Abortion helps family planning? Her daughter would never have been born if abortion wasn't a legal choice.
OK....This is the story of an acquaintance of mine. We were discussing how abortion restrictions would/could affect folks. She told me that her daughter would not have been born if abortion had not been a choice. Thought I would share her story here.
This is Not a scenario.
If it weren't for safe, legal abortion being a choice, my beautiful daughter would never have been born
Children were not in the cards for me, or so it would have seemed. I had long given up being a mother, when in my late 30's and after 15 years of marriage, my husband and I found out we were unexpectedly pregnant. We were thrilled and welcomed this child with everything we could offer. After her birth, we began to ponder what her life would be like. We took out insurance policies; named guardians, made a will, set up a college fund...all the things you could do.
But we realized that there were certain things we would not be able to offer her. My husband and I were both only children. Our daughter had no aunts, no uncles, no cousins. Both sets of our parents were in their late ‘60s and would not see her into her into adulthood. We were also older, already middle aged. She could possibly be alone in the world by the time she reached her mid 30s.
We thought about having a second child, mostly because we knew this was a possibility for us now and we were enjoying our surprise child so much. But also as a sibling to our existing child, someone who would hopefully be a companion and confidant to her. Someone who shared her history. Family she could have for life.
But by this point, I was into my 40's. I was still healthy and having a child at this age is no longer uncommon in our society. It felt right. But what if the child we planned to have was born with some chromosomal problem or defect that would need a lifetime of support and care? While the chance was small, we knew it was still a possibility. My husband and I would be able to take on this responsibility and expense, but it would eventually fall to our existing child, as the only family, upon our passing. Was that fair to her? Should we force her to adjust her own life choices to care for a disabled sibling? We decided that would not be fair or right.
I was very healthy, had no problems with our first pregnancy, and knew the chances of this happening were still very small. We decided to try because we knew we had options. We agreed we would have an amnio to make sure we were not going to bring a child into this world who would become a burden to our existing child, knowing that we have the legal right to end the pregnancy if that happened. That option was a crucial part of our decision to become pregnant again.
Fortunately, our pregnancy was once again easy and the amnio came back clear. Our second daughter was born a short time later. My girls are now in their late teens and are very close. I couldn't be happier. When I look at my beautiful, smart and amazing girl I know that the world is a better place because she is in it. While I was lucky to never have been faced with that dreaded decision of abortion, my amazing daughter would not have been born if that choice were not an option.
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