My children are not allowed to be Gay *Edit in red*

Or straight for that matter until they're 13.

There's been a lot of negative talk around the house lately about sexual preference . Some neighborhood kids are accusing my 7 year son of being gay. (He likes to chase boys and pretend to kiss them) Then my younger two (7 and 5) have over heard my dd's friends talk about homosexual this and bi that. We've talked and talked but I feel like I'm just spinning in circles.

So I decided to nip it in the bud. I made the announcement last night that all kids are A-sexual, meaning they don't like anyone. And like religion (that's another subject we're going round and round with), you're not allowed to chose what you are until you're a teenager. The kids seemed satisfied and my 13 year old dd took that as an opportunity to announce that she was officially Straight and Christian!

We have some funny dinner table conversations LOL

I never said they weren't allowed to like anyone. I had my first crush at 5 (A neighbor boy) And my next big crush at 8 (My sister's bf Andrea) Did that make me Gay, Straight, or Bi? I didn't know or care. I was a kid.

The issue isn't me not wanting my kids to like other kids, but them feeling forced to identify their sexuality when they aren't ready too. My 5 year old can come home tomorrow and say she likes Suzie. I'll smile and say that's great. It doesn't make her a lesbian though. That is something that she has to decide when she's ready too and 5 isn't it.

[Tanya93-]

My son is not going to be allowed to be gay if he is going to wear some of that stuff Kurt does on Glee. But he wouldn't be allowed to be straight either with those clothes.

[paganbaby]

How old are the boys?

Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

I'm still in the learning process so it's nice to learn with the boys.... Just wish I had books instead of having my kindle on my computer....

Quoting paganbaby:

*High Five*! I've been getting back into my rituals again just to balance things out too. The kids go to church every Sunday, (I need the break) But I was worried they were having too much of one influence too.

Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

I actually think that's a good thing to do! With my children I've told them (religion wise) that they can "study" whatever they choose. We follow more of the pagan way but my family and DF's family are DIEHARD Catholics (The type that cram it down your throat). and My kids are easily influenced. But I won't allow them to be influenced so I've been practicing more but allowing them to go with my family so they can see both sides equally. They have been doing rituals, spells, etc and told my mom so now my mom has been taking them less and told them that since they are more interested in Paganism and Wicca that they may just want to stay on "my side" of "Satanism" they laughed and said, "It's the natural life, and Christianity was based off of Paganism anyways Nonnie!" (nonnie is what they call my mom).

I've had my oldest 12 do research on Paganism and Christianity/Catholism. So he understands. I want my kids to make a solid decision... unlike me when I was younger.

[Luv.My.Kidz]

12 & 7

Quoting paganbaby:

How old are the boys?

Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

I'm still in the learning process so it's nice to learn with the boys.... Just wish I had books instead of having my kindle on my computer....

Quoting paganbaby:

*High Five*! I've been getting back into my rituals again just to balance things out too. The kids go to church every Sunday, (I need the break) But I was worried they were having too much of one influence too.

Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

I actually think that's a good thing to do! With my children I've told them (religion wise) that they can "study" whatever they choose. We follow more of the pagan way but my family and DF's family are DIEHARD Catholics (The type that cram it down your throat). and My kids are easily influenced. But I won't allow them to be influenced so I've been practicing more but allowing them to go with my family so they can see both sides equally. They have been doing rituals, spells, etc and told my mom so now my mom has been taking them less and told them that since they are more interested in Paganism and Wicca that they may just want to stay on "my side" of "Satanism" they laughed and said, "It's the natural life, and Christianity was based off of Paganism anyways Nonnie!" (nonnie is what they call my mom).

I've had my oldest 12 do research on Paganism and Christianity/Catholism. So he understands. I want my kids to make a solid decision... unlike me when I was younger.

[paganbaby]

Yes it was,lol.

I really don't care what the kids identify as or when they do it. Everyone was just making such a big deal out of I had to do something, you know?

Quoting lga1965:

 You're welcome. I did a little "edit" on it too. I think it was humorous. Right?

Quoting paganbaby:

Thank you! :-)

Quoting lga1965:

 I don't see anything wrong with Pagan's post. :-)

WHy should she "re-think" it?

 

[paganbaby]

Or, taking the presure off of kids who don't want to or need to identify as anything at this age.

Nah...couldn't be that!

Quoting sweet-a-kins:

 Stifiling conversation, learning oppurtunities and sexuality until you are comfortable with your children expressing themselves...

umm...

 

NO

[paganbaby]

LOL!

Quoting Tanya93-:

My son is not going to be allowed to be gay if he is going to wear some of that stuff Kurt does on Glee. But he wouldn't be allowed to be straight either with those clothes.

[paganbaby]

Pretty much this.

Quoting dustinsmom1:

 I see nothing wrong w/agens post/ There is no reason children should be thinking about boys or girls or their "sexuality until they are a minimum of 13. This crap where people let 10 yr olds "date" is disgusting and setting up them for much more problems later on life. Pagan is suggesting they focus on friends, family, school work etc, rather then whos gay or straight or who "likes" who. I'm sure her kids are doing and will do just fine~! :)

Quoting Lizardannie1966:

Because while they all giggled with Mom, you're setting them up to eventually feel that they cannot come to you if they happen to like someone before that cut-off age group. Or find out that they may feel a certain way and will feel that they're going to upset you.

Be careful when doing this sort of thing. You don't want to close communication channels with your kids by simply setting up rules like this. Instead, teach them to cope with the ridicule, speculations and assumptions of other kids.

Setting up some sort of age barrier will not prevent them from feeling things for another kid before that minimum age.

Quoting paganbaby:

*Big smile*

But why??

Quoting Lizardannie1966:

Pagan, I think you're adorable and ALWAYS look forward to your posts.

But you might want to rethink this.

 

[romalove]

 I don't know how enforcing this rule makes a difference in your son's life, the one who is chasing boys to kiss them (innocently or not) and is dealing with kids calling him gay.

 

[futureshock]

Quoting Donna6503:

Why do people feel that their "gaydar" which they know doesn't work on adults, feels that it works kids

I think in this case it is the children who think they have the gaydar and Paganbaby is just nipping that in the bud.

Some neighborhood kids are accusing my 7 year son of being gay.

[melissam78]

I think it's a good thing for both religion and sexuality.I was raised Roman Catholic BUT (which is a whole nother story) I prefer to not practice any religion,with that being said,my kids know that once they are older they may choose their own preference both religion & sexuality,but is it something we openly speak about,only when it comes to respecting others choices