Pot-smoking moms tired of being judged by wine drinkers
Every night, Margaretâ€™s two boys fly into the house after sports practice and flip on the TV, while she races to the kitchen to get dinner cooking. â€śItâ€™s that tedious witching hour when I feel incredibly frazzled,â€ť says the Tennessee singer/songwriter mom of a 6- and an 8-year-old. But instead of pouring herself a glass or two of merlot, she heads to the standalone garage next to their house for a few puffs of Humboldt Kush, one of the four strains of pot she smokes seven days a week.
The drug helps her keep focus on the giant statue of popsicle sticks sheâ€™s building with her kids and relaxes her so she can get through the rest of the night without stressing. â€śIt can make folding a pile of laundry fun,â€ť says Margaret, 45, who asked that we not use her last name for fear of getting in trouble with the law. â€śIf I didnâ€™t smoke, thatâ€™d be three piles later in the week.â€ť
Still, she doesnâ€™t flaunt her marijuana use. Her sons arenâ€™t allowed to go into the room where she keeps the drugs locked up, and she hides it from other moms who would keep their kids away if they knew she smoked pot.
â€śBeing judged for doing something nontoxic and totally organic, enjoying a god-given plant, by moms who suck back two bottles of Chardonnay like sports drinks feels like s---,â€ť complains Margaret. â€śAny hypocrisy is hard to swallow. A drunk mother is pathetic and I often leave parties when I experience other mothers tying one on.â€ť
Margaret isnâ€™t the only pot-smoking mom tired of being judged by moms who religiously drink glasses of wine or â€śmommy juice.â€ť Recently, one mom stirred up some controversy when she admitted to parenting while stoned in an essay on Jezebel.com. Today, the group Moms for Marijuana International has more than 18,000 likes on Facebook.
â€śNo matter what you use, you shouldnâ€™t be judged if it works for you, youâ€™re productive, and you do no harm,â€ť says Diane Fornbacher, co-vice chair of the Womenâ€™s Alliance at NORML, the non-profit lobbying organization working to legalize marijuana. â€śMarijuana parents arenâ€™t perfect, but theyâ€™re far less imperfect than parents who use alcohol irresponsibly. Cannabis can influence people to be nicer to one another. You rarely find a story that says two stoners beat each other up outside of a bar.â€ť
Sharon Letts, a California mom who brewed Cannabis tea for her 16-year-old daughter when she was stricken with pain from fibromyalgia, agrees. â€śCannabis takes the edge off your day, in the same way wine does. But itâ€™s not addictive, it is habitual. It doesnâ€™t ruin your body like alcohol. I would much rather see parents using cannabis than alcohol â€” hands down.â€ť
Of course, pot is illegal and alcohol is legal. Letts and her daughter felt paranoid that the teaâ€™s smell would alert their neighbors. The price for getting caught is high. In some states, moms risk getting arrested and incarcerated, as well as having their kids taken away from them.
â€śIf I wanted to, I could sit with a glass of wine in one hand, a cup of coffee in the other, with a cigarette pressed between my lips, under the influence of prescription narcotics â€” all the while holding my child in my lap,â€ť says Serra Frank, founding director of Moms for Marijuana and mother of two, ages 9 and 12.
Is it OK for moms to smoke pot?
â€śEverywhere we look our families are bombarded with advertisements for these drugs. Our societies benefit from taxes placed on the manufacture and sale of these drugs. Yet, we canâ€™t make the decision to choose one of the most commonly used drugs, one that has proven to be much safer than all the rest? Thatâ€™s just not logical.â€ť
Whether a mom chooses wine or pot to take the edge off her day, how she uses the drug is important to consider.
â€śIs she smoking while taking care of an infant, in front of teenage children, or sharing it with her children?â€ť asks Nancy Day, an epidemiologist and professor of psychiatry and epidemiology at the University of Pittsburghâ€™s School of Medicine. â€śIt is also critical to know whether she is pregnant or not, as we know that marijuana use during pregnancy affects the central nervous system development of the fetus. Additionally, since marijuana is still an illicit substance, has she considered the message she is giving to her children?â€ť
Mothers should know that there are some health concerns for children specific to marijuana use, says Day, beyond the effects of prenatal exposure on the fetus. The children of moms who smoke are more likely to use marijuana and to start use earlier. And kids who start using marijuana before age 16 have a higher rate of psychiatric disorders, as well as other behavioral problems.
A mom should be concerned and look for help if she finds herself using marijuana more often than she used to, needs marijuana to function on a daily basis, chooses to smoke rather than doing other things, spends money on marijuana that might better be used for something else, or if she can't quit, says Day. The same goes for parents who use alcohol.
I have to agree with this. It gets frustrating when one chooses to use a natural, non-addictive substance that has never caused one death in thousands of years of use and being looked down on by people who use a variety of substances that cause much more harm. I never see the nasty judgemental tude towards moms who use rx meds or otc substances like alcohol, tobacco, etc that cause much more harm, on a regular basis.
Thank God......it's Friday!!!