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Do you judge people based upon their responses to threads/posts?

Posted by on Jul. 12, 2012 at 1:02 AM
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I don't mean just their grammar and spelling skills, but on their ability to read and comprehend more that just the title but the original post as well.   Also on their ability to read and comprehend the responses they are quoting and replying to, etc., etc.

Posted by on Jul. 12, 2012 at 1:02 AM
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futureshock
by Ruby Member on Jul. 12, 2012 at 1:02 AM

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ilovecandy
by Bronze Member on Jul. 12, 2012 at 1:12 AM
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sometimes. i keep my distance from those those attack over responses instead of giving their opinion, like bringing out name calling and talking down to the other person....that i do judge for. other times if they see the title of the post and then respond to that without reading ill think 'what an idiot' but wont necessarily judge them on it if i see them comment later on on something

Sisteract
by Whoopie on Jul. 12, 2012 at 1:13 AM
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I can think of a couple who clearly have trouble reading information and determining what is pertinent to the topic at hand VS what is filler. I try to remind myself that not everyone has the same abilities and strengths andleave it at that- i could not do an advanced calculus problem to save my own life, so I understand and appreciate knowledge deficits.

I will more quickly label the person (in my mind) who is quick to make a personal, snarky remark all.of.the.time.

Must be hard to be so d*mn miserable everyday.

Naturewoman4
by Platinum Member on Jul. 12, 2012 at 1:20 AM
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I don't judge a person on those things you mention in your thread.  It's not about spelling, grammar or even if they are not understanding a post.  If I am interested in what I think they're trying to say, I will just ask them.  Where I judge is when a person can't debate a subject without having to throw out personal attacks, insults & use a 'cuss' word towards you.  I judge a person for lacking the skills of a true debate.  Where you have 2 sides to things & you say it how you see & how you feel.  Taking what you believe, then selling it or lay out facts/evidence, but without attacking the other person for having a different opinion. 

jessilin0113
by Platinum Member on Jul. 12, 2012 at 2:06 AM
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Of course I do. Everybody does.
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by Silver Member on Jul. 12, 2012 at 2:10 AM
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the only judgement i make is if they carry themself with respect.  like... those who curse at everyone and seem so irrational about every little thing or are super crass and inflexible/unwilling to look at something from a different perspective even if they still ultimately disagree when discussing intelligent thought provoking subjects... i dont really judge - but i stay away.

Woodbabe
by Woodie on Jul. 12, 2012 at 2:17 AM
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What else is there to go by? All we know of each other is how they present themselves here. How you type, speak and present your comments is a direct representation of who you are and how you want to be seen and judged.

annelauer
by on Jul. 12, 2012 at 2:45 AM
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Yes.  Like a couple others have mentioned, it is all there is on here.  That being said, if it is someone I care about I would not immediately dismiss them.  I also have been occasionally annoyed by responses that clearly demonstrate that the respondent has not read the other comments.

Ziva65
by Gold Member on Jul. 12, 2012 at 2:51 AM
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Not directly judge, but I may avoid. I sort of watch over time, and if they are consistently off I sort of wonder.  Bad grammar as a whole drives me nuts, but beyond  just a few spelling mistakes. I give a lot of space though, some people may be foreign, not good with a computer, etc.

I do however only tend to respond to clear posts/ responses, and as someone said above- if they tend to be attacking, I simply avoid those posters. I guess, I'd rather give someone a chance who is trying to communicate (assuming that they are trying...) than one who is negative and attacking.

toomanypoodles
by Ruby Member on Jul. 12, 2012 at 4:11 AM
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 Don't know if the word is judge...but I sure can see what type of a person is by reading their posts.

For example, I know you hate religious folks, FS and go out of your way to shoot them down and mock them every chance you get. 

;)

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