When you want your kid, or need, your kid out of your house. **EDITED***
EDIT: This is not my son. I only have daughters. This is about my great nephew. I thought perhaps some one might have a suggestion that I could pass on to my niece. Just to give an idea of how bad this kid is, I would never allow him any where near my home or my children.****
You have a 17 year old son who, for most of his life, has been difficult, at best. Was diagnosed with ADHD at about age 6.
From every thing to starting small fires at school and at home, to being extremely rude, crude, mean and disrespectful. Over the top.
You have tried every thing you can think of, from counseling to home life to school and even church. He sits in counseling, says nothing but laughs, telling the therapist he cares about nothing. Send him to prison, he will have meals provided.
Lately he is back to starting fires. Expelled from school. Cannot be trusted and has even burnt the paw of the family cat. Has threatened to kill you and then laughs, telling you he is almost 18, just wait until then.
You have had the police at your house many times. The therapist, doctors, every one tells you they are at their wits end.
Meds he has been on most of his life have been adjusted and such over the years. He refuses to take any.
You are completely at your wits end. You take him to a mental facility, asking that they please evaluate him, for his own good. They do. They interview him for an hour. They speak to you and your husband. His sister who is a few years older and out of the house.
They tell you there is nothing they can do, he does not appear to be a danger to himself of any one else. He is your responsibility.
What the hell do you do now?
"A bird doesn't sing because it has an answer, it sings because it has a song." ~ Maya Angelou