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Church is not a daycare!!

Posted by on Nov. 26, 2012 at 12:10 AM
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Question: How old is old enough to attend church alone?

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5 and up.

No younger than ten.

They at least have to be teenagers

I say over 18.


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Or so I'm told.

As many of you know, I am not a Christian. But I send my kids (6,7 and 13) to church all the same. I do it for a few reasons. One, I want them to be exposed to other ways of thinking and two, I like for them to socialise (my older two are home schooled)

Now the problem my neighbor has is, I don't stay at church with them. The church is amazing and lets me drop the kids off as long as they are 5 and older and pick them up later. This is a  Godsend for me (No pun intended,lol) I desperately need a few hours a week to myself.

Now my question to you is, how old is old enough to attend church without mom or dad? (Or any adult for that matter)

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mehamil1
by Platinum Member on Nov. 26, 2012 at 12:16 AM
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I have never heard of this being possible. What denomination is this?

Kylie819
by Bronze Member on Nov. 26, 2012 at 12:19 AM
At our church, kids 5th grade and under have to be signed in and out of Sunday school and a parent is supposed to be in the building. For elementary schoolers they ask for the parent's cell phone number, so I guess they could leave if they stayed nearby.
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Thelmama
by Bronze Member on Nov. 26, 2012 at 12:20 AM
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I think it depends on the child, but I'd agree that it needed to be a child that is school age.

paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Nov. 26, 2012 at 12:24 AM
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Nazarene.

Quoting mehamil1:

I have never heard of this being possible. What denomination is this?


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paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Nov. 26, 2012 at 12:25 AM

But isn't kindergarten and up considered elementary?

Quoting Kylie819:

At our church, kids 5th grade and under have to be signed in and out of Sunday school and a parent is supposed to be in the building. For elementary schoolers they ask for the parent's cell phone number, so I guess they could leave if they stayed nearby.


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paganbaby
by Teflon Don on Nov. 26, 2012 at 12:26 AM
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Oh of course. The whole point of church is learning and I doubt the babies in the nursery are really learning about God,lol.

Quoting Thelmama:

I think it depends on the child, but I'd agree that it needed to be a child that is school age.


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JMmama
by Bronze Member on Nov. 26, 2012 at 12:27 AM
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I would say it would be okay for the 13 year old but the other two are too young. I have a 7 year old and I can fathom dropping him off at church on his own. Of course, our church isn't at all geared for unsupervised children, so maybe that is it. I mean, I would drop them off for VBS or something but dropping kids off for church is a totally foreign concept for me. For us, we go to church as a family.

That being said. If the church doesn't have a problem with it, you don't have a problem with it and the kids are well behaved while they are there I don't really see the issue. I'm not sure it is any of your neighbor's business.
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muslimahpj
by Ruby Member on Nov. 26, 2012 at 12:27 AM
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I would never leave my kids unchaperoned at a church or anywhere for that matter, maybe the 13 yr old, but definitely not the other 2. They are two young to be there without a parent or some other family member. You never know what could happen to them.

Kylie819
by Bronze Member on Nov. 26, 2012 at 12:30 AM
Yes, they prefer if the K-5 parents are in the building, but they are less strict about it the older the kids get.

They have different systems for infant-5 and K-5.


Quoting paganbaby:

But isn't kindergarten and up considered elementary?

Quoting Kylie819:

At our church, kids 5th grade and under have to be signed in and out of Sunday school and a parent is supposed to be in the building. For elementary schoolers they ask for the parent's cell phone number, so I guess they could leave if they stayed nearby.


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kailu1835
by Ruby Member on Nov. 26, 2012 at 12:31 AM
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Jesus was very specific in his instructions on how children were to be treated.  He called them special and told his disciples not to keep them from him.  He didn't say "as long as they're old enough, let them come to me" or "as long as they're accompanied by a parent, let them come to me".  No.  He said: "Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven" (KJV).  Another version has it as "let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these (NIV).  Children should be allowed to go to church.  People who have a problem with them being dropped off and not being accompanied are being judgemental, something else God frowns upon.  The problem is with them, not you.

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