Every time my mother in law posts on my facebook page she ends with "Ly, Mom". This seriously pisses me off. She IS NOT my mother. I don't want people who don't know my family to think she is my mother. I only love the woman because I have to and even that is strained. But I don't want to hurt my husband by telling his mother to fuck off. She is a chronic pity-party-woe-is-me-pay-attention-to-me-because-I'm-dying-and-you'll-be-sorry-then hypochondriac hoarder who truthfully disgusts me. Any criticism at all will fuel her feel-sorry-for-me tank for weeks. I know it probably isn't worth addressing in the long run but it's totally disrespectful to my actual mother. So anyway, the point of my post is, how do you tell your mother in law to fuck off politely? Is there a polite way? Should I just deal with her and remember to pack extra wine for family gatherings? What would you do?
Oh my god, I wish I could tell you.
Mine invited herself to sleep over a couple of nights. This is NOT what I signed up for.
I have no advice, but I feel for ya.
She is your mother by marriage. I would leave it alone.
Pack the wine. My MIL is also a manipulator. Wine keeps me from screaming.
Can you talk to your husband about the situation? Perhaps he could address it with his mother.
I don't know, my mother in law could try my patience at times. When I send things to my daughter in law, I always sign my name NEVER refer to myself as "mom" to her. She's not my daughter, but if I had girls, I would like them to be like her.
I asked him again today but he really doesn't want her to call us crying every day for the next month - not because he doesn't want to hurt her feelings, but because he doesn't want to hear her whining either. I know I sound harsh but I'm so done with her. We - all her children and their spouses - we are all just done with her emotional manipulations. Sipping the large glass of wine my honey just poured for me...
Quoting EllysMom1005:
Pack the wine. My MIL is also a manipulator. Wine keeps me from screaming.
Can you talk to your husband about the situation? Perhaps he could address it with his mother.
I'm estranged from my mother but I'm making an effort - we're both making the effort - for my boys. My mother sees these replies from that dingbat and I know it hurts her. You sound like a good mil.
Quoting PestPatti:
I don't know, my mother in law could try my patience at times. When I send things to my daughter in law, I always sign my name NEVER refer to myself as "mom" to her. She's not my daughter, but if I had girls, I would like them to be like her.
"I love you because you're my husbands mother and I do really love you as my mother in law, but I do already have a mom so I would really appreciate it you would respect my wishes to only call my birth mother mom. I hope you understand."
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on Sep. 3, 2012 at 7:02 PM