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Dad Beheads Daughter Because He Thinks She’s Promiscuous - Do you think women still face a double standard when it comes to sexuality?

Posted by on Jun. 19, 2012 at 6:35 PM
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Dad Beheads Daughter Because He Thinks She’s Promiscuous

Posted by Ericka Sóuter on June 19, 2012 

swordA man upset about his daughter's dating habits chopped off her head with a sword, then paraded it around their village in India.

Oghad Singh had accused his 20-year-old daughter Kanwar of bringing dishonor to the family because of her affairs with men. Police say he became enraged when he found out she had secretly eloped with one of them, forced her to return home, and then cut off her head a day later.

Kanwar's choices, including leaving her husband from an arranged marriage two years earlier, were tough for her traditional community of 1,000 to accept. Still, villagers were horrified by her father's actions and he later turned himself in carrying both the head and sword into the police station.

This story is appalling for so many reasons. When it comes to sexuality, double standards are common in every culture, the United States included. While boys are encouraged to sow their wild oats, girls are expected to suppress their sexuality. Even today, people often place women in just two categories -- virgin or whore. It feels as though we still can't openly express our desires and act on them without judgement. 

Of course, this particular story is an extreme case in another country, but it also speaks of a worldwide epidemic of violence against women. The fact of the matter is, in the US 1 in 4 women will be the victim of domestic violence. And almost one-third of female murder victims here are killed by a partner or family member. It's a shameful reality we just can't ignore.

Do you think women still face a double standard when it comes to sexuality?

by on Jun. 19, 2012 at 6:35 PM
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Shortiekt
by Gold Member on Jun. 19, 2012 at 6:36 PM
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Yes!

punky3175
by on Jun. 19, 2012 at 6:36 PM
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All anyone has to do is open a thread on CM where women talk about other women 'slutting it up' to see that women are definitely held to a different standard.
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EireLass
by Ruby Member on Jun. 19, 2012 at 6:38 PM
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If that's part of their culture, then that's just the way it is. I've never just put women in only 2 categories....virgin or whore. There's a very large grey area in between.

Shortiekt
by Gold Member on Jun. 19, 2012 at 6:40 PM
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Overall other people are too concerned with what consenting adults do behind closed doors.

Jesi_79
by Bronze Member on Jun. 19, 2012 at 6:41 PM

This specific case has nothing to do with society's standard for women and everything to do with a specific religion and their regard for women. 

activitymode
by Member on Jun. 19, 2012 at 6:41 PM
Yes.
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xLilBit22
by on Jun. 19, 2012 at 6:45 PM

 Yes i do


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annabl1970
by Platinum Member on Jun. 19, 2012 at 6:47 PM
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Of course.  The psycho would NOT cut off the head of his son, for the same "crime". Opposite, father probably would be proud he raised  "real man".

“When a man gIives his opinion, he's a man. When a woman gives her opinion, she's a bitch...

ashleyrenee24
by Ashley on Jun. 19, 2012 at 6:47 PM
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Do you think women still face a double standard when it comes to sexuality?

Yes. Another example would be that american gypsy show. The guys can go out and screw who ever he wants, but gypsy girls must remain virgins until they are married. The girls aren't taught anything about sex. She must stay "clean".

LauraKW
by "Dude!" on Jun. 19, 2012 at 6:47 PM
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This example isn't of a double standard. It is cultural, but more importantly one of the players is bat-shit crazy.
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