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Cops: Teen mom dumped 3-week-old baby on roadside, claimed abduction

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I am very upset with this story right now.  Once again, you have a stupid woman (imo she is not a teen) who has a kid and then have another and throws the child away.  I will make some statements which I hope you don't take badly and hey if you wanna accuse me of being a racist, be my guest . I believe anyone can be a racist, even black folks, which I am.  I have a problem with the media trying to portray this poor white girl as a victim, which she isnt.  I hate it when the media portrays white girls as victims (the ones who kill, abandon, molest etc. their kids and they wouldn't do this unless they had a drug, alcohol, mental illness, post partum, was a victim of the same herself), but if the girl is anything else, she is a bitch, whore, etc.  The only exception according to the media is Casey Anthongy.  I can bring up a whole bunch.   She abandoned the baby and lied about it.  To me it says that she does not have post partum(note I believe there is such a thing as post partum depression, there is, I don't do diagnosis based on pictures of how people look or assume that women have it automatically once they give birth, nor do I believe every woman who wants to harm her child have this) , its selfishness and stupidity.  I hate the fact that many on another board (msn) are quick to bring up excuses for the selfish bitch, or to blame the man, whom I don't and from what I understand may be in the military.  They want to blame the family, and I don't.  I believe that crimes are equal opportunity and anybody can commit them.  

 Cops: Teen mom dumped 3-week-old baby on roadside, claimed abduction

By NBC News staff and wires services

A 19-year-old mother has been charged with dumping her 3-week-old daughter along a rural road for 12 hours and lying to police about the baby's whereabouts, prompting an Amber Alert.


Bond was set at $100,000 Friday for Kendra Meaker of Toulon, who was charged in Stark County Court with obstruction of justice and endangering the life or health of a child.

Meaker told a judge during a Friday court appearance that she had no job and no income, and said nothing else.

During the hearing, Sheriff Jimmie Dison told the court Kendra that showed up at his department Thursday morning to report that someone had snatched her 3-week-old baby, Mia Graci Thompson, out of the back seat of her car after she went inside the post office in Toulon, about 30 miles northwest of Peoria, to mail a package.

Illinois State Police issued an Amber Alert on Thursday morning.

Meaker, who also has an 11-month-old daughter, eventually changed her story and told Illinois State Police and FBI investigators she left the baby on a roadside, Sheriff Jimmie Dison said. The baby was on the gravel roadside from 8:30 a.m. to 8 p.m. Thursday as scores of police and volunteers searched for her.

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The two volunteer searchers who found the crying child and brought her to emergency workers.

Two volunteer searchers, Russell and Mary Jo Van Dran, said they heard a baby crying as they sat inside their truck and found the child in a culvert just off a gravel road outside Toulon.

"My wife was out of the truck like a shot, cut down there and we had a heck of a time getting the baby out of the grass. She had her fingers interwoven in the grass," Russell Van Dran told NBC station WEEK of Peoria, Ill. "We were just at the right place at the right time. God had a hand in this thing too."

Meaker's aunt, Sandy Hollingsworth of Marseilles, is acting as spokeswoman for Meaker's family.

"This has been a hellish 24 hours that our family has endured," Hollingsworth said.

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The Illinois Department of Children and Family Services said the baby was being cared for at a hospital. Meaker's 11-month-old daughter was with relatives.

A telephone listing for Meaker was disconnected. Meaker is next due in court Oct. 12.

Under Illinois' Safe Haven law, parents are allowed to relinquish custody of an unharmed newborn up to 30 days old to personnel at a hospital, emergency medical care facility, police or fire station.

Parents can give up their child anonymously and without the threat of prosecution for abandonment.

This article includes reporting by The Associated Press and NBCChicago.com.

 

by on Sep. 30, 2012 at 12:46 PM
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lga1965
by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 9:36 AM
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Quoting valhallaarwen:

 

Quoting pampire:

I have no idea if she has PPD or any other mental illness.  I care to some degree, but her state had a Safe Haven law.  She chose not to use it.  Charge her and let the court sort it out.  She shouldn't get the baby back.  Whatever her sentence it should come with a mandatory MIrena.


I don't believe that she has ppd or other mental illness, nor do I care, and as I stated before, regardless of the safe haven law, she should know better. Even a two year old knows the difference between right and wrong.  She does not care, she is selfish.  I hope keep her in jail forever.  Yeah, I'm being mean about this, but I would just like to go one day without reading about stupid women who do things like this and then the media acts like it's a shame that women must have something wrong with them to do something like this.  If men can be selfish and evil and cruel, guess what, women can be this way too. 

 This kind of story makes me so angry for all the reasons mentioned here . PLUS< there are so many women who want to have a baby, so many couples who want to adopt a baby, would be wonderful parents....and then a selfish, amoral, idiot like this one dumps her baby? Its a criminal offense,in my opinion,and she deserves jail.

 I don't want to hear any more excuses or alibis for women or teens . They either dump their kids or kill them ....no more excuses , no more "bleeding hearts" who gush sympathy and understanding, and no more "but she can't help it" or"She needs help, not criticism". Its criminal behavior,ladies.

Debmomto2girls
by Platinum Member on Oct. 3, 2012 at 5:10 PM
Quoting Snapdragon88:


Her parents failed her becsuse she obviously didn't have support at home. That would scare any young girl.

valhallaarwen
by Bronze Member on Oct. 3, 2012 at 8:54 PM


Quoting Bellarose0212:

I'm not saying that there should have to be laws to deter people from abandoning and harming infants. Clearly, in a perfect world, nobody would ever harm any child including their own.

However, the fact is, people do abandon and harm their infants and many times it is because they are desperately scared of being found out to have been pregnant for a variety of reasons (abuse, youth, ultra religious parents, affair situation, etc.). Or they are mentally ill. Or they are evil. It doesn't matter what they are, this happens. So, don't you think that because we, as rational citizens, know that it happens, we should take steps to stop it? Yes, most of us would never do this, even if we had a baby under less than ideal circumstances. But, that doesn't change the fact that it happens and if there is an alternative that people know about, at least some babies will be safe.

I do not know if the woman from this story knew about safe haven laws or if the woman from the other story you mentioned knew about them either. I know that some babies have been saved by them.

There are currently safe haven laws in 50 states, all enacted at different times. They are relatively new laws. The first states passed them around 1999 and the last states in 2008. "Since the first safe-haven law was enacted in Texas in 1999, all U.S. states, as well as the District of Columbia, have passed safe-haven legislation, and every state has reported lives saved through the existence of these laws. Due to less-than-perfect-reporting methods, we are unsure of the exact number but know that in the past decade, these laws have saved well over 1,000 infants." In Florida (my state), 180 babies have been saved from unsafe abandonment or harm since the passing of the laws. I think that every single saved baby makes the laws a success. I don't know how it is that you don't know when safe haven laws were enacted, but you know that they don't work and that things have gotten worse since they were enacted? I don't think that makes sense. Yes, there are still terrible cases. You aren't going to have 100% effectiveness, but they save some infants and could save more if knowledge of them was more widespread.

Still, safe haven laws have had relatively little press and most people don't know what they are. Especially young/uneducated/sheltered girls and women. More babies could be saved if there was wider knowledge of them. That's why these stories make me think there should be billboards, TV ads, radio PSAS, school talks, etc. about safe haven laws. They won't make a difference in every case, clearly, but they will make a difference in some.

What do you suggest to help prevent these abandonment and infanticide? I think safe haven laws are positive laws that have saved babies. The acts of abandonment and infanticide are ALREADY criminalized.

Yes, you can say, people should know better like I do. Of course they should and of course infants should never be harmed. But, the fact is people don't know better and this happens. So, we, as a society, should take measures to try to prevent it.

You think I am saying, "she didn't know the law, so that excuses her actions." That's not what I am saying. I have no idea if she knew of the laws or not. I am saying, that the laws help in some cases and would help more if more people knew about them.

 

Let me be clear that I do not care if she knew about the law or not, why couldn't she just drop the kid off at the hospital or with family or friends.  I am sick and tired of folks (not you) using the excuse of she didn't know any better or ignorance of the law and didn't know what she could have done.  I don't understand why folks depending on the government with a law in order to protect people.  Why do we need a law to do the right thing?  As I stated, I am 43 and I do not think the state of Louisiana had the law when I was growing up, but I knew what to do if I would have become pregnant oow.  To me too many people are quick to say the following:  she didn't know any better, she too young, she didn't know about the law, she may have a mental issue.  This is what I take issue with:  she's 19, she has another child, and she gets pregnant again and tries to dispose of the newborn. 

Don't get me wrong, I have no problems with the safe haven laws, but once again, why do you have to wait for a government agency to tell you what to do when it has been well know for years before these laws were enacted.  It is sad that you have folks on shows who are quick to say oh, well did she know about the safe haven law.  Personally, I don't give a damn if she knew or not, what happened to common sense and knowing right from wrong. 

Yes, it would be nice to have billboards, etc., but once again, do you think anyone would notice them?  Not trying to be a smart ass, but this is what I've noticed when I am out and about  riding the boss.  I've noticed that people do not notice anything, they are attached to their phones, they are talking and texting. They can do that quickly but they can't pay attention to almost being hit. by cars, buses, other people, lamp posts.  People are very disconnected. 

I will close by saying this, I almost had a heart attack (not really) when I watched Nancy Grace last night talking about the stupid 14 yo who gave birth and strangled the baby.  She said when she first heard the story, she was upset until she found out the details.  Now she is livid.  That is the type of bullshit that I am sick of, stupid people getting pregnant thinking it's a game and then killing the baby.  And honestly I wish she could be executed for that. 

    

 

valhallaarwen
by Bronze Member on Oct. 3, 2012 at 8:59 PM


Quoting Debmomto2girls:

Quoting Snapdragon88:


Her parents failed her becsuse she obviously didn't have support at home. That would scare any young girl.

One of my godchildren (she's 21) was pregnant and she didn't tell her mother (whom she lived with) that she was pregnant, but her mom knew.  She got pregnant for her first real boyfriend.  When I found out, it caused a big problem and her older sister threatened to kill the boyfriend (older sister is very scary, but normally doesn't go off that much, but this is her baby sister).  Then to add to that, the boyfriend would only marry my niece if she gave up the baby.  I called her and offered my support, asked why she didn't tell me, and told her that I would support her in anything she did, but there was no way she was giving up the baby for adoption because my family (read the females) would get her.  Well she had the baby, kept the kid (he's bad by the way) and they married. 

valhallaarwen
by Bronze Member on Oct. 3, 2012 at 9:04 PM


Quoting Lizard_Lina:

I'm sorry I find it oddly disturbing that you are more focussed on the color of the girl and how the media portrays her over the fact that a baby was left in a ditch. Who cares what color the mother was? It's an awful occurrance. And in a court of law the defense is not going to start with "look at this pretty little white girl".


The reason why I focused on the color is this, do not tell me that you have not seen the shows (Nancy Grace is very guilty of this, but she has gotten better) or any other stories where you will see the sympathy for a white female, regardless of the crime vs. black, poor white or other.  Even last night Nancy (despite the fact that she is upset that the 14 yo killed her kid) kept calling the 14 yo, beautiful or pretty little girl and she looks like a young Ashley Judd.  I don't care wtf she looks like, she killed her newborn.  Another thing is that I have read is that they think 19 is like 5 yo, and she didn't know any better.  But if it is a black 19 yo, it's diffeent. 

valhallaarwen
by Bronze Member on Oct. 3, 2012 at 9:10 PM


Quoting Proud2BWeird:

For the record, I doubt she didn't know about the Safe Haven law. I think she just didn't want to leave her baby with anyone, because she didn't want them to "judge" her. Either that or she craved the attention she got for claiming her baby was abducted. 

I don't give a flying fig what color/race/nationality/gender/sexual orientation/etc. she is, she is not the victim- being poor and unemployed does not equate victimhood. The only victim here is the baby, and the woman (she is an adult) should not have custody of either child. Who knows what she might do next?

I agree that the only victim is the baby, and not the mother nor do I care, but almost everytime a white firl or woman (with the exception of Casey Anthony once they discovered she was lying thru her damn teeth) she gets the benefit of the doubt. 

Here is an example: 

joy57111

I know that this is bad. I know that most of you are gasping at what she did. She is a nineteen year old. She is immature. And someone above had the harsh words of calling her a whore. Shame on all of you for passing judgement, and feeling all high and mighty. She needed help and it would seem no one was paying attention. So now both the mother and children suffer.

I noticed how the relatives now have one of the babies, but where were they before she attempted this awful action? Why weren't they helping her even if it were to take her to Social Services where she might have gotten some financial help. Where were they when she most likely was suffering post par-tum blues.

All of you should take a long look at whether or not you have reached out to help someone that is obviously in need of guidance, compassion and support. Shame on you for acting the judge and jury of this small family.

Lizard_Lina
by Silver Member on Oct. 3, 2012 at 9:28 PM
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I think the problem is that you need to stop watching Nancy Grace.


Quoting valhallaarwen:



Quoting Lizard_Lina:

I'm sorry I find it oddly disturbing that you are more focussed on the color of the girl and how the media portrays her over the fact that a baby was left in a ditch. Who cares what color the mother was? It's an awful occurrance. And in a court of law the defense is not going to start with "look at this pretty little white girl".


The reason why I focused on the color is this, do not tell me that you have not seen the shows (Nancy Grace is very guilty of this, but she has gotten better) or any other stories where you will see the sympathy for a white female, regardless of the crime vs. black, poor white or other.  Even last night Nancy (despite the fact that she is upset that the 14 yo killed her kid) kept calling the 14 yo, beautiful or pretty little girl and she looks like a young Ashley Judd.  I don't care wtf she looks like, she killed her newborn.  Another thing is that I have read is that they think 19 is like 5 yo, and she didn't know any better.  But if it is a black 19 yo, it's diffeent. 


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valhallaarwen
by Bronze Member on Oct. 4, 2012 at 9:15 AM


Quoting Lizard_Lina:

I think the problem is that you need to stop watching Nancy Grace.


Quoting valhallaarwen:

 


Quoting Lizard_Lina:

I'm sorry I find it oddly disturbing that you are more focussed on the color of the girl and how the media portrays her over the fact that a baby was left in a ditch. Who cares what color the mother was? It's an awful occurrance. And in a court of law the defense is not going to start with "look at this pretty little white girl".


The reason why I focused on the color is this, do not tell me that you have not seen the shows (Nancy Grace is very guilty of this, but she has gotten better) or any other stories where you will see the sympathy for a white female, regardless of the crime vs. black, poor white or other.  Even last night Nancy (despite the fact that she is upset that the 14 yo killed her kid) kept calling the 14 yo, beautiful or pretty little girl and she looks like a young Ashley Judd.  I don't care wtf she looks like, she killed her newborn.  Another thing is that I have read is that they think 19 is like 5 yo, and she didn't know any better.  But if it is a black 19 yo, it's diffeent. 


Nancy Grace isn't the only one who does it.  Others do it as well and it is in stories on the internet. And I don't watch NG as much as you think. 

merryvoice
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 9:51 AM
Exactly!

Quoting pampire:

I have no idea if she has PPD or any other mental illness.  I care to some degree, but her state had a Safe Haven law.  She chose not to use it.  Charge her and let the court sort it out.  She shouldn't get the baby back.  Whatever her sentence it should come with a mandatory MIrena.

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Stephanie329
by Platinum Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:22 AM
If calling her a bitch and a whore makes you feel better, then. I know about severe PPD - more than I want. It was hellish. Maybe she suffered and didn't have the coping skills that I have. She's still a criminal but if she's mentally unstable, then help is what she needs - and a tubal.( that's another post in itself)
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