:: update 9/20/2012:: Was she trying to be nasty?
This morning my son wasn't interested in any accessories. He was wearing denim shorts, an orange shirt with a dinosaur on it and sandals. I passed by the door of the teacher who made the comment, but she wasn't there. On the way back I saw her at her door and I smiled. She pursed her lips, looked at my son and shook her head from left to right. IMO The look on her face was unpleasant. I decided to take a moment to speak to the director. I waited patiently for 15 minutes. The director smiled at me and before I could explain the need for an immediate face to face he said "I know why you're here." I must have looked confused. I sat down with my son and he explained that another teacher over heard what Mrs. Nasty said to me about my son. He assured me that wasn't acceptable and it was inappropriate. I must have looked relieved. He asked me to be patient with him as he was looking into it. I feel so relieved that I didn't have to be the person to share what had happened. It's a very odd feeling to not know if your have been discriminated against, or in my situation my son was, and feel the need to justify how you feel to a person who wasn't present while the words were exchanged.
Thanks for all of the replies.
My daughter is older than my son. Bub loves his sister and happily mimics her. He wants his toe nails painted, so we paint them. He wants to carry a purse, so we let him. She plays with his trucks, soldiers and cowboy clothes, too. I can't be bothered to be worried about how other people feel about my son carrying a pink hello kitty purse, unless a stranger has the nerve to say something to me about it.
This morning one of the pre-school teachers said to me "Looks like someone needs some boys to play with." I smiled at her and took DD to her classroom. I asked my friend to sit with bub while I had a word with the lady who made the comment to me. I told her that her comments were inconsiderate and unwelcome and that I would be sending a letter to the director. I'm not REALLY going to write a letter. She immediately apologized.
Do you think she was trying to be an asshole? I can't tell if she meant it negatively or not.