Father protests son being punished for defending himself against bullies
Randy Duke of Victoria, TX is picketing his son Max's school with a sandwich sign. It reads, "Bullying victims are punished here." Max was bullied by kids until he'd had enough. He'd been picked on for three years, and finally fought back.
Administrators say there's no changing their decision to send Max to an alternative school for 30 days. Now Mr. Duke stands vigil outside Cade Middle School on his precious time home from Afghanistan.
Max had made a paper airplane for a special needs child, and the bullies, who he said follow him everywhere, stepped on it. According to the news story, they went at it, and guess who got punished? Now Max can't attend marching band, the only thing that was helping bring him out of his shell, his father said.
Let's send a strong message to Cade Middle School Principal Lisa Blundell. Tell her the rules need to change. Bullies should be punished. Not their victims. Send email to Lisa.Blundell@visd.net.
Sorry I'm not able to copy a link to the story. It's just not working for some reason!
1) bullies are pre-adult terrorists. They don't respond to nor respect negotiation and discussion
2) If you fuck with me, it's going to come at a tremendous cost. Find another sucker who will tolerate this crap because
3) I've got enough self esteem that I resent the crap out of you thinking you can get away with this crap and I know I have every legitimate right to defend myself.
4) my parents were more concerned with preserving that self esteem than kissing the ass of some dumbass school administrator. Lesson - my parents loved me.
End of lesson
Quoting thecoffeefairy:
You misunderstand my point. It's up to the adults to teach these kids better skills. Both the victims AND bullies. What lesson are these kids learning by having hitting advocated?
Quoting kailu1835:A victim's responsibility is to their own safety, not to teach their bullies coping mechanisms. This sort of thinking is what is so wrong with our country. Do you think that rape victims, or domestic abuse victims should not fight back, and instead try to hug their rapist or abuser and tell them "I'm here for you, how can I help?" Somehow, I doubt it. Victims have every right to fight back if they are being physically harmed, and no child of mine will EVER be punished for protecting themselves, or putting themselves between a bully and their victim.
Quoting thecoffeefairy:
I could not advocate that. Bullies often come from a home of violence. Bullying others is a coping mechanism. It stops when they are given better coping skills.
Quoting kailu1835:Actually, it tends to stop the bullying. Bullies pick on kids who won't stand up for themselves. They're too weak to pick on the kids who are willing to put up a fight. Sometimes hitting solves everything.
Quoting thecoffeefairy:
Hitting solves nothing.
Quoting ButterMeUp:
I don't understand why he shOuld be punished? Bullies who run their mouths, deserve to get punched in that same mouth.
It's anti bullying month. They pull this shit???? Wow
I'm so sorry that happened to your SD. Bullies need to be kept away from the people they hurt. Like with a restraining order. Allowing them near their victims is too much in their favor. It's reinforcing to them to have that power.
And teachers shoulr denouce bullying behavior and talk about the appropriate behavior of the victim in front of everyone. Bullies are reinforced by their peers and the teachers who ignore the victims rights. It's sick.
Quoting JTROX:
It is ridiculous what happens to victims who stand up to their bullies. My sd was having problems with a girl at school. She had went to the principal for help. My husband, her father, had went and talked to the principal about the girl bullying my sd. A week after the last meeting the girl attacked my sd in front of the school waiting for the bus. My sd hit her back to defend herself. They both received the same suspension and had to go to court for disorderly for fighting. FREAKING RIDICULOUS!
Quoting Sekirei:This is why many victims of bullying do not come forward... because nothing happens to the little bastards that torment them and the victims get in trouble
This is what makes me so angry about bullying. They get away with it and feel untouchable.
Problem #1: which one of the children acted as a neutral recorder of all of the events which led up to this?
Running for the victim position (you guys are being SO MEAN to me!) is bullying. Sometimes, kids get picked on in retaliation. Sometimes, kids are willing victims, desperate for any kind of contact instead of being ignored. Sometimes kids tell stories about how they wanted things to be, not how they actually happened.
This is why adequate supervision is necessary.
This is why schools are failing our children.
Quoting LindaClement:Problem #1: which one of the children acted as a neutral recorder of all of the events which led up to this?
Running for the victim position (you guys are being SO MEAN to me!) is bullying. Sometimes, kids get picked on in retaliation. Sometimes, kids are willing victims, desperate for any kind of contact instead of being ignored. Sometimes kids tell stories about how they wanted things to be, not how they actually happened.
This is why adequate supervision is necessary.
This is why schools are failing our children.
W....T......F.....?
and what "generation" are you?
Would you go topless if you could?
- MentorMom1
on Oct. 9, 2012 at 7:18 PM