it is impossible that she did not know of her husband's deviant interests. I would even suggest she is charged and held as an accomplice. I get really ticked at the spouses of these monsters. How about you? Think there is ANY way this woman "did not know"?

 

 

http://www.hlntv.com/article/2012/06/14/who-dottie-sandusky

Who is Dottie Sandusky?

NEED TO KNOW
  • Jerry Sandusky, a former Penn State football coach, is accused of raping and molesting children
  • His wife, Dottie Sandusky, may testify at the trial

The shocking details emerging from the Jerry Sandusky trial are raising a lot of questions about his wife of 46 years, Dottie Sandusky.

The prosecution could wrap up its case by Thursday afternoon, and the defense may begin presenting its case Friday. Dottie Sandusky is expected to testify in support of her husband, but she hasn't been in court with him so far because she's a potential witness. Witnesses aren't allowed in the courtroom until the judge permits them.

Dottie Sandusky has led a relatively private life, but here's what we do know about her: She is originally from Chattanooga, Tennessee, and married her husband in 1966. The couple couldn’t have children, so they adopted five boys and one girl.

The Sanduskys also fostered several children throughout their marriage. Dottie Sandusky also helped her husband start The Second Mile charity for underprivileged children in 1977. Prosecutors say Jerry Sandusky found his victims at The Second Mile.

In his autobiography, “Touched,” Jerry Sandusky wrote about his courtship with his wife.

“I was always very shy and backward; never one to be aggressive socially. Even though I spent time talking with Dottie a couple of times, I couldn’t bring myself to ask her out on a real date," he wrote. "It was a good thing my mother wasn’t as shy and backward as me. It was thanks to her, after all, that I ended up getting together with Dottie on a regular basis.

"She asked her to come to a softball game I was playing, and I ended up taking her home. Maybe I just needed that one little push because one thing led to another, and before long, we had become closer," he wrote.

In a 1982 interview with Sports Illustrated, Dottie Sandusky talked about starting The Second Mile.

"After we had taken in some foster children, we saw the opportunities that some kids just hadn't had. But we'd gotten to the point where we couldn't take in any more, so Jerry started thinking about starting a group home,” she said.

Since the scandal broke, she has released a statement declaring her husband's innocence.

“As the mother of six children, I have been devastated by these accusations. I am also angry about these false accusations that such a terrible incident ever occurred in my home. No child who ever visited our home was ever forced to stay in our basement and fed there. All the kids who visited us ate with us and our kids and other guests when they were at our home. Our children, our extended family and friends know how much Jerry and I love kids and have always tried to help and care for them. We would never do anything to hurt them,” the statement read.

READ MORE: Click here for Dottie Sandusky’s complete statement declaring her husband innocent

One accuser said Dottie Sandusky knew about the alleged abuse happening in her home, but did nothing to stop it.

The man known as Victim 9 testified before a grand jury that he was being assaulted by Jerry Sandusky in the Sanduskys' basement bedroom. He said he screamed for help, knowing Dottie Sandusky was upstairs, but no help came. We have not heard Victim 9's story in court yet, but he is expected to testify at by the end of the week.

 

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kaffedrikke
by Bronze Member on Jun. 17, 2012 at 1:58 AM
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Dont buy it.one bit. I think.the.wives of.these monsters.need to be held.accountable. If.Im.wrong.tell me.why?
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glitterteaz
by Ruby Member on Jun. 17, 2012 at 2:04 AM

She may have and she may have not known. If it can be proven she should be accountable. However, not all women married to child molesters know anything especially if it is not their own children.  Molesters are usually very good with children and well liked making it the perfect cover. Others give off the creepy vibe there is no run of the mill type for a predator.

Radarma
by "OneDar" on Jun. 17, 2012 at 2:10 AM
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Quoting glitterteaz:

She may have and she may have not known. If it can be proven she should be accountable. However, not all women married to child molesters know anything especially if it is not their own children.  Molesters are usually very good with children and well liked making it the perfect cover. Others give off the creepy vibe there is no run of the mill type for a predator.

 Gotta disagree with you here; although there is no exact "run of the mill" predator types;, IMO, a woman has to be incredibly daft to not suspect something amiss in her partner when there is this degree of predation happening.

I feel the same way about Andrea Yate's husband, and every other spouse who either knows or suspects their partner is up to no good or about to crack wide open. There is an obligation here, imo.

 

 

 

glitterteaz
by Ruby Member on Jun. 17, 2012 at 2:23 AM

But it is in fact just your opinion and is not in fact a FACT.  I know someone who had not a clue. Her mistake was she was a working mom. A very hard working mom.  She worked double shifts supporting her family. Her daughter hated her fathers replacement so it made it easy for him to do whatever he wished and make it look as though the daughter just wanted her dad back.  There is two sides to every coin. Millions are great at being bastards who never get caught master manipulators.

Quoting Radarma:

 

Quoting glitterteaz:

She may have and she may have not known. If it can be proven she should be accountable. However, not all women married to child molesters know anything especially if it is not their own children.  Molesters are usually very good with children and well liked making it the perfect cover. Others give off the creepy vibe there is no run of the mill type for a predator.

 Gotta disagree with you here; although there is no exact "run of the mill" predator types;, IMO, a woman has to be incredibly daft to not suspect something amiss in her partner when there is this degree of predation happening.

I feel the same way about Andrea Yate's husband, and every other spouse who either knows or suspects their partner is up to no good or about to crack wide open. There is an obligation here, imo.

 

 

 


Radarma
by "OneDar" on Jun. 17, 2012 at 2:25 AM

 Jah, that's why I said IMO. lol

Cute siggy btw!

Veni.Vidi.Vici.
by on Jun. 17, 2012 at 6:13 AM
I want to believe that she didn't know. : /
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rfurlongg
by on Jun. 17, 2012 at 7:12 AM
Denial is very powerful.
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MomofNikki2010
by Silver Member on Jun. 17, 2012 at 7:15 AM
Victim 9 did testify and I have to say, it just isn't feasible that she didn't know. That poor poor kid...
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lga1965
by on Jun. 17, 2012 at 7:56 AM

 I suspect that she knew and is afraid to admit that she knew, knowing she would be guilty of aiding and abetting a criminal. She would have to know. Or she is in denial. Either way, I agree that these women (or men) need to tell the truth to others and to themselves. In this case if #9 is telling the truth --and I believe him---then she is a hateful person.Can you imagine hearing a kid calling for help and ignoring it? That is sick and wrong.

stormcris
by Christy on Jun. 17, 2012 at 8:05 AM
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Many do not want to believe that anything is wrong and thus just do not see any signs at all. It is like men who have a series of affairs they do so and keep it from their family. Men even have other families and the wives never know. Sandusky admitted in his book he was the great pretender so it would not be hard to pretend to be entirely different in one area of life than another. Victim 9 stated he was in the basement if this allegation is true then do you not think that Sandusky would have made such an area sound proof. 

What you have to look at and realize is the parents didn't notice something was happening to these kids either even when they were making statements to the parents that should have raised alarms.

You only see what you choose to see many times. 

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