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If you believe a woman should have her husbands consent before getting an abortion... sfag

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Do you think a woman needs her husbands consent for any other reproductive or pregnancy decision?

How about to get her tubes tied?

What if she wants a natural, no-intervention birth? Do she need his permission?

What if she wants a c-section? Or, flip that. What if he wants her to get a c-section? There are compelling studies showing that c-section is safer for the baby.

Can he forbid an epidural? Or require one?

It's his baby too, right? Doesn't he get the right to say how it is delivered?

by on Oct. 2, 2012 at 6:08 PM
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Sat.Wed
by Bronze Member on Oct. 2, 2012 at 7:01 PM
Yep, she is 8 walking with Knee Ankle Foot Orthothics, has a shunt (she has hydrocephlous) and is mainstreamed, she does NOT have control of her bowel or bladder but if you saw her she looks like your average kiddo


Quoting paganbaby:

Is she okay?

Quoting Sat.Wed:

SB=Spina Bifida





Quoting paganbaby:

Yeah...he sounds like a winner. Good thing you didn't listen to him!

Btw, what is SB?

Quoting Sat.Wed:

Once we found out dd had SB he wanted to stop all prenatal care and then tried to say the doctor was lying about my Protien S issue








Quoting paganbaby:

What did he want you to do??

Quoting Sat.Wed:

Are you kidding me? Uh NO! IF my ex had been able I would be DEAD










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paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Oct. 2, 2012 at 7:02 PM

I'm not an incubator. There's no reason why I should be forced to endure an pregnancy just so he can be a father. If I decided to continue with the pregnancy and chose adoption instead, that would be a different story. He could fight for his rights as a father then. But only then.

Btw, I completely disagree with the child support. Any parent should be able to walk away ie:sign away their rights, with no financial obligation.

Quoting ramonafrog:

I think it's a man's right to father his child. Women force men to be financially responsible (child support) when they don't want to be fathers... Why do women always have the final say so?


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thecoffeefairy
by Bronze Member on Oct. 2, 2012 at 7:02 PM
A loving couple should feel free to make those decisions as a team. But that's not always how things play out.
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thecoffeefairy
by Bronze Member on Oct. 2, 2012 at 7:02 PM
A loving couple should feel free to make those decisions as a team. But that's not always how things play out.
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paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Oct. 2, 2012 at 7:09 PM

That's great to hear! I know a little bit about SB and that it could be a lot worse.

Do you think she'll be able to live on her own later?

Quoting Sat.Wed:

Yep, she is 8 walking with Knee Ankle Foot Orthothics, has a shunt (she has hydrocephlous) and is mainstreamed, she does NOT have control of her bowel or bladder but if you saw her she looks like your average kiddo


Quoting paganbaby:

Is she okay?

Quoting Sat.Wed:

SB=Spina Bifida





Quoting paganbaby:

Yeah...he sounds like a winner. Good thing you didn't listen to him!

Btw, what is SB?

Quoting Sat.Wed:

Once we found out dd had SB he wanted to stop all prenatal care and then tried to say the doctor was lying about my Protien S issue








Quoting paganbaby:

What did he want you to do??

Quoting Sat.Wed:

Are you kidding me? Uh NO! IF my ex had been able I would be DEAD











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rayroe2
by Bronze Member on Oct. 2, 2012 at 7:12 PM
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 right this is half of what I was trying explain over in the other post to where she got the idea to start this post.

Quoting ramonafrog:

No, his opinions on birth preference are simply that... Opinions. A man has the right to father his child...something totally different.
Women force men to be financially responsible (child support) when they don't want to be fathers... Why do women always have the final say so?

 

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ramonafrog
by Bronze Member on Oct. 2, 2012 at 7:13 PM
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Sorry, I really don't want to get into any drama or debate... But, I think if a person has sex they know the possible consequence. Personal responsibility has become scarce. It's sad.

Quoting paganbaby:

I'm not an incubator. There's no reason why I should be forced to endure an pregnancy just so he can be a father. If I decided to continue with the pregnancy and chose adoption instead, that would be a different story. He could fight for his rights as a father then. But only then.

Btw, I completely disagree with the child support. Any parent should be able to walk away ie:sign away their rights, with no financial obligation.

Quoting ramonafrog:

I think it's a man's right to father his child. Women force men to be financially responsible (child support) when they don't want to be fathers... Why do women always have the final say so?


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Stephanie329
by Platinum Member on Oct. 2, 2012 at 7:22 PM
No to all that.
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paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Oct. 2, 2012 at 7:25 PM
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*Shrugs* That may be true but there are ways out of those "consequences" and many woman chose to go that route. Now if my husband/boyfriend disagrees with what I've done then he doesn't have to stay with me. Either way, It's my choice, not his.

Quoting ramonafrog:

Sorry, I really don't want to get into any drama or debate... But, I think if a person has sex they know the possible consequence. Personal responsibility has become scarce. It's sad.

Quoting paganbaby:

I'm not an incubator. There's no reason why I should be forced to endure an pregnancy just so he can be a father. If I decided to continue with the pregnancy and chose adoption instead, that would be a different story. He could fight for his rights as a father then. But only then.

Btw, I completely disagree with the child support. Any parent should be able to walk away ie:sign away their rights, with no financial obligation.

Quoting ramonafrog:

I think it's a man's right to father his child. Women force men to be financially responsible (child support) when they don't want to be fathers... Why do women always have the final say so?



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GotSomeKids
by Silver Member on Oct. 2, 2012 at 7:29 PM

I think at the end of it all it is the womans decision.  I would hope that as a society and individuals, we ensure that our husbands are part of the process.

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