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I have been noticing more and more of people taking on the role of parenthood to the "Part time" extent. I'm a stay at home full time Mom. I used to work so I know what it's like to have a child or children in a daycare setting. I don't want you all to think that I don't know both sides of the feeling when I bring up this topic. Due to medical reasons and finally getting a grip at the financial aspect of actually working a full time job there are reasons my husband and I thought I should quit. I call it a Full Time Stay at home Mom because I no longer use day care, my child isn't in daycare or preschool ( unfortunately where we live preschool is based on income and well my husband didn't make the cut for her to go preschool - that being said it's kind of sad that you make enough money to be considered too much to quailify for your child to get early education.), and I don't work so I take it serioulsy about being here for my family if they need me.
I noticed yesterday evening my family and I were at "Target" shopping. I also have this strict rule that when we leave the house our 5 year old daughter must stay with us or at least one adult while we are shopping. We do not let her go off by herself. 1. It's dangerous, you really don't know about people these days. 2. She's 5. Enough said there. Well as were were rounding out of an aisle to continue further in the store. There were 2 children one around the age of maybe 7 and the other maybe 5. No mother in site. They were rolling/playing catch in the store. After almost tripping the woman in front of me ( which she had an infant in her cart also) my husband stopped the closest boy and said " You all shouldn't be doing that". No apology came from the boy only a shrug at his shoulders. My husband continued in a stern voice " Where's the parent or adult you're with?" The boy says, " She's at the hair salon." As my husband bit his tongue, we walked off and continued our shopping. As we reached the fresh grocery section he lets an employee know what's going on. The employee told him that she already had an complaint about it and when she went back the first time the boys ran off. When she went back there again the kids ran off from her again.
People want to complain about children these days. I understand that I read it everyday on people comments on yahoo, facebook and ect ... But really the start of a childs habit comes from the parent or parents. I know I have friends that are single mothers, I'm not downing the people that are working/ busting their butts out there for what they want their children to have. Everyone I know what's something better than they had when they were children and if you say you don't you're lying. It's not about how much money you make it's about the little things in life that make a difference. Watching a TV show with your child or reading a book or playing with toys are what you children are going to remember, not blowing them off to get your hair done. Most people, not all, that complain are part of the ones that aren't watching their kids. There's a time in your life when you give up that "me" time to be a parent. Being a parent means giving up alot of the "me" time for a while. Not saying you won't get it back, but there really is a time and place for that happen. If you can't get a sitter, or if your partner can't watch the child or children then maybe just maybe you shouldn't in this case get your hair done, or get the mani/pedi you wanted. I know boys are different from girls to entertain, but you could make a compromise. There's always an option, it's not life or death situation.
I know this is long, but I just had to get it out there. I know it won't make difference on people, but you never know. I take my part serioulsy, yes it aggrevates me when I see parents do the things they do, but I'm not in their shoes. I don't know what their life intales. All I can say is appreciate the time you have them and instill the manners and behavior you expect them to have. Without that children will keep being the way they are with no manners. Please and thank you, excuse me, Yes mam and No Sir, can go along way when speaking with people.