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My children are not allowed to be Gay *Edit in red*

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Or straight for that matter until they're 13.

There's been a lot of negative talk around the house lately about sexual preference . Some neighborhood kids are accusing my 7 year son of being gay. (He likes to chase boys and pretend to kiss them) Then my younger two (7 and 5) have over heard my dd's friends talk about homosexual this and bi that. We've talked and talked but I feel like I'm just spinning in circles.

So I decided to nip it in the bud. I made the announcement last night that all kids are A-sexual, meaning they don't like anyone. And like religion (that's another subject we're going round and round with), you're not allowed to chose what you are until you're a teenager. The kids seemed satisfied and my 13 year old dd took that as an opportunity to announce that she was officially Straight and Christian!

We have some funny dinner table conversations LOL


I never said they weren't allowed to like anyone. I had my first crush at 5 (A neighbor boy) And my next big crush at 8 (My sister's bf Andrea) Did that make me Gay, Straight, or Bi? I didn't know or care. I was a kid.

The issue isn't me not wanting my kids to like other kids, but them feeling forced to identify their sexuality when they aren't ready too. My 5 year old can come home tomorrow and say she likes Suzie. I'll smile and say that's great. It doesn't make her a lesbian though. That is something that she has to decide when she's ready too and 5 isn't it.

by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:30 AM
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paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:47 AM

*High Five*! I've been getting back into my rituals again just to balance things out too. The kids go to church every Sunday, (I need the break) But I was worried they were having too much of one influence too.

Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

I actually think that's a good thing to do! With my children I've told them (religion wise) that they can "study" whatever they choose. We follow more of the pagan way but my family and DF's family are DIEHARD Catholics (The type that cram it down your throat). and My kids are easily influenced. But I won't allow them to be influenced so I've been practicing more but allowing them to go with my family so they can see both sides equally. They have been doing rituals, spells, etc and told my mom so now my mom has been taking them less and told them that since they are more interested in Paganism and Wicca that they may just want to stay on "my side" of "Satanism" they laughed and said, "It's the natural life, and Christianity was based off of Paganism anyways Nonnie!" (nonnie is what they call my mom).

I've had my oldest 12 do research on Paganism and Christianity/Catholism. So he understands. I want my kids to make a solid decision... unlike me when I was younger.


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EmilysMom2010
by Member on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:47 AM
I like to live in LaLa Land. My dd is only 2. Nothing will be serious till 16...in my head...;-)
Quoting paganbaby:

Tempting, but I have a brand new teenager on my hands who would rebel LOL

Quoting EmilysMom2010:

Bwahahahahahahahahahahaha

Sounds good to me, but I would have said 16.


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ms-superwoman
by Silver Member on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:47 AM

I really don't care what my son does at any age. As long as he's not hurting himself or anyone else, of course.

Lizardannie1966
by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:47 AM

Because while they all giggled with Mom, you're setting them up to eventually feel that they cannot come to you if they happen to like someone before that cut-off age group. Or find out that they may feel a certain way and will feel that they're going to upset you.

Be careful when doing this sort of thing. You don't want to close communication channels with your kids by simply setting up rules like this. Instead, teach them to cope with the ridicule, speculations and assumptions of other kids.

Setting up some sort of age barrier will not prevent them from feeling things for another kid before that minimum age.

Quoting paganbaby:

*Big smile*

But why??

Quoting Lizardannie1966:

Pagan, I think you're adorable and ALWAYS look forward to your posts.

But you might want to rethink this.



paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:48 AM

Thank you! :-)

Quoting lga1965:

 I don't see anything wrong with Pagan's post. :-)

WHy should she "re-think" it?


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dustinsmom1
by JENN on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:49 AM

 That seems reasonable. I don't think children know enough one way or the other to make such a life altering decision until they are older. 7 is definitely not old enough to decide you are gay or straight.

 I want my son to be happy and healthy.

Donna6503
by Gold Member on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:50 AM
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Why do people feel that their "gaydar" which they know doesn't work on adults, feels that it works kids
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Luv.My.Kidz
by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:50 AM

I'm still in the learning process so it's nice to learn with the boys.... Just wish I had books instead of having my kindle on my computer....

Quoting paganbaby:

*High Five*! I've been getting back into my rituals again just to balance things out too. The kids go to church every Sunday, (I need the break) But I was worried they were having too much of one influence too.

Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

I actually think that's a good thing to do! With my children I've told them (religion wise) that they can "study" whatever they choose. We follow more of the pagan way but my family and DF's family are DIEHARD Catholics (The type that cram it down your throat). and My kids are easily influenced. But I won't allow them to be influenced so I've been practicing more but allowing them to go with my family so they can see both sides equally. They have been doing rituals, spells, etc and told my mom so now my mom has been taking them less and told them that since they are more interested in Paganism and Wicca that they may just want to stay on "my side" of "Satanism" they laughed and said, "It's the natural life, and Christianity was based off of Paganism anyways Nonnie!" (nonnie is what they call my mom).

I've had my oldest 12 do research on Paganism and Christianity/Catholism. So he understands. I want my kids to make a solid decision... unlike me when I was younger.



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paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:50 AM

Ahhh...is there room for one in Lala land? *giggles*

Quoting EmilysMom2010:

I like to live in LaLa Land. My dd is only 2. Nothing will be serious till 16...in my head...;-)
Quoting paganbaby:

Tempting, but I have a brand new teenager on my hands who would rebel LOL

Quoting EmilysMom2010:

Bwahahahahahahahahahahaha

Sounds good to me, but I would have said 16.



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lga1965
by Ruby Member on Oct. 3, 2012 at 11:50 AM

 You're welcome. I did a little "edit" on it too. I think it was humorous. Right?

Quoting paganbaby:

Thank you! :-)

Quoting lga1965:

 I don't see anything wrong with Pagan's post. :-)

WHy should she "re-think" it?


 

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