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If I don't spank my kids, they'll grow up and hit me. *Oh and I should have my kids taken away for the way I currently punish them*

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Question: Do you feel that push ups and pull ups are physical abuse? (I make the kids do an average of 5 to 15 push ups or pull ups depending on the "crime")

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Yes. That's absolutely abuse!

No...while I wouldn't do it, I don't think it's abuse.

Lol, not abuse and sounds like something I would do.


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My 7 year old son can be handful I know. He has Adhd and sensory issues. He's not perfect, neither am I but we try our best.

The other day, my oldest daughter was outside when our neighbor started talking to her.

Neighbor "Does your mom spank your brother?"

DD "No, she doesn't believe in spanking."

Neighbor. "That's not good." "If she doesn't start spanking and disciplining him now, he won't respect her and when he gets older he'll start hitting her too."

DD "Well she does make him to push ups and pull ups when he gets in trouble."

Neighbor "That's not good!" "That's physical abuse and she could get the kids taken away!"

Seriously lady??

by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 1:23 PM
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BuckeyezRule
by Bronze Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 8:59 PM
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Quoting AdellesMom:

I wouldn't do it. But, I don't think that it's abuse. I'm a spanking parent.



This. I also make the kids write and stand in the corner with their nose against the wall, along with taking away privileges. Works for us.

And that is weird that your neighbor was asking.
annabl1970
by Platinum Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 9:03 PM

I don't think it's abuse. But I wouldn't do it. I never spank my child.

lga1965
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 9:07 PM
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 LOL> OP, that conversation with the neighbor was funny. Some people. Wow. @@

Push ups are fine. While they are being disciplined, they are getting physically fit.

annas_momma
by Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 9:07 PM
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Not at all. I make my daughter jump in place, jog in place, hold her arms out palms up, do wall sits...things like that. It is a great exercise, allows them to burn out that extra energy, and they really thing about what they did in the process. It isn't physical abuse. If that were the case every school in the country should be sued due to PE. Lmao!

(My daughter has ADD)
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futureshock
by Ruby Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 9:35 PM

You have the weirdest neighbors, lol.

futureshock
by Ruby Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 9:38 PM


Quoting paganbaby:

First I have to say, I LOVE your avi!

Okay and yeah I can see that, but honestly the punishment has to fit the child. The exercise is mainly for my son. He has a tendency to lash out when he's over stimulated. Push ups and pull ups help him calm down and it's never done in a really negative way. After he proudly tells everyone how many he did/how strong he is and more importantly, is relaxed.

As rule you don't want kids to associate something good (exercise, reading, writing, eating vegetables) with something negative like punishment. But each kid is different and mainly as parents we just have to play it by ear.

Quoting Imamom4sure:

I dont think its a good idea to have physical activity be asociated with punishment any more than I think its a good idea for cookies to reward.  there are many studies that kids that are forced to write as punishment, end up hating or avoiding writing and become huge procrasinators at writing.  and although they can get over such a hang up, it not a good idea to think of it in terms of punishment, but instead as release, such exercise or write to blow off the steam that is causing the misbehavior in the first place.  I dont think its abuse, but I do think calling it or treating it as punishment is a mistake, instead think of it as kid needs to get more in control of impulses and get attitude shift and exercise is a big help in that.


You should be a politician, and I mean that in a good way.  I love this response from you.  It was eloquent, mature, and a great come back. :)


ChicMommy06
by New Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 9:38 PM
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I actually think that is a great alternative!!!! Wonder why I never thought of it you genius you. Lol but seriously, spank my children but I do think their is a certain age when spankings need to be replaced with another form of discipline and I think this would work perfectly for my 5 year old.
muslimahpj
by Ruby Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 9:52 PM

There was a little girl in my state who was killed because her grandmother made her run laps for punishment. She at times, would also make her carry cords of wood as she ran.

You know why she was made to run laps while carrying cords of wood? Because she ate candy on the bus on the way home from school. The girl was 7 or 8, I believe. 

Quoting paganbaby:

I like that! I wish we had a backyard :-(

Quoting FromAtoZ:

You live among some rather colorful individuals.

My kids have run laps in the back yard when needed.




Cullen.Girlie.
by Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 9:54 PM
This!! Everyone disciplines differently!! :)

Quoting AdellesMom:

I wouldn't do it. But, I don't think that it's abuse. I'm a spanking parent.
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Cullen.Girlie.
by Member on Oct. 5, 2012 at 9:56 PM
I remember that! But wasn't the kid fed poorly and dehydrated?? She was made to run for long periods of time and had no food or drink? Something to that effect? I may have read it wrong, or just don't remember fully!

Quoting muslimahpj:

There was a little girl in my state who was killed because her grandmother made her run laps for punishment. She at times, would also make her carry cords of wood as she ran.

You know why she was made to run laps while carrying cords of wood? Because she ate candy on the bus on the way home from school. The girl was 7 or 8, I believe. 

Quoting paganbaby:

I like that! I wish we had a backyard :-(

Quoting FromAtoZ:

You live among some rather colorful individuals.

My kids have run laps in the back yard when needed.



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